Breaking Up

aliengal24 · Post by **aliengal24** » Thu Nov 12, 2009 1:46 am

My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me last night. He was my support person. He was the one who got me this program to try to help me. I saw this break up coming though, at least. I love him so much. He had been changing in the past few months and we were growing together, he grew the other way and we became not as close. It's been hurting me for some time and we couldn't seem to get back to what we were before. He's big on travelling and we never went anywhere together, due to my anxiety. My fears are crowds, travelling, flying... I'm afraid I'll get sick and anxious..it has happened in the past and for some reason I just couldn't work up enough courage to anywhere with him. It sounds weird, I know. I did the program last February-May. It helped a lot with everyday anxities, but I couldn't get myself to do some things still. He basically told me last night that he would rather travel the world and explore and go on adventures than stay with me. When I say explore I mean, jungles, mountains..etc. He's a very adventurous guy and if I was to actually go on a vacation my idea would be sitting on a beach, relaxing. We're very different people. I just reall needed to vent. I'm 24, this has been my longest relationship and it just hurts that it has to end, I still love him so much. I spent so much time with him and now I just feel lost. Does anyone have any suggestions for me? I need to be OK through this, and I need to get over my fears. Thanks in advance. And thanks for listening.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Nov 12, 2009 2:10 am

Hi, Carla! First of all, I'm really sorry to hear about your break up. I can't even imagine how hard it would be to lose your support system like that and to have to deal with something so traumatic while you're anxious. Do you think you might benefit from doing the program again? Maybe even just go back over some sessions that you think might be especially helpful for your situation (I just started this week, so I'm sorry I can't be more specific). I'm sorry I can't give you better advice. What I can do is offer my virtual shoulder is you ever want to vent or talk again. Please feel free to talk to me on here or send me a private message. I'm happy to be there for you. It WILL be okay, I promise, even if it doesn't seem like it (that's something I have to tell myself every day). Hang in there, sweetie.

Lisa

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Nov 12, 2009 11:53 am

Thanks Lisa. I appreciate it. Yeah, I really should do the program over again. I'm planning on it. Feel free to private message me anytime you'd like.

-Carla

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Nov 12, 2009 12:02 pm

Hey Carla I am really sorry to hear about the break up. We are all here as a support system and if you need anything just PM me. I have a really hard time traveling too so I can completely understand.