Mike,
Thank you for you posts. I'm going to print out the last one about what are emotions are trying to tell us and put in on my fridge. I will use it as a reminder, a call to action when I'm having a 'negative' feeling instead of using those feelings as an excuse to do nothing. I love it! Thanks!!
I'm Sick of This Crap...I've had ENOUGH!!!
I am realizing that my moods and fears come in cycles where sometimes I feel very brave, confident and untouchable while other times I'm feeling insecure, vulnerable and weak. I think many things come into play with it:
1) My diet - I'll be careful with what I eat and when I'm feeling very in control sometimes I'll eat a lot of what I shouldn't (sweets, grains, etc.) that tend to trigger my issues.
2) My hormones - as a woman there are certain times of the month that my hormones play a huge part in the way I can handle myself in certain situations. I think this is true of men, as I have heard that testosterone levels fluctuate monthly in a very similar way.
3) The weather - I think the lack of sun or extreme cold has a big effect on my feelings - when it is cloudy I'm not getting the benefits of positive mood from the light, even if I am indoors.
4) Movement/exercise - when I am exercising regularly I am displacing a lot of that nervous energy, it really does work. Over the holidays I miss out on that a lot which usually results in my issues being more dominant.
So during these cycles, when I have had my weak moments I say "enough is enough!" and start eating better, exercising, etc. which always helps. But then when I am in control and confident I tend to get lax in the way I take care of myself. Then things will start spiraling down and I get mad and take matters into my hands again. With the hormones and weather, of course we have no control over, but we do with our thoughts, food and fitness.
So the key to this is, for me at least, is to always be consistent.
1) My diet - I'll be careful with what I eat and when I'm feeling very in control sometimes I'll eat a lot of what I shouldn't (sweets, grains, etc.) that tend to trigger my issues.
2) My hormones - as a woman there are certain times of the month that my hormones play a huge part in the way I can handle myself in certain situations. I think this is true of men, as I have heard that testosterone levels fluctuate monthly in a very similar way.
3) The weather - I think the lack of sun or extreme cold has a big effect on my feelings - when it is cloudy I'm not getting the benefits of positive mood from the light, even if I am indoors.
4) Movement/exercise - when I am exercising regularly I am displacing a lot of that nervous energy, it really does work. Over the holidays I miss out on that a lot which usually results in my issues being more dominant.
So during these cycles, when I have had my weak moments I say "enough is enough!" and start eating better, exercising, etc. which always helps. But then when I am in control and confident I tend to get lax in the way I take care of myself. Then things will start spiraling down and I get mad and take matters into my hands again. With the hormones and weather, of course we have no control over, but we do with our thoughts, food and fitness.
So the key to this is, for me at least, is to always be consistent.
Shif.
If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.
If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.
My perception of accepting is to accept the things you cannot change and when there is something you can change- to do your best and accept your own imperfections along the way.You also mentioned about accept life for what it is. What is your perception on acceptance?
I also think that at times, anxiety is acceptable under certain circumstances but by no means do I think that we are to live according to our feelings but rather the truths that are set before us.
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You're welcome. Like i said it did come from an outside source and I found it very helpful. I didn't think about this either but I think i'll put this on my fridge as well. Thanks for the idea.
Shifrah
Yes you're right, that we have these cycles and it is unfortunate but when we get to a place where things aren't as hectic, we take less time and effort to work on those things. In the Tao Shiatsu classes I take we learned alot of things but one of the most important things is that, we need to be greatful for what we have and feel good for our accomplishments but not stay satisfied with where we are. There is a saying, If we aren't growing then we're dying.
sunset34
I get confused with this. I mean in any situation you can do something to change it. Praying for it is even something that can bring a change.
My idea of acceptance is that we accept who and where we are in life, right now. We accept why we have the things (physical, mental, emotional) and the whole reality of it. It means not fighting it but not letting it rule our lives.
I think alot of people (I've been there too), have thought acceptance was to accept that whatever we have is what we have to live with forever and is unchangeable.
Mike
You're welcome. Like i said it did come from an outside source and I found it very helpful. I didn't think about this either but I think i'll put this on my fridge as well. Thanks for the idea.
Shifrah
Yes you're right, that we have these cycles and it is unfortunate but when we get to a place where things aren't as hectic, we take less time and effort to work on those things. In the Tao Shiatsu classes I take we learned alot of things but one of the most important things is that, we need to be greatful for what we have and feel good for our accomplishments but not stay satisfied with where we are. There is a saying, If we aren't growing then we're dying.
sunset34
My perception of accepting is to accept the things you cannot change and when there is something you can change- to do your best and accept your own imperfections along the way.
I get confused with this. I mean in any situation you can do something to change it. Praying for it is even something that can bring a change.
My idea of acceptance is that we accept who and where we are in life, right now. We accept why we have the things (physical, mental, emotional) and the whole reality of it. It means not fighting it but not letting it rule our lives.
I think alot of people (I've been there too), have thought acceptance was to accept that whatever we have is what we have to live with forever and is unchangeable.
Mike
Here is the link to the Letting Go thread which is designated for venting
http://forum.stresscenter.com/viewtopic ... 52&t=25087
You can follow me on Twitter, same username or check out my blog
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http://forum.stresscenter.com/viewtopic ... 52&t=25087
You can follow me on Twitter, same username or check out my blog
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You can't change reality like when someone dies in your family or someone suddenly gets sick with a disease. That is basically what I am talking about.I get confused with this. I mean in any situation you can do something to change it. Praying for it is even something that can bring a change.
We CAN, however, change our perspective or our reaction to life but we can't control everything that happens all the time.
Kind of like "when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade".
I don't find this confusing at all. To accept what we can, accept what we can't and make a decision to react in a more positive way.
We always have the choice to change what we don't like by the reaction we choose.
I agree-praying can bring change!
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