I am nearly 18 weeks pregnant and still struggling with nausea. I was really looking forward to feeling better at 12 and then 14 weeks, but no luck so far! Also I feel SO emotional sometimes. I just got in an argument with my sister. She lives with my husband and me. While we were talking, I felt completely unable to be rational. I just got more and more upset. After she left I was so worked up that I dry heaved until I lost my voice. Sometimes I feel crazy. I have been sick and emotional for so long, I feel out of touch with who I used to be. I also feel like a burden to my husband and sister, because I am not able to do as much around the house as I used to, and with all of my emotions I need a lot of comforting.
My husband is awesome. He doesn't complain at all, but this is not how I expected pregnancy to be. (I am on week 4 of the program, which talks about how we set ourselves up with unrealistic expections.) I was really looking forward to being pregnant, and thought I would enjoy it!
Has anyone else struggled like this?
ALL PREGNANT PEOPLE WITH ANXIETY...
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starflower; I am so sorrry it is happening to you too. I have writen before, about my nausia, dry heaves, untill 4;pm every day I finaly just didn't eat untill affter 4;pm I couldn't keep any thing down before then any way. I heaved over smells too. untill the musels in my stomic got so week I nearly lost my baby at 7 months. My doc. put me to bed and drove to my house to give me vitamin B shots every other day for a week. I didn't even need one for my second child, 3 years later. My daughter went to her doc. affter the first week and got a shot it only took 1 for her.
Also as for the going crazy thing, I am reading Omega 3 oil is the reason for that, the baby is taking all you have, and you probably need to take a supplement to give him more, so you have enough for yourself. Hormoes do alot but not everything. Nutrition, has allot to do with it, some women, loose their teeth because they don't have enough calcium. Thank God the bably will take all he needs but you need some left over. Drink water, breath deeply, they have prenatle Yoga I hear, very good to stretch your musels. I wanted to have a happy healthy baby, and I did she was 9lb. but I wanted to have her naturaly, I practiced self hipnoces so the labor pains would't distreact me from beeing there for my babay, but None of it went the way I wanted it too. I ended up after 12 hours of 3 min. labor because the nurse didn't believe I was even haveing labor pains because I was in control. The baby started dying trying to get her 11 in. head out, and my cervex would not get that big. So they had to do a c-section. I felt so badly, I shoulded all over myself, I know the hormones started the migrains, but the condemnation I put my self through for not being able to have a child the normal way, kept them going on for days. It nearly kept me from haveing my wonderful son 3 years later, and then I had to quit. my deram of a baslball team, was gone.
Take care of your self you are working harder than your husband or your sister you are growing a child inside of you! it is not easy if it was men could do it. It is very heard and blessed that way by the Lord our God. Look pased this to the day you bring him in to the world, and give him to your sister to watch, while you get the houe the way you want it. I made the mistake of working through that time, the time I needed to be singing to my child, and reading to my child. letting her know "I loved her, more than these". As my grandmother used to say "the work will always be there", let the cob webs grow, let it all go. you are busy right now resting, and growing a baby. Take each day as a gift. things arent like you like them but God is in control, and every thing is OK. Your job is clear, take care of that baby, my dear.
Also as for the going crazy thing, I am reading Omega 3 oil is the reason for that, the baby is taking all you have, and you probably need to take a supplement to give him more, so you have enough for yourself. Hormoes do alot but not everything. Nutrition, has allot to do with it, some women, loose their teeth because they don't have enough calcium. Thank God the bably will take all he needs but you need some left over. Drink water, breath deeply, they have prenatle Yoga I hear, very good to stretch your musels. I wanted to have a happy healthy baby, and I did she was 9lb. but I wanted to have her naturaly, I practiced self hipnoces so the labor pains would't distreact me from beeing there for my babay, but None of it went the way I wanted it too. I ended up after 12 hours of 3 min. labor because the nurse didn't believe I was even haveing labor pains because I was in control. The baby started dying trying to get her 11 in. head out, and my cervex would not get that big. So they had to do a c-section. I felt so badly, I shoulded all over myself, I know the hormones started the migrains, but the condemnation I put my self through for not being able to have a child the normal way, kept them going on for days. It nearly kept me from haveing my wonderful son 3 years later, and then I had to quit. my deram of a baslball team, was gone.
