Are we causing others to bring stress to us?

Paridygmn · Post by **Paridygmn** » Thu Dec 09, 2010 2:02 am

This is a question that occured to me today after an exchange with my friend last night. She went out and bought a Christmas Tree and some lights, put the tree together and decorated as much as she could, but needed more lights. She came to me and asked me if I would go to the store and get more lights. There were one thing I did not like about the situation; the way she asked me was more like a command than a request. I looked at her like she was an idiot since that was how I felt. At the end of the conversation, she said she would stop by the store and get the lights. What I could see coming down the road was resentment coming from her since she has contributed something so far and I have not. I can see that I have sent some stress her way by not discussing how I really felt and what upset me, so she is left feeling unappreciated and will bring stress back to me as a result. The best way for me to handle blocking that cirle of resentment is to talk to her about the way she speaks to me and let her know I will contribute in any way I can.

Has anyone else noticed something they have done to start or continue a circle of stressful events?

Paridygmn

Paisleegreen · Post by **Paisleegreen** » Sat Dec 11, 2010 12:56 pm

Oh, I know I'm causing stress...I'll be back.

Paridygmn · Post by **Paridygmn** » Sun Dec 19, 2010 5:21 pm

Earlier today I was at work and I used the 2 second in 4 second out breathing technique and just concentrated on my breathing and overall it turned into a good day for me. I would have to say that the only way I could cause bring others to bring stress into my life is by thinking about a stressful outcome. I heard it said that we become what we think about all day. So instead of thinking about my supervisors having a bad attitude towards me, since I notice on the days that went bad I was thinking repeatedly about one of my supervisors yelling at me about something that was not necessary. I think today was big for me in terms of how I felt about myself, how I get treated and the type of outcome in life I can expect for myself.

Paridygmn

Bob-o Bingo · Post by **Bob-o Bingo** » Wed Dec 22, 2010 3:09 pm

Paridygmn,

I have noticed that I cause stress whenever I open my mouth. My big fat mouth. I don't know if my gift of stress creation has also transferred over to my keyboard skills or not. Hopefully not.

I wonder if anyone ever felt like saying, "Stop the world... I want to get off!" I used to feel like that pretty often in the early 1960's (aging myself--LOL)

Paisleegreen · Post by **Paisleegreen** » Thu Dec 23, 2010 10:26 am

Since I last posted here, I've worked on what I contribute to my stress and worked on it and I've been able to fix things w/ family members by remaining calm and expressing myself and being more charitable. It has really made a difference to what has been happening to me in the last few days that are so much more positive and peaceful.

Paislee