Dealing w/setbacks
I feel like I have come so far in getting this anxiety under control yet every time it's that time of month for me, I start to get a little anxious again. It is nowhere near the level it used to be but I still feel like I am going backwards to some degree. I am doing all the positive self talk which is really helping but I still am in the mode of thinking that there must be something physically wrong w/me. I have been having sinus problems but seem to want to convince myself that I must have a brain tumor. That sounds so stupid even as I write it but I know someone out there can relate. So my question is, how do you deal w/setbacks, what do you do to get back on track asap, I hate these abnormal feelings, they make me want to go run and hide. Are we ever "cured"? Ugh, I feel so frustrated.
I intend that I live my life in tranquility and peacefullness, free of unneccesary worries and beliefs.
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jk55
Focus on how far you have come and the accomplishments you have made. I feel I have come a long way since I started the program but there are still days when I feel off. These are the days that used to lead to an attack or at least a great level of anxiety. But, I now have those skills from session two to deal with the situation. I have also been reading "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle and in it there is a great quote: "This, too, will pass." It lets me know that nothing is permanent. I need to appreciate the good times and know the bad will pass. Also, this takes time to change the way we think, and that is where our problem comes from and don't forget your breathing exercise.
Tony
Focus on how far you have come and the accomplishments you have made. I feel I have come a long way since I started the program but there are still days when I feel off. These are the days that used to lead to an attack or at least a great level of anxiety. But, I now have those skills from session two to deal with the situation. I have also been reading "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle and in it there is a great quote: "This, too, will pass." It lets me know that nothing is permanent. I need to appreciate the good times and know the bad will pass. Also, this takes time to change the way we think, and that is where our problem comes from and don't forget your breathing exercise.
Tony
Don't beat yourself up over set backs. Focus on what you have accomplished and how far you've come. One day at a time will get you to that place where calm and peace are the rule and not the exception. You need to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to see the setbacks as a yardstick and opportunity to practice the skills you are learning. Don't forget we've been programmed our whole life by our outer world experiences, people, environment etc. It takes a while to rid ourselves of the old moldy and outdated thoughts that no longer serve who it is and what we desire to be. I, too have read the New Earth and The Power of Now by Tolle. These readings along with this course make for a powerful motivation for inner change. You will arrive at a place where, though you may have setbacks, they will become fewer and less limiting, because you will have the skills presented here to change your thoughts and your destiny. Blessings to youOriginally posted by jk55:
I feel like I have come so far in getting this anxiety under control yet every time it's that time of month for me, I start to get a little anxious again. It is nowhere near the level it used to be but I still feel like I am going backwards to some degree. I am doing all the positive self talk which is really helping but I still am in the mode of thinking that there must be something physically wrong w/me. I have been having sinus problems but seem to want to convince myself that I must have a brain tumor. That sounds so stupid even as I write it but I know someone out there can relate. So my question is, how do you deal w/setbacks, what do you do to get back on track asap, I hate these abnormal feelings, they make me want to go run and hide. Are we ever "cured"? Ugh, I feel so frustrated.
Catherine A.
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After I heard Lucinda talking about making 15 minute worry time...it gave me an idea about my PMS. During my time of the month I've made a rule that I don't worry/think or make any big decisions for one week.
If I am PMSing I say, ok we're going to just take care of me this week. I'm not going to worry about anything else because I know I'll make a huge deal out of it and next week, it won't be. I know my emotions are crazy and I just say, "No big deal, just PMS" and I coast. It works so well for me and it actually feels like I am giving myself a week off.
Maybe you could try that?
If I am PMSing I say, ok we're going to just take care of me this week. I'm not going to worry about anything else because I know I'll make a huge deal out of it and next week, it won't be. I know my emotions are crazy and I just say, "No big deal, just PMS" and I coast. It works so well for me and it actually feels like I am giving myself a week off.
Maybe you could try that?
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Thank you all for your suggestions. I do forget to remind myself of how far I've come, sometimes it's too easy to let the panic take over. That is a good tip. I like the idea of not worrying about anything else for the week of PMS as well. Maybe focusing on what the real problem is instead of immediately going into panic mode will calm me as well. Thank you again for all of your suggestions.
I was really glad to see the subject of set backs and PMS, and once again am not the only one going through this!! This program and site is giving me my life back, Im just so thankful!
I've been having some set backs due to some pretty intense stress the past 2 months and then PMS came, and let me tell you I've been in the worst shape for a week. I've noticed this pattern the past 3 months. Do great for 3 weeks, then by week 4, well Im off again. I start having strange chest/breat pain, get fatigued, horribly irritable because Im fatigued, can't concentrate, and am just kind of in a fog. Then what do I do? Start getting anxious thinking Im having heart problems, though tests in December show Im quite healthy. Then I realize Im getting anxious and just go with it, and realize the hormones are the culprit.
I've been taking lexapro for a few months now, but I can't take it daily cause Im senstive to it. Every 2 or 3 days of 5 mg keeps me level, but not sleepy. It's helped me so much, Im finally a human again and have come so far since December.
I really like the idea of just giving yourself a week off when it's that time of the month! That's great! It seems like every month when the hormones fluxuate, I really have alot of extra important things to do. So Im going to look at my calendar and try to plan ahead and see what happens! I'll do my best to lighten up my schedule as much as possible. Im also thinking of looking into that YAZ birthcontrol pill. Im going to start doing daycare next month, and i really am worried about how hard those weeks will be during pms or should I say PMDD???
Has anyone tried the YAZ?
Kimmygirl.
I've been having some set backs due to some pretty intense stress the past 2 months and then PMS came, and let me tell you I've been in the worst shape for a week. I've noticed this pattern the past 3 months. Do great for 3 weeks, then by week 4, well Im off again. I start having strange chest/breat pain, get fatigued, horribly irritable because Im fatigued, can't concentrate, and am just kind of in a fog. Then what do I do? Start getting anxious thinking Im having heart problems, though tests in December show Im quite healthy. Then I realize Im getting anxious and just go with it, and realize the hormones are the culprit.
I've been taking lexapro for a few months now, but I can't take it daily cause Im senstive to it. Every 2 or 3 days of 5 mg keeps me level, but not sleepy. It's helped me so much, Im finally a human again and have come so far since December.
I really like the idea of just giving yourself a week off when it's that time of the month! That's great! It seems like every month when the hormones fluxuate, I really have alot of extra important things to do. So Im going to look at my calendar and try to plan ahead and see what happens! I'll do my best to lighten up my schedule as much as possible. Im also thinking of looking into that YAZ birthcontrol pill. Im going to start doing daycare next month, and i really am worried about how hard those weeks will be during pms or should I say PMDD???
Has anyone tried the YAZ?
Kimmygirl.