Take care of your self you are working harder than your husband or your sister you are growing a child inside of you! it is not easy if it was men could do it. It is very heard and blessed that way by the Lord our God. Look pased this to the day you bring him in to the world, and give him to your sister to watch, while you get the houe the way you want it. I made the mistake of working through that time, the time I needed to be singing to my child, and reading to my child. letting her know "I loved her, more than these". As my grandmother used to say "the work will always be there", let the cob webs grow, let it all go. you are busy right now resting, and growing a baby. Take each day as a gift. things arent like you like them but God is in control, and every thing is OK. Your job is clear, take care of that baby, my dear.
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I recently found out I was pregnant and also lost my brother to a trajic car accident, I am so stressed and worried about having to go to the funeral and the thing that I am the most worried about is how my agoraphobia and panic disorder with going to the funeral will affect my unborn child. I have yet to see my doctor since I only found out about my pregnancy a week ago and the day I found out was the day my brother was killed. I am terrified of going to the funeral and am scared that I will pass out and have to leave when my mother needs me there the most. Any tips on how I can cope with this? And any tips on how someone with agoraphobia can deal with going to the doctor when Im too scared to even drive on my own or go into a store? Any info or tips would be greatly appreciated.
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Congratulations; Molly K
I know this is all scarry for you. It seems the world is moveing in on you, at a time when you need to be concentrating on making a baby.
Your Husband is your help mate in this. Here is whear He shines. Let him be the head of your family now, let him be you knight in shinning armor. The husband is the protector of his family. We always have to ask for what we need, You need him to be by your side through the funeral, and going to the Doctor. This is his job, you do not have to be alone in this, You do not have to be strong in this. You have to let him know what you need from him. This is his part in the family you two are building together.
I know this is all scarry for you. It seems the world is moveing in on you, at a time when you need to be concentrating on making a baby.
Your Husband is your help mate in this. Here is whear He shines. Let him be the head of your family now, let him be you knight in shinning armor. The husband is the protector of his family. We always have to ask for what we need, You need him to be by your side through the funeral, and going to the Doctor. This is his job, you do not have to be alone in this, You do not have to be strong in this. You have to let him know what you need from him. This is his part in the family you two are building together.
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I few weeks ago, I was in a really bad place with my anxiety. About a month ago I started taking Zoloft and that seemed to help a lot. On Friday, immediately after I wrote my last post, my husband and I learned that my father-in-law has lung cancer that has spread to his back and liver. Since then, my anxiety has increased again. I am feeling a lot of sympathy anxiety for my mother-in-law who is also an anxious person. I know she has a hard road ahead of her. I am also worrying that my husband's father will not be alive to meet our baby - his first grandchild. I keep picturing myself holding a new baby at his funeral. I am also having a lot of general anxiety about my work and the baby and the fact that I am still nauseous at 18 weeks.
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ONe of the reasons I took this course was to help others with their anxiety. What session are you on? you can help your mother in law accept what she can not change and recongnise it, that takes a big load off all our sholders. The baby is a great thing to have at a funeral, funerals, are as good as birthdays. The passing in to what comes next. I concider it a graduation, I am 58 and surprised to be this oled. the next event is looking better and better to me.
There are Viatam B's that you take sublingually (under the toung) so it goes right in to the blood streem that way it doesn't cause nausea, my neice used that and she got over her morning sichness.
A Baby is a promis! that it all goes on, a baby is imortality for our geans sort of speak. what a wonderfull time to be going out. while a new one is comeing in. Stay positive, and life will get more positive all the time.
There are Viatam B's that you take sublingually (under the toung) so it goes right in to the blood streem that way it doesn't cause nausea, my neice used that and she got over her morning sichness.
