scared to believe

debchance · Post by **debchance** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 5:31 am

Hi, I am just getting started in the program (session two) and some days I feel like it is working and then others I feel totally like 'the one' it won't work for. I am also scared I am not working it enough to succeed. For example I am doing the exercises as suggested but haven't been posting here everyday. I also have skipped some days exercising. I go back and forth between hopeful and discouraged. I guess that is normal? I just need some encouragement. I am doing the 30 day free trial and my mom will pay for me to keep it if it works.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 6:05 am

deb please take some deep breaths and just try to relax...the program works for everyone who puts their heart and soul into it. It's not a quick fix but rather learning new skills so you can retrain yourself to think and feel differently than you have in the past.
You get out of it what you are willing to put into it. It has taken you a long time to develop all the bad, negative habits and it will take time to learn how to replace them with healthy, truthfull, positive thoughts about yourself and life in general.

You will have ups and downs and we all do so just don't expect so much in such a short time and it's ok to miss a day..stop telling yourself you will be the one to fail and tell yourself that failing is NOT AN OPTION.

You have a lifetime ahead of you and it can be wonderfull if you want to change. it's all in this great program for you to learn.

Winners never quit and quitters never win!!

You are strong and worth the effort so I pray you will just work so hard at wanting to feel and be all you can.

You have everyone here to help you on your wonderfull, life changing journey. We are all going through many of the same things and you are not alone.

keep the feelings positive, you owe it to yourself.

CarolynEd.Dir. · Post by **CarolynEd.Dir.** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 6:06 am

I have had the program for about 5 yrs.
It works if you work it! You may have to go back to it from time to time to brush up on your skills. Thats why even though ive been through it I still keep it.I have loaned it out a few times to other people in my family who have had anxiety issues and it has helped them but I will always keep it. I would say just work it the best you can. Like everything, you can`t always stay on task everyday. Life takes us in different directions everyday.Just do your best to follow the program and the rest will follow.
You will see it will be very helpful.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 4:29 pm

Monty's mom and Kristen,
Thank you thank you. It is so good to have encouragement from you. I will try to keep things in perspective and not be so impatient. Part of the time I have faith in myself and part of the time feel I will never be able to change for good. I will make the decision to have faith in the program and not be so hard on myself for not working it perfectly.
Thank you both so much again. I needed you and you gave me just what I needed.
Take care,
Deborah

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 4:30 pm

I forgot to say I will have faith in myself too!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Nov 24, 2008 3:42 am

Do not worry!! I, personally feel the same at times. I know it cna ne difficult with one day being better than another. Our recovery will be a gradual process. Stick to the program as best you can!! Pray and ask for guidance. You need to have self conviction if anything is to work. Remember that you are not alone.

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Mon Nov 24, 2008 8:52 am

Laura,
Thank you very much. I see you and I registered about the same time. I am feeling more hopeful now. I think the support I have received in the last two days has really made a difference. It is good to hear from those who have been doing the program for some time and have had success as well as hearing from you who started about the same time as me. Thank you and I look forwarad to talking with you more in the future. I haven't gotten the hang of this discussion board yet but am working on it!
Take care, Deborah

Carolyn Dickman · Post by **Carolyn Dickman** » Fri Nov 28, 2008 5:26 pm

I too am scared to believe this program will really work and that I am not wasting money I do not have on something that will not work. The comments from some of the longtimers helps though so I will try to quit "worrying" and to focus on the program.

epa · Post by **epa** » Fri Nov 28, 2008 6:27 pm

I am so relieved to find out I'm not alone in the feeling of not working hard enough on my program. Could it be that no matter how hard we work on it we would still feel the same? I want to feel good about the effort I invest and not beat myself for "not doing good enough". How about we do it "just for today" and give ourselves a little slack? I'll see ya tomorrow.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Nov 30, 2008 11:16 am

I actually checked the calendar to see how far into my 30 days I was. I want to know it works within those thirty days darnit! no pressure

I will try too to focus and quit worrying about if it will work for me... not so easy though.

I agree let's just take it one day at a time. One foot in front of the other. I have also found that listening to some of those who have some time working this with success has been encouraging.