Hi all. Well I finally have gotten the courage to confront these attacks! I have recently had a supervisor change at work and I am reporting to a person whom I know does not like me. I have heard quite a few things that he and his wife, she works for the company as well, have said quite a few bad things about me.
I decided to confront the situation and I set a meeting up with my new boss. I am afraid that he is just going to set me up for failure and get rid of me. With the economy the way it is I am very afraid I won't be able to support my family. My panic then snowballs from there. I'll lose my job, we'll lose the house etc..
Worried about my Job Asking for help
C&K, sorry to read about your situation at work. I would suggest that you if not already, start documenting everything that goes on at your work. Day to day, hour to hour, min,,,,Keeping a detailed journal noting day to day the effects the situation you described is having on you. If your instincts are correct, people like that are usually very sloppy in how they go about their dirty deeds and you will have turned the tables as it were. Good luck,,Bruce
C&K_Daddy
First I would like to say that I to am sorry of your situation at work. Work is stressful enough without having to deal with the inner politics and antics of others. Are you 100% sure that you are actually being talked about negatively? I ask this because second hand information can be a very dangerous thing and with anxiety it can be down right fatal in a work situation. I would think the thing to do would be to sit down with your boss to ask his opinion of how you are doing at this present time and leave the past in the past even if it was just yesterday. If he says you are doing a great job then your problem is solved. If he says there are some issues, find out what they are whether valid or invalid, realistic or not and ask him what you can do to improve your work performance. I am not saying you are even doing a thing wrong but keep in mind that this is a person in power so to speak and you really do get a lot further with honey than you do with vinegar. If you approach him on a defensive basis you are again setting yourself up to take the fall even if he is wrong, because you are doing the confronting and that always puts you at a disadvantage. You are right the economy is tough and humbling yourself a bit to keep your job intact might be your answer. I think Stagerlee has some great points as well, you can document your conversations, meetings and day to day activities to empower yourself with proof positive documentation. Just be very careful about here say and second hand information because they can both come back to bite you in the end. Also I believe your panic may be coming from a fear of the unknown so by setting up a meeting of the minds your are putting yourself at an advantage because you care enough to ask about your performance and improve on it, again whether the issues are real or superficial.
Good Luck and let us know.
First I would like to say that I to am sorry of your situation at work. Work is stressful enough without having to deal with the inner politics and antics of others. Are you 100% sure that you are actually being talked about negatively? I ask this because second hand information can be a very dangerous thing and with anxiety it can be down right fatal in a work situation. I would think the thing to do would be to sit down with your boss to ask his opinion of how you are doing at this present time and leave the past in the past even if it was just yesterday. If he says you are doing a great job then your problem is solved. If he says there are some issues, find out what they are whether valid or invalid, realistic or not and ask him what you can do to improve your work performance. I am not saying you are even doing a thing wrong but keep in mind that this is a person in power so to speak and you really do get a lot further with honey than you do with vinegar. If you approach him on a defensive basis you are again setting yourself up to take the fall even if he is wrong, because you are doing the confronting and that always puts you at a disadvantage. You are right the economy is tough and humbling yourself a bit to keep your job intact might be your answer. I think Stagerlee has some great points as well, you can document your conversations, meetings and day to day activities to empower yourself with proof positive documentation. Just be very careful about here say and second hand information because they can both come back to bite you in the end. Also I believe your panic may be coming from a fear of the unknown so by setting up a meeting of the minds your are putting yourself at an advantage because you care enough to ask about your performance and improve on it, again whether the issues are real or superficial.
Good Luck and let us know.
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