A Baby is a promis! that it all goes on, a baby is imortality for our geans sort of speak. what a wonderfull time to be going out. while a new one is comeing in. Stay positive, and life will get more positive all the time.
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hey pregers,
I think my anxiety really began hitting hard when i was pregnant. I probably had quite a few panic attacks during it also. I was worried like you are now, about my unborn baby, but she turned out so healthy, happy, carefree, loving (and determined) as ever. This little girl wasn't even colliky (sp?). So just to let you know she was the opposite of my worries. Just because we have this "thing" doesn't mean your unborn child will be hurt. Just some reassurance for you.
I think my anxiety really began hitting hard when i was pregnant. I probably had quite a few panic attacks during it also. I was worried like you are now, about my unborn baby, but she turned out so healthy, happy, carefree, loving (and determined) as ever. This little girl wasn't even colliky (sp?). So just to let you know she was the opposite of my worries. Just because we have this "thing" doesn't mean your unborn child will be hurt. Just some reassurance for you.
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starflower,
its hard when we cant control the things happening all around us. With my first child i was sick till my 5th month. Its really hard to deal with. I am currently pregnant with my second child and i am 5 1/2 months now. knock on wood i am over my morning sickness early htis time around. I am also on Zoloft. i stopped when i found out i was pregnant only to realize i was worse off because of it. I am now back on my meds. Some of us just need the medication and that is OK. Stay strong, i know you are dealing with lots of stuff right now but first you need to think about your baby and your future. Good luck. I will keep you in my prayers
Tammy
its hard when we cant control the things happening all around us. With my first child i was sick till my 5th month. Its really hard to deal with. I am currently pregnant with my second child and i am 5 1/2 months now. knock on wood i am over my morning sickness early htis time around. I am also on Zoloft. i stopped when i found out i was pregnant only to realize i was worse off because of it. I am now back on my meds. Some of us just need the medication and that is OK. Stay strong, i know you are dealing with lots of stuff right now but first you need to think about your baby and your future. Good luck. I will keep you in my prayers
Tammy
I 38 weeks pregnant or will be in 45 minutes. My anxiety and panic started when I got pregnant and it has been a long hard drive for me. Extremely difficult. First I didnt know what panic attacks were and started having them and really thought I was loosing my mind and dying. I thought that I would adventually go crazy and not even know who I was. I found out what was going on so it helped me feel better but I had to reassure myself everyday that I would be okay and it would all pass. I started going on websites like these to read what other people wrote and to see how everyone was feeling so much like myself, it was kind of like a medication. It would calm me. I would read and understand about this anxiety mess and panic attack mess and try to deal and cope the best way I could. I got so bad that I felt so many times and would go days feeling like I was not real or something. I felt like I was trying to figure life out and was scared to death thinking about everyday life in general. But I just never gave up and done many self talks and praying. I feel like when I have my baby that it will go away and I hope it does. I went through most of this pregnancy without medicine but 3 weeks ago I felt like it would take the edge off because I was excessivly worrying about everything and hoping that I dont start feeling bad when I go in labor because I dont want it to scare me. Panic attacks scare me and make me feel like I am about to die or disapear or something. I even sometimes can't even think right or focus while I am having one. I dont like to talk when I am having them. Well the medicine has seemed to help me in so many ways. It is zoloft 50mg and I dont want to stay on it I just needed something to relax me through the end of this since I have suffered terribly this whole time. I could have my baby anytme now and I got to the doctor on Tuesday so they may talk about being induced. I am already 3 cm dialated so I have sort of a head start:) I hope it goes fast and this is my second child so I hope it wont tak much pushing. I am still nervous and scared so if any one has any good words of encouragement then I would love to hear it. Does anyone else experience this?
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I just found this forum and am so glad. I am 36 will be 37 in a week and just started to try to get preg. It has taken me years to get to this point. Now I'm scared I won't be able to get preg but I know that this is just negative self talk and I have to stay positive. I have so many of the concerns that all of you are talking about and it is so good to not be alone with this issue. I know God will be good to all of us.