hypochondriac city!

Deb 45 · Post by **Deb 45** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 2:44 pm

Hi,

Lately I've been having a hard time with health fears. It centers around being single and living alone. I fear getting sick without someone around to help me. Its usually something like fear of choking, or not being able to tell the difference between something thats no big deal, and something that's life threatening. I know I'm in really good shape. I run 3 miles 3 to 4 times a week, and I take pretty good care of myself. I've gotten checked out and no abnormal tests at the docs office. I know its a distraction. I just wish it got easier to do the things I'm trying to distract myself from! Thanks for reading,

Deb

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 3:46 pm

Hi Deb45
I have all those fears.We think of it way to much. I've been having the choking fear for a while and i won't eat some types of food because of it. Other times i won't think of it and be fine. Yesturday I was at a friends house swimming with friends and they left to go pick up food. I was alone by the pool trying to relax and read a magazine. I started thinking what if I fainted and fell in the pool or if aomething else happened.I told myself to shut up and chill out, it helped.I stopped thinking about it. I know how you feel.It has gotten better for me still in the back of my mind but hopefuly getting better. Good luck

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 4:48 pm

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I understand fears. I have been having a lot myself lately. My mom and my husband both have cancer and now 2 of my friends at work have it. So I am having a colonoscopy tomorrow because I am having a fear of colon cancer. Everyone around me has some sort of cancer and I just feel like I am going to have cancer too. It's like an epidemic. So scared. Sometimes my throat feels like I can't swollow or that it is sweeling shut and my heart starts beating fast and I am so concerned with my health all of the time.
Roxanne

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 5:22 pm

I have this fear as well. I am not single (I am involved in a long-distance relationship), but since my relationship IS long-distance, I fear that I may get very sick, or even die, alone, before he could fly out here. Whew, relief that I am not crazy! And at the same time, I feel so bad for you that you are feeling this way; trust me, I know how overwhelming, scary and tiring it gets.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 7:16 pm

Hi Deb,

I read your post and it really hit home. I, too, live alone and my health always concerns me. Who could I ever get to look after me, who can I talk with about health matters, and so on. I guess we are in the same boat. I haven't figured it all out yet, but I am trying relaxation, meditation and all those good things to try and learn to relax and say, "it's no big deal". Good luck, too, Deb.

Rob.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 9:59 pm

I also have health related anxiety. I have a fear of losing more people I love, and of course something happening to myself. Something I'm working out with my therapist. Oh, and speaking of long distance relationships Cece, I am also in one, so I can relate to what you said as well.

Take care all!!!!!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 10:42 pm

Hey it's me again. Don't worry about losing anyone, anyway in the end, will u not see everyone you know again?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 10:46 pm

Hi Gomer! U don't know me, but it's ok to be scared in a situation like that. I'm sorry u have health issues. I do too. Keep thinking of goals and things to do to get your mind off of it, it gets very addicting to obsess.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 10:48 pm

Wow. I can sure relate to all of this! I too live by myself, have for many years. I fear health issues all the time and wonder if anyone will be there to help me if something happens. There is little comfort not knowing who, or if, you can count on anyone. I too have friends who got sick and died at a relatively early age. It makes you wonder, who's next, me? Many of my good friends smoke too (I don't, thankfully) and I'm afraid I will lose them too. It's a frightening way to live. Thanks for listening.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 11:11 pm

Hello? Kathy? Can u help? Have you read the bible? I was frightened at church today about the part where Jesus says about the judging of the evil and the rightous and the pit of flames, weeping and gnashing of teeth. I worry when I hear scary things like that. After that I lost control and had another anxiety attack (the 3rd one caused by this subject) and tossed my breakfast. I think I have a tendency to focus on negative things too much but that just scares me! One thing mentioning the underworld and I lose it sometimes. I know that I'm saved by faith but the judging part makes me feel confused for I thought that our sins are forgiven. I am also concerned about my friends, some of which don't even believe in God. I don't want them to go to an awful place when they die! I feel like I'm in a sort of religious crisis and my parents will just think I'm crazy of something. I have a lot of issues with this and even missed school for almost a week in March! I have trouble eating but not sleeping because I usually get too weak from not eating and that's how I fall asleep. I can't stand this and I wish I could just let go of things and stop worrying and feeling like I have to be in control! I need some help here!

Maestra B. A. B.