Veterans, I need you
I finished the program about 6 weeks ago, felt bits and pieces of getting better and then I had a big change in my life which lead me right back down. So, I've been battling with anxiety and depression again. I just restarted the program for a second round this week. Meds, just to let you know, didn't really do much for me, if anyting, just kept me really numb and unable to really "think". Please tell me someting, anything, as I am so down right now.
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Myturn,
You spend 15 weeks learning the skills. That does not mean you will be healed that soon. You must spend time USING the skills, over and over and over again. In fact, your brain needs to hear things over and over many times. It feels like a fight and a struggle for awhile but it gets easier and easier. Start the program again. You aren't back to where you were because you can't be. You know too much to ever go back.
Life presents anxious moments and depressed moments from time to time - even when you are cured. It's the knowing that you can handle it. It's understanding that these are emotions and they always pass. You have the tools. Be grateful for how you are feeling because it gives you the opportunity to use the tools over and over again until you get good at it. When you start to welcome what's going on instead of resisting it, you will find that things pass quickly. You are not as affected by your thoughts and your feelings. You learn to roll with what is. Let this program open the doors to other readings and seminars and workshops.
Breathe in to feeling down. What's going on? Journal it. What are you feeling? Journal it. What can I do to help myself? Write it down and take action. You are in the driver's seat. Open your arms up to how you are feeling and soothe yourself. Go to tape 4. Comfort yourself. Make it OK to feel down. You don't have to stay there. Get busy in the present moment. You can still function even while feeling down. Keep working at it. Some days you'll feel great. Some days you won't. You don't have to let the down days dictate to you. Feel them and allow them to be temporary. Even great days are temporary. Nothing is permanent so don't attach to either.
Do you understand?
You spend 15 weeks learning the skills. That does not mean you will be healed that soon. You must spend time USING the skills, over and over and over again. In fact, your brain needs to hear things over and over many times. It feels like a fight and a struggle for awhile but it gets easier and easier. Start the program again. You aren't back to where you were because you can't be. You know too much to ever go back.
Life presents anxious moments and depressed moments from time to time - even when you are cured. It's the knowing that you can handle it. It's understanding that these are emotions and they always pass. You have the tools. Be grateful for how you are feeling because it gives you the opportunity to use the tools over and over again until you get good at it. When you start to welcome what's going on instead of resisting it, you will find that things pass quickly. You are not as affected by your thoughts and your feelings. You learn to roll with what is. Let this program open the doors to other readings and seminars and workshops.
Breathe in to feeling down. What's going on? Journal it. What are you feeling? Journal it. What can I do to help myself? Write it down and take action. You are in the driver's seat. Open your arms up to how you are feeling and soothe yourself. Go to tape 4. Comfort yourself. Make it OK to feel down. You don't have to stay there. Get busy in the present moment. You can still function even while feeling down. Keep working at it. Some days you'll feel great. Some days you won't. You don't have to let the down days dictate to you. Feel them and allow them to be temporary. Even great days are temporary. Nothing is permanent so don't attach to either.
Do you understand?
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Boon, thank you for your post. You're right, I can't be where I was before the program, I know too much. I am pms-ing, which makes this down time even more of a challenge. Interesting how you say to embrace this time. I like the sound of it, sounds like it makes sense, just don't quite know how to do that.
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Embracing means you put your arms around yourself (whether really or visually) and tell yourself that you'll be OK. No matter what happens you will not abandon you. You soothe, soothe and soothe. You make how you feel OK. You go about your day knowing you can function no matter how you feel. It's understanding that this too shall pass. If you aren't sure why you feel how you feel, that's fine. Don't go digging. What you need to know will come from the present moment. Do your best to stay focused on what you are doing. When your mind wanders just gently bring it back to what you are doing. Always nuture and soothe yourself.
Use the mirror to help you surrender. Look into your eyes and talk kindly to yourself. Use the above statements and come up with your own loving words as well.
Acceptance of how you feel is key. It passes much more quickly. When there is no resistance only healing can enter.
Use the mirror to help you surrender. Look into your eyes and talk kindly to yourself. Use the above statements and come up with your own loving words as well.
Acceptance of how you feel is key. It passes much more quickly. When there is no resistance only healing can enter.
myturn,
If you remember in session 1 or 2, i can't remember wich, Dr ficher talkes about nuero passageways and how the're linked to different thought patterns and emotions. Well, i had this happen to me a few months ago; My ex-wife called me to complain about how bad my daughters where being and was quite nasty and agressive. now, it wasn't totally directed at me but for the next five days i felt as if i had regressed and i had forgotten everything i had learned from the program up to that point. it took me a while, but i finally realized that it was my ex-wife's phone call that caused my feelings to change. as soon as i realized this, all of those negative feels flushed out of my body like i pulled the drain plug. maybe something similar has happened to you and you don't realize it!!!
Bill
If you remember in session 1 or 2, i can't remember wich, Dr ficher talkes about nuero passageways and how the're linked to different thought patterns and emotions. Well, i had this happen to me a few months ago; My ex-wife called me to complain about how bad my daughters where being and was quite nasty and agressive. now, it wasn't totally directed at me but for the next five days i felt as if i had regressed and i had forgotten everything i had learned from the program up to that point. it took me a while, but i finally realized that it was my ex-wife's phone call that caused my feelings to change. as soon as i realized this, all of those negative feels flushed out of my body like i pulled the drain plug. maybe something similar has happened to you and you don't realize it!!!
Bill