Ultimate Pleasure

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 3:37 pm

No matter how bad anxiety and depression has gotten for myself, I've realized there was always 1 particular thing that would make me feel good when I did it. I really really enjoy singing!

Singing has always been something I liked to do. Actually I would sing wherever I was and whoever was around...Until I moved away and people started to make fun of me. They started to make fun of me for another reason but after they started to target me...they would make fun of any aspect of me...including singing and so I didn't do it infront of people....but i still sung. I Had created in myself the idea that expressing myself was a very bad thing and ment alot of pain...but I never completely stopped singing.

About 2-3 years ago, I went to a karaoke place and I sang infront of people for the first time (well for the first time deliberately). I was a little scared but I was singing with someone else and it made it easier. It felt so wonderful that I could do that infront of others. I honestly feel great when I do it when i'm in the house by myself. I can be very expressive and as loud as I want. It can lessen my stress and my anxiety and even my depression.

With anxiety we tend to link many things to it...we link up fear with anxiety and then fear becomes linked up to anything else that we link anxiety to. Many things become scary and difficult to handle...even if they are seen as very easy to do things by the average person. We can use this idea of linking to our advantage. I'm actually learning this stuff from a diffrent source which doesn't really matter where it is. I'd like to share this stuff with you guys without worrying where it comes from.

If you can spend some time doing that 1 thing that can make you more positive...that thing you felt good doing when you were even a kid...You can put yourself in a state where you're open to link things to this positive state.

What is your ultimate Pleasure? Do you have something that makes you happy when you do it?

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:00 pm

Mike I also go to singing places at least 2x a week and I sing karoke. It has been great therapy for me. I also was scared at first, but now I enjoy going up there and people aplauding after im done. It builds up my self esteem

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:13 pm

ellenp

2x a week...that's awesome. I actually went last week and got really drunk and did it and I got alot of applauding too...this place I went you had to rent the room and so we were in a room with a few co-workers and one of them had a bunch of friends with him. One of my co-workers actually commented saying he was suprised that my singing was as good as it was.

This is where I get my passion from.

I wonder if I should take some singing lessons.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:13 pm

Hi Mike.

Maybe you should take the lessons. Who knows, we could be buying your CDs one day.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:05 am

Possibly eh. That'd be pretty cool.

By the way i just realized something...The relaxation cd has a component of breathing techniques in it. They do Inhale for 2 and out for 4...Really as long as you exhale for longer than you Inhale then it'll help. With alot of styles of singing you are doing just that...quick inhale and then exhail for longer. Just look at Whitney Houstin's Songs.

Mike