Worry about others
Worry about others
After listening to the tapes, it seems like a lot of people panic because they are afraid of embarrassing themselves. This hasn't been my experience with anxiety. I am more afraid of losing those who are close to me. I am afraid that my family will get in a car accident or have major health problems and die. I'm afraid that my best friend will leave me and not care about me anymore, even though she has assured me countless times it will not happen. I have a hard time knowing that she is socializing with other people because I miss her and want to be there to help her if she is having a hard time. Does anyone else worry about losing people or being abandoned? How do you cope with these fears?
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yeattabake
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Re: Worry about others
hello jacmyster! yes i do think about loosing my love ones in a car accident and other tragedies and especially a car accident. I dont have panic attacks. Im 41 years old and i just got off zanax and suboxone and nicotine. I just recently purchased the program and Im almost done with the 1st session. Make sure you use the workbook,its good. more people really should get involved in this forum,its really helpfull and its a good way to help others. 
Re: Worry about others
yeattabake-
You mentioned session 1 and how the workbook helps. I need help because i dont feel like the first sessions homework helped me at all! And it gives me anxiety to spend more time on it. Thanks for listening
-Tiffany
You mentioned session 1 and how the workbook helps. I need help because i dont feel like the first sessions homework helped me at all! And it gives me anxiety to spend more time on it. Thanks for listening
-Tiffany
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Tiffany,
Going thru this program does cause anxiety, because like they say we are facing our fears head on. Your fear is something i think everyone can relate to, you are in no way alone with this type of consuming fear. And i think it's great you don't relate to the embarrassment worry! So what if they point out that as a top fear that doesn't mean this program isn't for you. But i know how you feel when i read chapter 1 and i could relate to the symptoms but my upbringing didn't have hardly any of the things they listed. I was like wait why can't i relate to that. But the heck with that I got a problem that is keeping me from living my life and so do you. Make this program fit you, you don't have to fit the program. Think of these as basic skills that fit all fears. Just because you think you can't live if you loose someone doesn't' mean it's true. You told yourself that's the truth but it's not. You are a survivor! I know you are. You just have to know that you already are. Who knows go thru the program they might hit on your subject. Or call their 1800 help line or post to the main forum their are a ton of people on that. You'll make your way to the other side of this thinking. This is your program, your life and your forum. Heck call them up and tell them they should speak more to your issues because you are not the only one. Something else you might find helpful is a book called "the worry cure" by robert leahy or search out other books that deal with your specific issue and use it along with your program. This you might find silly but this clip helps me, you might want to check it out. it's a clip from the last rocky movie on you tube. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1tXhJni ... re=related
Tiffany you will always get back up know matter what life throws at you.
(((hugs)))
carol
Going thru this program does cause anxiety, because like they say we are facing our fears head on. Your fear is something i think everyone can relate to, you are in no way alone with this type of consuming fear. And i think it's great you don't relate to the embarrassment worry! So what if they point out that as a top fear that doesn't mean this program isn't for you. But i know how you feel when i read chapter 1 and i could relate to the symptoms but my upbringing didn't have hardly any of the things they listed. I was like wait why can't i relate to that. But the heck with that I got a problem that is keeping me from living my life and so do you. Make this program fit you, you don't have to fit the program. Think of these as basic skills that fit all fears. Just because you think you can't live if you loose someone doesn't' mean it's true. You told yourself that's the truth but it's not. You are a survivor! I know you are. You just have to know that you already are. Who knows go thru the program they might hit on your subject. Or call their 1800 help line or post to the main forum their are a ton of people on that. You'll make your way to the other side of this thinking. This is your program, your life and your forum. Heck call them up and tell them they should speak more to your issues because you are not the only one. Something else you might find helpful is a book called "the worry cure" by robert leahy or search out other books that deal with your specific issue and use it along with your program. This you might find silly but this clip helps me, you might want to check it out. it's a clip from the last rocky movie on you tube. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1tXhJni ... re=related
Tiffany you will always get back up know matter what life throws at you.
(((hugs)))
carol
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Tiffany-
That other clip of rocky was a little short, here's a full clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uASVzkrE ... re=related . Don't take this too literal, your not blaming anyone else. It's just nothing hit much harder then loosing someone you love, but it's a hit YOU when and if it happens. You will take that hit and stand up again.
Sorry for all my rambling but your fear really hit a nerve with me. see your really not alone with this.
carol.
That other clip of rocky was a little short, here's a full clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uASVzkrE ... re=related . Don't take this too literal, your not blaming anyone else. It's just nothing hit much harder then loosing someone you love, but it's a hit YOU when and if it happens. You will take that hit and stand up again.
Sorry for all my rambling but your fear really hit a nerve with me. see your really not alone with this.
carol.
Re: Worry about others
Hi jacmyster! I too struggle immensely with abandonment issues. Mainly because at different times, both parents actually did abandon me, after their divorce; sort of shifted me back and forth. And looking back, there were no extravagant circumstances, they were just not very good at handling being parents for various issues.
So now I struggle with constant worry from random abandonment because it felt like my parents just 'changed their minds' sometimes...
It's something I need to understand why its there, but not let it ruin my life now.
I feel for me, I think I lack a certain internal value, that I am not worth keeping around, and therefore, think its only a matter of time for it to repeat...something I need to work on! keep with it! It's worth it!
So now I struggle with constant worry from random abandonment because it felt like my parents just 'changed their minds' sometimes...
It's something I need to understand why its there, but not let it ruin my life now.
I feel for me, I think I lack a certain internal value, that I am not worth keeping around, and therefore, think its only a matter of time for it to repeat...something I need to work on! keep with it! It's worth it!