Being in the house

acarr3 · Post by **acarr3** » Thu Mar 05, 2009 7:49 am

One of the problems I have been having lately is anxiety about being in the house. It's really bad. I'm like scared of being in the house with my toddler by myself for extended periods now. There is absolutely no reason for it.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 05, 2009 10:16 am

Wow I can relate to you! I went through that for a while but it has gotten better. It was to the point where I would leave at 8 and take my son to do thigs and come back around 5. We were gone most of the day. It has gotten sooooo much better though. Please take some comfort in that. I had no idea why I didnt want to be home. I just didnt. It made me anxious. I still have anxiety just not near as bad as it was about 4 months after my son was born. If you ever want to talk just ask.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 05, 2009 10:38 am

omg i have so been suffering the same thing too these last couple of months, mine started after i had a scare with my eye, after that i started getting scary intrusive thoughts and now am not as comfortable being on my own with the kids or just on my own at home, its so horrible as i never had this before, i just want to go back to how i was! its seems like a really common symptom of high anxiety though from reading the posts. x

KevinL · Post by **KevinL** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 7:09 am

Mrsworry,

I can completely relate to that "I just want to go back to how I was feeling" but you know what? My issues are not a result of my baby being born. I had to remind myself that I have been struggling with anxiety for many years. I had to stop saying that "I wanted to go back to how I was, because even then I had anxiety I just avoided dealing with it. I was distracted by other things. But having a baby and being at home with a child day in and day out really does have a tendency to bring out things you have been struggling with for years, just didn't know it was that bad.

But what I have learned about being home with my little girl all day is that I had to find a daily routine that was suitable to me and my personality.
There is a statement I have been hearing Lucinda make in her program about how we are sensitive, intuitive, caring people and when those things are turned outward we are better parents, spouses, friends, etc. But when those qualities are turned inward, it makes us sick. I found that the time of day when my anxiety would be the highest was the morning. I have found that when my daughter and I get out to do something first thing in the morning and then come back home close to lunch time, my anxiety level is much lower for the day. I figure mabye it's something about my personality that makes that a good time of the day for us to get out. I feel like when I look at it that way, I am turning outward instead of turning things inward. If that makes since. It took me a while to figure this out and the program although I'm only in the second week has provided me the clarity to begin understand this

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Aug 16, 2009 3:37 am

Meetup.com may have a stay at home Mom group in your area. I found it has helped my mood throughout the day.

Even if we don't see anyone from the group, it is nice to get out of the house. My kids usually enjoy the break from home and have some fun too. They usually have park and library meetings that are inexpensive and fun for the kids. Just a suggestion that has helped me and my family.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Sep 25, 2009 4:08 am

I am new to the forum and just read this. Although it is an old post I wanted to say thank you all for sharing this.....the same thing happened to me also. I was a working single mom with my first child, then I got remarried and became a stay at home mom and had a second child and my anxiety went off the charts!!!! I was terrified to be home alone with my toddler..., the responsibility of marriage and cooking, cleaning, all the wifely duties...lol...but coming up with a routine and getting out has helped a lot. I couldn't get out for a while because I had a panic attack in the car and I became agoraphobic for a long time, but thankfully that has passed. It is so helpful to know I am not crazy and other moms are experiencing this and they are recovering. If I can ever help anyone out, please let me know!!! I am still suffering.....which is why i just ordered this program.....but am getting better every day.