Hi Im new!!
Hi Im new!!
Hi I am new here,Right now Im scared ,I have anxiety attacks almost daily.I had 4 on Friday.They scare me so bad,and my husband doesnt know what to do,funny cause I dont either.I sent for ther program Saturday.I`m hoping this really works,some have said its a scam,that the people on the commercial are all actors getting paid to say what they say.I am praying this is not ture,cause Im at the end of my rope.I cant do this much longer.Im in therapy,I took Zoloft,prozac,paxil.cymbalta,and welluburten,all of which made me sick,gave me diahrea,headaches and then sent me into a state of anxiety.Im tired of all the meds.The therapist is really pushing them.Says I can go to the hospital also,but Im scared of doing that.Sorry I am rambling but need to talk .Also I am deaf ,I hear with a Cochlear implant,hope I can hear the Cd`s,if not I will have to find someone that can write everything down for me.My life right now is pretty much a mess,I hate getting up every morning cause I know right off Im going to have an attack,which I did this morning and yesterday also.So if anyone has anything positive to say to me,PLEASE say it,I need the support so bad.Dr also was going to put me into a group therapy thing but of course they wouldnt take my insurance,I cant seem to win .Thanks again for the shoulder .I have toget ready to go to therapy now but I will check back in here when I get home.You all have a good day,I will try to!
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rosebus -
Hang in there. Taking action is the first step to getting better. I have dealt with anxiety and depression my whole life. I have also been on Prozac, Cymbalta and am now on Lamictal and Buspar. I thought I dealt with medication well but several of the more recent drugs I've tried have also had adverse reactions. It's no fun and you feel like you're running out of options. Doing something, like using the Stress Stress program is better than doing nothing. I used it a few years ago and it helped, unfortunately I got comfortable and drifted away from the things that were working. I can say from my own experience that I have had better times although when I'm having a bad time it seems like there were never any good times. My wife struggles with my mood disorder as well. She has gone to the library and checked out books on Anxiety and Depression to get a better understanding of what I go through so she can help. See if you can find a support group local to where you're at. I attend a DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance) support group each Monday. So many people have anxiety and worry about all sorts of things. Your husband can also look into NAMI which is a support group for those supporting people like you and I.
My best advice is keep pushing through. Others who don't experience these things simply don't understand what it's like. Keep doing what you are doing and keep pushing through it. It takes time to work through all of the anxiety and fear, it takes hard work.
You can do it, just don't give up.
Hang in there. Taking action is the first step to getting better. I have dealt with anxiety and depression my whole life. I have also been on Prozac, Cymbalta and am now on Lamictal and Buspar. I thought I dealt with medication well but several of the more recent drugs I've tried have also had adverse reactions. It's no fun and you feel like you're running out of options. Doing something, like using the Stress Stress program is better than doing nothing. I used it a few years ago and it helped, unfortunately I got comfortable and drifted away from the things that were working. I can say from my own experience that I have had better times although when I'm having a bad time it seems like there were never any good times. My wife struggles with my mood disorder as well. She has gone to the library and checked out books on Anxiety and Depression to get a better understanding of what I go through so she can help. See if you can find a support group local to where you're at. I attend a DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance) support group each Monday. So many people have anxiety and worry about all sorts of things. Your husband can also look into NAMI which is a support group for those supporting people like you and I.
My best advice is keep pushing through. Others who don't experience these things simply don't understand what it's like. Keep doing what you are doing and keep pushing through it. It takes time to work through all of the anxiety and fear, it takes hard work.
You can do it, just don't give up.
