Not sure this is for me! Too Stressful to Handle!!!

Julene G. · Post by **Julene G.** » Sun May 18, 2008 5:37 pm

I started last week & am on session 3. I'm doing the relaxation tapes, audios,workbook, journal, etc. I als own a business with my husband & work 50 or more hours a week. I also have a home & & 2 cats to take care of, pay the bills, laundry, grocery shopping, yardwork, etc. It's getting harder to find the time for this! I'm so depressed i just want to stay in bed all day! I have to force myself to get my ass going everyday! Then I have to take 2 xanax every morning before work just to keep my sanity throughout the day. Usually have to take at least one more in the afternoon! My job is very stressful! It helps keep the panic attacks at bay,but doesn't do a thing for negative thinking, which causes most of my anxiety & depression. I feel like I'm chasing my tail! Are you sure it's worth stressing myself out more to make time for this program? I have a week left & I can still return it. What should I do? Help???

Julene G.

Rita1 · Post by **Rita1** » Sun May 18, 2008 10:41 pm

Dear Jolene,
I once was so depressed I didn't think life would ever be any different. I sought the help of counseling and antidepressants and the dark cloud lifted. I am no longer on medication or counseling and have an active life as a nurse and grandmother of 5. I know I need my down time so I don't overdo. That reduces the stress for me. My daughter and I are training for a triathalon which is way out of my comfort zone but I agreed to do it to get in shape and spend time with her. Balancing life is always a challenge but a necessary discipline to a peaceful life. I try to be present in each moment and allow others to be where they need to be, even when their space crowds my space on the highway! Each moment is as perfect as it can be. If I'm not at peace, it's my issue and I have to decide how I want to respond. I am simplifying my life and getting rid of anything that doesn't help me live in the moment. May youo find the peace you deserve!

Don57 · Post by **Don57** » Sun May 18, 2008 11:26 pm

I have to force myself to get my ass going everyday!

So, what happens if a time comes when you can't force yourself to getup any longer? That happened to me and I'm not trying to scare you. I hope that doesn't happen to you.

Why not cut back 5 hours a week on the work to make time for the program? You don't have to do the program perfectly to see improvement. it's there any time of day. When you learn to stop beating yourself up and begin loving and accepting yourself as you are you will begin to feel the depression lift. Short terms anti-depressant may be something to think about, but not without counseling.

I was bed ridden with clinical depression in 1999 and 2000. The program and exercise got me up and going again and pulled me out of a hole of depression.

It's your choice. Whatever decision you make, buy books on cognitive behavioral therapy and learn what it is. It really does work for many people. I wish you the best.

treegirl · Post by **treegirl** » Mon May 19, 2008 11:20 am

Hi Julene,

I can so relate to your being overloaded. I too own a business with my husband. And as this is our busy season, we're working extra long hours too. We have 2 teenage sons in sports. Plus there's all the house work and errands to keep up with. So I know just what you're going through!

I have had anxiety all my life, and panic attacks and depression most of my adult life. For the past 8 years, my life has been very limited because of it. When I found this program, I just believed it would help me. I've been on meds for years, and spent some time in therapy, but no one ever taught me how to deal with it all like this program is so far.

I am only beginning session 3, but I'm committed to giving it a chance. I downloaded the first few sessions to my mp3 player, so I listen while I'm driving, or eating lunch, or whenever I can. And I find time, just a few moments here and there, to do the workbook. The only thing I haven't done regularly enough is the relaxation. The times I have, it really helps! At the end of the day is great for me, since I have trouble quieting my mind at night.

I was worried about finding the time too, and as I tend to obsess, I thought I might burn out. But I'm taking it slowly and not trying to do it perfectly. And still I'm getting so much from it. If you decide to keep the program, just try listening when you can. Do what you can now, get what benefits you can, and you can always go back thru it again later.

I agree with Don57. If you decide not to continue, do take another route and seek out some help.

Wishing you good days!

Boon · Post by **Boon** » Mon May 19, 2008 11:57 am

When it comes to our healing we must make every effort to do the work involved in reaching that goal. This does not mean you must stress yourself. However, if you make a list of all your responsibilities I'll bet there are a few things you can set aside for a couple of months until you finish the program. You might even beable to assign responsibilities to others just for the duration of the program.

I'm suspecting that being hard on yourself and perfectionism may be something you may need to look at. Just something for you to think about.

My best to you.

~Roxy Baby~ · Post by **~Roxy Baby~** » Mon May 19, 2008 3:44 pm

I was thinking about returning the program today. But the rep told me to try lessons 2 & 14 for 2 weeks. So I guess I will try it and see what happens.