Finalizing a divorce

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 29, 2008 6:21 am

Hi There *D*, Thank you for the support. 33yrs. is a long time.I read your profile.You have been through a lot.Looks like you are doing ok now though.I don't miss her.I do miss the house,and our mutual friends.Nights are so lonely and that is when i give in and start drinking.Have no interest in doing any of the things i used to do. I have dated a few times,but i'm boring now.Did this program help you? How long does it take? I feel better talking to someone who has been there. Thank You,Louie

rose_thorn98 · Post by **rose_thorn98** » Sun Mar 30, 2008 12:50 am

Louie -

You are NOT boring...you are just reinventing and redoscovering who YOU are without those particular attachments. Remember - we are more than the sum of our relationships and our possessions. You just need to give yourself some time to adjust, heal, recover, learn, and grow. Don't expect it to be overnight - but don't doubt it will happen either!

Hang in there!

Blessings,
Dawn

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 30, 2008 6:02 am

Originally posted by BeckyV:
I don't have great advise, but I've been through a similar situation with a boyfriend.Stick to your values, and One day at a time. Use your cards for how to control the panic attacks.

Thanks so much for your encouragement - the cards are great and I am having some really good days - I get frustrated when I go back to being anxious and panicky but I know in time I can beat this. Thanks for the reply...

Heather

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 30, 2008 6:13 am

Thank you all soooooo much for taking the time to reply - Mary Wargo, Prv31Mom (Dawn), Becky V, *D* (Don), Louie Angelone, cuttingirl... All of you are very kind to offer words of empathy and support.

Today I picked up the stuff my husband wanted me to take as he is moving tomorrow. My sister came and helped and it was not as bad as I thought it would be. CERTAINLY NOT worth the anxiety and panic I had leading up to it. Actually facing him and not running from the panic and anxiety gave me a sense of empowerment that I am strong and can cope with anything. It may not always be pleasant but I can do it.

I love the Churchill quotes by the way.

Now I am going to relax and play with my cats for a couple of hours - I am going out to my best friend's birthday/going away dinner tonight. Something that would normally kill me with anxiety, but I am only moderately anxious and already wishing it was done and I was back home. PROGRESS HA HA HA!!!!

Here's a nice quote

<span class="ev_code_GREEN">Never discourage anyone who makes progress, no matter how slow.</span>

I have to remind myself that the above quote includes myself - I'm great at encouraging others, terrible at myself.

THANKS ALL for the caring words and support. So nice to know you are out there - I wish you all tons of strength and fun times ahead...

Heather

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 1:23 am

louie,
you asked if the program worked.yes it did work for me. it last approx 15 weeks but, you can take as long as you want..it in itself helps others and some like me becasue of a..dn' you just love it when you can not think of a word lol.anyway we need meds and when we take them it helps us.if i think of the word i will let you know ..you can get through this.with the skills and tools that you will get from the program you can go on your own journey finding happiness..if i can do it so can you and others as well. it takes hard work an commitment nd the outcome is wonderful. take care and good luck and all is not lost.be blessed.
don
HE never said it would be easy.but HE did say HE would be there for us.