How to STOP paying so much "ATTENTION" to "NEGATIVE THOUGHTS"

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Dec 23, 2009 11:40 am

Hi Everyone,
Most anxious thoughts are attracted to us by the attention we pay them, and they
then stick firmly in place by our level of emotional reaction to them!!! This is an
important point!!!

A thought can have an influence over you only if you allow it to!!!
Your emotional reaction is a thought’s energy source!!!

What’s interesting is that either a positive or a negative emotional reaction is fine for the thought!!!

Energy and attention are what attracts it!!!

Once you have an emotional reaction to a thought, you’re regularly drawn to that thought until the emotional reaction has lost its energy and faded away!!!

For example, if someone you know pays you a very positive compliment, you may find yourself unintentionally drawn to that thought any time you have a spare moment!!!

You probably find that it improves your overall level of confidence and mood throughout the day!!!

Sadly, however, we tend to focus less on the positive and more on the negative!!!

We seem to forget those positive compliments all too
easily, and we’re more frequently drawn to what might upset us!!!

Take the opposite example: if someone you know insults you, I’m sure that you find the
emotional reaction to that thought much more intense and probably very long-lasting!!!

So the basic pattern of thinking is this!!! If you’re not engaged in an activity or task,
your mind tends to wander toward any thoughts to which you have a strong emotional reaction!!!

In general, angry or fearful thoughts seem to surface quickly because they’re the ones to which you probably react most strongly!!!

What I suggest is that the most effective way to eliminate unwanted thoughts is to
stop trying to suppress them!!!

Thought suppression studies have proven that the
very act of trying to suppress a thought results only in a higher frequency of the
unwanted thought occurring!!!

This has been termed the “rebound effect.” Simply put, the more you try to suppress a thought, the more the unwanted thought keeps
popping up (rebounding)!!

So how do we begin to tackle this problem of unwanted thoughts???

You need a change of attitude!!!

By a change in attitude, I mean a change in the way you react to the thoughts!!! This goes back to the idea of acceptance mentioned
earlier!!!

An attitude of acceptance quickly disarms the emotional reaction you have to the fearful thoughts.

Once the emotional reaction has been significantly reduced, the unwanted anxious thoughts dissipate!!!

In the past, you’ve probably tried to rid
yourself of the thoughts by attempting to struggle free of them!!!

The trick, however,is not to try to be free of them, but to accept them as they run through your mind!!!

We can never fully control what goes through our minds, but we can control how we react to what goes on there!!!

That’s the key difference between someone who gets caught up in fearful thinking and someone who does not!!!

HAVE A BEAUTIFUL NIGHT FREE FROM WORRISOME THOUGHTS BY NOT PAYING THEM ANY MIND!!! GOD BLESS EACH OF YOU!!!

P&P · Post by **P&P** » Wed Dec 23, 2009 12:33 pm

Great advice! It's always a good reminder to "accept" the negative thoughts and not give them any power. Thanks

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Dec 23, 2009 3:24 pm

Hi P&P,
You are sooooo welcome

!!! Have a wonderful night's rest!!!

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Wed Dec 23, 2009 3:43 pm

Hey Ms. T !!!!!

Unfortunately, when someone gets knocked down enough, it becomes easier to believe the bad stuff. I'm working on that too !

Thanks and Merry CHRISTmas !!!!!!!!

pam karges · Post by **pam karges** » Thu Dec 24, 2009 11:58 am

Ms T. thank you again for reminding us of the way to get rid of these scary thoughts and negative ones. wish I'd know that 6 months ago. anyway now
I know how to deal with them and hopefully those
panic attacks and negative thoughts will go away in time. everyone always told me to rebuke the devil for giving them to me. that put more emphasis on them and so forth. I sure appreciate
your advice and help. you are such a wonderful
blessing. God has blessed me thru all of you who
so faithfully give of yourselves to help us. pam

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 24, 2009 4:19 pm

Hi Manofmusic,
I pray that you have a "Very Merry Christmas" and a "Happy New Year"..

I think the more negative we think, then the more negativity comes our way!!! Or at least, that is the way it seems to me!!!

Think about it...When we are negative, then we usually hang around negative people because we have "all that negativity" in common...LOL

Now, think about hanging around someone who is very positive!!! I think that is very contagious, also!!! Tee Hee!!!

We usually end up in the same mood that the person we are hanging with is in, and that can be a good or bad thing, depending on whether that person is a very negative person or a very positive person!!!

Kinda makes me think of the "yawning" thing!!! Now, yawning is very contagious!!!

Have you ever been around someone who keeps yawning??? Before long you begin yawning yourself!!! LOL...

And if you are in a room full of yawners, then you will probably fall over asleep...ROFL...

Just had to add that in there!!! Have a wonderful night!!! God Bless!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Dec 25, 2009 3:32 pm

Dear Pam,
I am soooo sorry that it took me so long to get back with you!!! I pray that you had a Wonderful Christmas, my dear sister and friend!!!

You are soooo very welcome!!! God Bless You Tonight and Always is My Prayer for you!!!

pam karges · Post by **pam karges** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 7:51 am

Ms T. thank you for responding. know everyone is quiet today. I have a couple of questions. I have been busy the last few days and really done well. now today I don't have any running to do and the hot stuff keeps bothering me. I am trying to do like you said and ignore it, just float with it. its more difficult after having good days. I wonder why I can't relax at home like I can when I'm busy. also is it my faith being weak? am I not trusting God enuff? why can't I just say be gone in the name of Jesus and it will go? it is strange that I can really have a solid "feeling" of faith of evenings but mornings are tuff for me. any suggestions?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:49 pm

Hi Dear Sister Pam,
I just sent you an email my dear friend!!! I pray that I have answered all of your questions in the email!!!

Have a Happy New Year!!! Much Love in Christ Jesus!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jan 02, 2010 5:08 pm

Reposting for those new to the forum!!!