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by Xophe
Mon Mar 10, 2008 5:33 am
Forum: Session 7 - Assertive Behavior: Speak Confidently, Gain Respect
Topic: Annoyed at my attorney - Suggestions?
Replies: 5
Views: 1809

Greets all, As an exercise in assertiveness, I've decided I need to speak with my attorney and ask him to be a little more assertive as we go through the procedure of buying a house. And honestly, I'm a little nervous about it. Here's the background – my girlfriend and I won a “lottery” of sorts for...
by Xophe
Thu Mar 06, 2008 10:22 am
Forum: Session 7 - Assertive Behavior: Speak Confidently, Gain Respect
Topic: Relationship (almost)
Replies: 6
Views: 2689

My reply is a little late, but your story interested me...I'm interested to hear what's happened since then,if anything? (BTW, what's the “jet set” mentality you referring to?) You're absolutely right – it is a protection mechanism. I'll go on a limb and quite unapologetically make a general stateme...
by Xophe
Tue Mar 04, 2008 7:50 am
Forum: Session 4 - Expectations: How to Expect Less and Get More
Topic: Synchronicity
Replies: 3
Views: 2043

Thank you! :) Most of them live on my hard drive...but I have a serial titled "The Sobibor Retrievers" published in a magazine called "The City Morgue", and another (whose title I don't even remember) published in an anthology titled "Fable, Fiction, and Fantasy".
by Xophe
Fri Feb 15, 2008 8:16 am
Forum: Session 4 - Expectations: How to Expect Less and Get More
Topic: Synchronicity
Replies: 3
Views: 2043

This is great - I had to share this in a new post. I've been contemplating my own fears about writing my first novel. From the coaching video, I wrote down the three things I most want, and that was one of them. So I took the video's advice and came up with a simple, immediate action item - get a bo...
by Xophe
Fri Feb 15, 2008 5:16 am
Forum: Session 4 - Expectations: How to Expect Less and Get More
Topic: More comes when you demand less.
Replies: 3
Views: 1619

This week's lesson has been right on the mark. Yesterday I wasn't completely agreeing with what I heard. I've always believed it's better to err on the side of over-expecting from yourself - “aim for the stars - if you fall short you'll hit the moon.” Lowering expectations sounded to me like selling...
by Xophe
Wed Jan 30, 2008 5:19 am
Forum: General Comments/Inquiries about
Topic: Sex
Replies: 46
Views: 13726

Joe - not to belabor the point, but obviously this is a complex issue, one with books and industries devoted to it and no shortage of opinions on the solution. For what it's worth, it sounds to me like you're doing just about everything you can to make yourself desirable to your wife, so don't take ...
by Xophe
Tue Jan 29, 2008 8:29 am
Forum: General Comments/Inquiries about
Topic: Sex
Replies: 46
Views: 13726

Good topic – thanks Joe. Dan Savage, you’re not on this list, by chance? Could use your help here…☺ I understand how you feel. I don’t know anyone, male or female, who’s satisfied with a sex life wherein their lover/spouse only wants it every other blue moon, and even then only out of a sense of nec...