Just a question

naturesgirl · Post by **naturesgirl** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 7:56 am

One of my biggest fears is of somehow unknowingly hurting someone. so my question is does anyone just look at this site and not post. I have been here several times since I started in March but up until yesterday really not talked to anyone because I have the fear of what if I say something that might hurt someone unknowingly? Does anybody have this fear? I sometimes feel bad because I know something that might help someone but I'm to afraid to post it. This post really bothers me right now.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 8:05 am

I noticed alot of people looked at mine and didn't reply. To be honest, I wondered why so many people DIDN'T reply. It almost makes you feel like they didn't care? So that might answer my question and yours as well

I only joined the forums about 4 days ago and started the program this week, but others feedback ALWAYS makes me feel better. I think 10 different perspectives even though some might hurt to hear can help you put things together.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 8:14 am

Your doing wonderful my posting this! The more you do it the easier it will be. I can totally relate to what you are saying. There have been times when I've been on the online chat and said somethings to people that I really thought would help. And then right after I said whatever it was, they left. Ouch!!! But then I got to thinking...there could have been many reasons why they left...it may not have even been what I said at all. Sometimes when people tell you things that you need to hear it does hurt, but it's only said to you out of love. Like for instance (and this is a pretty drastic situation in my book but it's all I can think of off the top of my head), my husband told me a while back that I was really starting to gain weight and that I needed to really start watching what I eat and start working out. Talk about hurt!! Espeically since that's one of my BIG insecurites. But, he said it out of love...it's not healthy to just keep gaining weight and not do anything about it. He also knew how insecure I am when it comes to be gaining weight and knew that if he just let it go then I would become even more depressed. So, sometimes you might hurt someone at the onset but then when they think about it they wil realize that it's all out of love. Espcially here. We are all going through the same things. We all pretty much feel or have felt the same way. So when somebody says something to help us we all just accept it. We might take it personally for a moment (kind of like "Well how do they know what is best for me") or something like that but then they will see the love and understanding that we all have for each other. This is a wonderful place to be where I have gotten much help and comfort. If you have something to add...please do

And I promise nobody is going to be mad at you

Post when you feel comfortable. You did great with this one. Keep it up. Like I said earlier the more you do it the easier it will become. We are all here for you and need you here for us

Hope you are having a wonderful day!!

With much love,
Mindi

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Aug 08, 2008 8:38 am

Thanks Christa and mindi

You both gave me a different view and way to look at it. And they both helped.

I'm going to try to start posting more. who knows you may all soon be sick of hearing from me. Ha Ha! Hope you both have a wonderful Day!