Fear of Bees anyone?
I can definitely relate to this type of fear. You see, it is so beautiful out today, and I took some time to take a nice book and read outside. But I saw this gigantic bee, and I jumped out and felt those panicky symptoms. Uneasiness, racing heart, feeling like something bad was going to happen if I don't get away from it. I even ran in the house! Summer's coming up and I don't want to be scared of going outside or going to the mail box (Bees tend to go there). I'm working on my 6 steps and trying to do the relaxation response, but when I still see a bee, I feel like I'm still very afraid. I mean I tell myself it's a part of nature and the worse thing that will happen is it will sting me. I think it's a fear I had since I was a child. Can anyone else relate to this? Maybe I should just keep working at relaxing and be patient with myself cuz then this fear of bees will pass. What do you think?
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I can absolutely relate to this. I'm only 19 but i have always been afraid of bees. But think about it, everyone has fears and if they say they dont theyre lying. You just need to give yourself permission to accept that you're scared and i think the 6 steps will definately help. Like you said, the worse that could happen is you get stung. If we have the capability to suffer and fight through anxiety/depression, i know we can deal with a bee sting. Good luck wiht everything
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Wow, I can totally relate to being afraid of bees. When I was a kid, I was bitten several times. The first was on the hand while I was outside eating fruit. The second time I was bit in the face when I was eating something else. This bee wouldn't die. My brother also was bit by bees so he is just as afraid of them as I am.
I have learned to keep my eyes open and watch them, but I don't run and get panicky anymore. I found out that if you just watch them and walk away without creating too much of a stir, they will leave you alone.
I think you just need to be patient and relax. Don't be afraid to go outside.
I have learned to keep my eyes open and watch them, but I don't run and get panicky anymore. I found out that if you just watch them and walk away without creating too much of a stir, they will leave you alone.
I think you just need to be patient and relax. Don't be afraid to go outside.
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Glad to know some can relate to this! John, I laughed when I read your comment at the end because it's true. If we can deal with anxiety/depression, we can definitely deal with anything! If it doesn't kill you, it will only make you stronger, right? Kayell, I remember some one once told me that if a bee comes near you, all it wants is to sniff you and then it will just go about its business, so what you said at the end makes a lot of sense too. I think i just need to practice more to relax and just let the bee come and go.
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It seems like a very natural thing to me to be cautious of a bee. We are raised to be afraid of them. Their sting hurts and some people are allergic to this sting.
Just breathe into the feelings and let yourself know that it's OK to react like this. Most people do. The feelings you experience will pass much more quickly.
Just breathe into the feelings and let yourself know that it's OK to react like this. Most people do. The feelings you experience will pass much more quickly.
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Hi Noell,
I can also relate to your fears.
I have always been afraid of flying insects, when I was little, I was going nuts when they flew around my head, and the irritated comments of the adults made it worse for me.
Today, I´m much more calm about that. I tell myself that bees are dilligent animals( and I love honey), they not genuinely aggressive, like, for example, wasps or hornets. They only sting when they feel threatened, but of course you know that.
I have been stung by wasps several times in my life, and once by a bee (my own fault, I walked over a flowering meadow without shoes...)
Being stung by a wasp is much more painful and the venom causes more severe pain, itching and swelling (=my experience).
As long as you´re not allergic and they don´t sting your throat or face, it´s only annoying, but not dangerous.
When a bee gets in my way and I don´t know how to chase if off, I simply blow against it, then it mostly flies away. (excuse me for my mistakes, English isn´t my native language)
As you see, panic is international!
Hope this helps a little.
Wish you a perfect summer without any sting from whatever may fly your way...
Susanne
I can also relate to your fears.
I have always been afraid of flying insects, when I was little, I was going nuts when they flew around my head, and the irritated comments of the adults made it worse for me.
Today, I´m much more calm about that. I tell myself that bees are dilligent animals( and I love honey), they not genuinely aggressive, like, for example, wasps or hornets. They only sting when they feel threatened, but of course you know that.
I have been stung by wasps several times in my life, and once by a bee (my own fault, I walked over a flowering meadow without shoes...)
Being stung by a wasp is much more painful and the venom causes more severe pain, itching and swelling (=my experience).
As long as you´re not allergic and they don´t sting your throat or face, it´s only annoying, but not dangerous.
When a bee gets in my way and I don´t know how to chase if off, I simply blow against it, then it mostly flies away. (excuse me for my mistakes, English isn´t my native language)
As you see, panic is international!
Hope this helps a little.
Wish you a perfect summer without any sting from whatever may fly your way...
Susanne
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Hello Suzanne!
Hadn't heard from you in quite awhile. It is good to see you back on here! And I must say that you sound pretty good.
I was really struck by your phrase: "flowering meadow". I envisioned a lovely sight. I think you do the English language justice!
Tell us about the scenes in your country. It might be soothing to someone. (me?).
It might help anxiety to hear about flowering meadows.
How is the job working out?
Have a good day.
MaryJane
Hadn't heard from you in quite awhile. It is good to see you back on here! And I must say that you sound pretty good.
I was really struck by your phrase: "flowering meadow". I envisioned a lovely sight. I think you do the English language justice!
Tell us about the scenes in your country. It might be soothing to someone. (me?).
It might help anxiety to hear about flowering meadows.
How is the job working out?
Have a good day.
MaryJane
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Hi cornflower,
thank you for your reply!
Well, I got the "flowering meadows" from my internet dictionary
Is that expression wrong?
Well, Germany isn´t so exotic, we have four seasons and different landscapes...
We have an allotment garden (also an expression from my dictionary), an enclosure with apple trees and flowers, with a little house made of wood or stone, some people also plant fruit and vegetables there. And I love it! My Grandparents bought it in the fifties, and since they got old, my Mum holds it. I grew up between Granny´s strawberry field and roses and carrots... It´s so peaceful and beautiful there, my refuge from April until October. As I live in an apartment in the city and don´t have a balcony, it´s a blessing. Many people who can´t afford a house in the suburban area have such a garden.
I walked barefoot over the yard covered with blooming daisies and stepped on a poor bee...
Thanks for asking for my job. I really suffered from my former co-worker and finally changed jobs within the same authority. Now I take care of files and folders for several appartments, quite simple and absolutely not exciting, but I have my peace of mind back. Thank God!! And I earn the same money like before.
Hope you are fine, too! If you have any questions about life in Germany, I will be pleased to answer them!
Susanne
thank you for your reply!
Well, I got the "flowering meadows" from my internet dictionary
Is that expression wrong?
Well, Germany isn´t so exotic, we have four seasons and different landscapes...
We have an allotment garden (also an expression from my dictionary), an enclosure with apple trees and flowers, with a little house made of wood or stone, some people also plant fruit and vegetables there. And I love it! My Grandparents bought it in the fifties, and since they got old, my Mum holds it. I grew up between Granny´s strawberry field and roses and carrots... It´s so peaceful and beautiful there, my refuge from April until October. As I live in an apartment in the city and don´t have a balcony, it´s a blessing. Many people who can´t afford a house in the suburban area have such a garden.
I walked barefoot over the yard covered with blooming daisies and stepped on a poor bee...
Thanks for asking for my job. I really suffered from my former co-worker and finally changed jobs within the same authority. Now I take care of files and folders for several appartments, quite simple and absolutely not exciting, but I have my peace of mind back. Thank God!! And I earn the same money like before.
Hope you are fine, too! If you have any questions about life in Germany, I will be pleased to answer them!
Susanne