Sex Life is Boring

moldingrock · Post by **moldingrock** » Mon Mar 30, 2009 9:32 am

I have to say this if no one else does. Has anyone, particularly women, felt that because of your anxiety, the sex isn't all that great anymore or maybe never even was? I've never had an orgasm during sex and am starting to think that my anxiety has something to do with it. Any comments?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 30, 2009 12:20 pm

That's really possible. Anxiety and depression interfere with the mental aspect of sex and that can make it a lot less enjoyable or shift the focus from enjoyment to over-thinking like "am I doing this as well as I used to? does my partner notice? why am I not enjoying this as much as I 'should' "

As you work through your anxiety, all things will start to feel better, including sex.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 4:41 pm

Hi moldingrock..When my anxiety was at it's worst, I was entirely to scared to even have sex. During sex when my heart would start to beat a little faster, I would panic. At times when I did brave it, I could never relax enough to enjoy it let alone have an orgasm. It got to where the thought of sex made me panic and I avoided it all together. Then of course here came the guilt feelings. When your anxious it is hard to focus on one thing, like the act of sex, when you have so many other thoughts going through your head so of course it would not be all that great. Then of course you have to over analyze it all ie..was it ever really that good. The good thing is if it is because of anxiety then when you begin to get better then sex will be good again. On the other hand there is the fact that a large percentage of women have never had an orgasm during sex because of stimulation reasons. I supppose you need to find out where you stand in this. I hope this helped you a little bit. Good luck!!