Want to get pregnant but scared of pregnancy symptoms

kamb · Post by **kamb** » Mon Feb 01, 2010 12:54 pm

Thank you luvpiggy for you reply. It makes sence that I have probably learned this response from my Dad. I was just so young when it first happened that I don't remember. I have been doing some research and what I'm experiencing seems to be called vasovagal syncope, which is very rarely fatal in needle phobes like myself. I think that you have to have some other heart complications or something for it to actually kill you. I still can't help but be scared of something going wrong. Can the stress and passing out during doctors visits actually cause me to misscarriage? I would love to hear form other women with this phobia who have had children. How did you deal with it? Did it cause complications?

Also, to Stephanie, I have been taking the good days supplement packets for months now and they work wonders, I have even gone off my lexapro! I still have problems in high stress evironments or times, but for everyday general anxiety and depression they are great. Unfortunately it says that you cannont take them while pregnant

whatifgirl · Post by **whatifgirl** » Sat Feb 20, 2010 5:34 am

I am so happy to hear of someone else with the same condition that I have! I too have vasovagal syncope - I have had it since I was a child and I pass out if I see needles, get blood drawn, am sick etc... Because my body often reacts by passing out, I have developed a fear of any situations that may bring about this response. Pregnancy is a big thing on my mind these days and I am terrified. I am 31 and my husband and I really want to start a family. I am so scared of not feeling in control of my body. I fear that I will not handle the pregnancy well, that I will be too sick to work, that I will pass out the whole time, and that labor could be something that causes me to pass out and die. I too would REALLY love to hear from someone who has this same condition and has had children. I have talked to my physicians at length and they really think that I will be okay during pregnancy. I need to trust them - but I fear that they might not realize what labor could do to me. When I pass out, my heart stops briefly - supposedly a "normal" response for people with this condition. Doctors have said it will always start right back up again. What if it doesn't in my case? Right now, I think my anxiety is actually going to cause my pregnancy to be worse but I don't want to to take any medication while I am pregnant. Has anyone with this condition been pregnant and given birth? Any help would be so greatly appreciated - I am feeling frustrated with myself and can't separate what is actually my physcial condition from my fear of not being in control of my body.

Madeline19 · Post by **Madeline19** » Thu Feb 25, 2010 2:09 pm

Hi Everybody,
I am 19 and have not had sex yet. But i am just dreading the day when i do and get pregnant. I am extremely scared of needles aka the epidural and IV also i am more scared of throwing up aka the morning sickness. I am soo scared of what the pain will be like.

I want children terribly because i want to be as great a mother as my mom is to my sister and i. What do i do:( i am on lexapro so i would have to go off of that.And clognezapen.

Littlegraycat · Post by **Littlegraycat** » Sun Apr 04, 2010 6:58 pm

I think we can all agree that this thread is wonderful and comforting, so thank you, Libran, for starting it. I also am afraid of vomiting, and while I no longer seek out trash cans everywhere (juuust in case

), it remains one of my "worst case scenarios." So, like you and others here, the thought of pregnancy and its accompanying discomforts is terrifying! Morning sickness? Yikes! And afterward having a baby that WILL spit up and vomit periodically for years? Oh no!

However, the thing I keep reminding myself every time the worry over "what might happen" begins to take over and make me think that I should just bypass the whole situation is that fear should never keep me from doing something I want to do. Ever. It's been said before on this forum: we'll get through. The "worst case" may occur, but it won't last forever, and the ultimate payoff is worth the price. And there are things to help with the nausea, as mentioned. =) Plus, if you're like me, you can make a pact with your partner regarding diaper duty vs. vomit duty. Husbands/boyfriends are useful that way.

As for fear of doctors, needles, etc... unless you have something physically (or legally) barring you from it, have you considered a home birth with a midwife (advanced nurse practitioner)? That at least would let you stay out of the hospital.

Just my two cents. =)