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You are not alone....I suffer from 3 things anxiety ,panic attacks..mood swings and it took me a long time years to figure out what was going on with me....it's not nice feeling like this on a daily basis, but I tell u what this website is my medication there are many wonderful people in this website that can give you hope to keep on moving...imlove checking in everyday and interacting with people on how there day was...I tried therapy, psychiatric treatmen none of it worked for me and I still manage to work a full time job 5 days a week 50'hour work week, I have to deal with people all day long and sometimes I feel like when I'm talking, they look at me like I'm anut, hut it's only my anxiety and negative thinking ...I've learned so much from purchasing the program it's about the only place here that I feel safe and alive...Keep in touch and if need help on starting don't be afraid, have a bless day
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Thanks for the encouraging words,My Dr put me on clonazepam today,I came home took my first pill and was asleep in an hour and a half.Still feel groggy.He said if this doesnt help the next move for me would be to be put in the hospital,which I dont want to do but no of no other options.Im scared to death to go to the hospital.I have so many responsiblities ,I take care of my 12 year old Grandson since school is out and I dont know how Im going to be able to get through tomorrow.I dont want him to see me have an attack cause they are horrible to witness.As of right now im about tired of the whole mess,if it wasnt for my beautiful Grandson I think I would not fight anymore,he is what keeps me fighting .But Im so worn out of all the meds and the attacks I cant hardly get out of bed.I Know when I wake up in the morning that Im going to have another attack,some are not to bad ,other days they are horrible.I will have to get up several hours early in cause I have to fight an attack before I go over to my Daughters house to watch my Grandson.My Dr says Im in a cycle that I cant seem to get out of.So I gues eventually I will end up in the hospital.I am happy to have you guys to talk to cause no one here understands what Im going through.Thanks agian for listening to me and sending me encouraging words,I really appreciate it.Oh i have been fighting depression and anxiety for at least 28 years.
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Rosebus,
You sound like you are having a really tough time and I feel for you. The program is cognitive behavioral therapy, which is the best kind of therapy for your condition. Would it be possible for you find a therapist who specializes in anxiety? Unfortunately, a lot of them don't know what they are doing. I happen to have one who specializes in anxiety disorders and he has been a big help and a real cheerleader. He is really able to explain what is going with me, much better than my psychiatrist does. He has been trained by a lady who trained with Reid Wilson. One thing you are going to have to do is quit "fighting" the attacks and just accept them. That is completely paradoxical, but I tried fighting for years and it just keeps your amygdala, the little false alarm system in your brain, at a hair trigger. You will hear Lucinda talk about "floating" with your anxiety and I had the hardest time grasping what she meant. What she meant was to say to herself, "Okay, so I feel anxious. I am afraid of (whatever). " She says to say soothing things to yourself and talk to yourself like you do when encouraging a friend or loved one. Then just be willing to feel anxious and do things anyway. The relaxation tape, according to Dr. Fisher, will help lay down neural pathways in your brain so you can allow yourself to relax. Deep breathing helps me, although my therapist says people do better if he doesn't teach it to them. I guess they use it as a crutch. Also you will learn exercise is very important--helps burn off some adrenaline and how you eat is important--no caffeine, no sugar, no smoking, nothing to "rev" you up. I like to walk and do qigong. Yoga is good too.
You are doing a lot of negative self talk. You will also learn in lesson three that is a primary driver in anxiety. The program is NOT a scam, but it takes hard work and is not something you can breeze through. Try to hang in there. Hopefully the benzo he gave you will calm you down some . Are you going to a psychiatrist or just an internist? If possible, go to a good psychiatrist.
I hope things work out for you. You sound like a fighter , just haven't found the right help yet and that can be so frustrating. My shrink has his favorite saying, "What is, is". In other words, just accept the reality and get on with it. If you have to go to a hospital to get better, then do it. the important thing is to get better. My therapist says anxiety and depression are two sides of the same coin. I you stay anxious long enough, you get depressed. And no wonder. It takes a lot of courage for a person to deal with this for 28 years, so don't give up on yourself.
You sound like you are having a really tough time and I feel for you. The program is cognitive behavioral therapy, which is the best kind of therapy for your condition. Would it be possible for you find a therapist who specializes in anxiety? Unfortunately, a lot of them don't know what they are doing. I happen to have one who specializes in anxiety disorders and he has been a big help and a real cheerleader. He is really able to explain what is going with me, much better than my psychiatrist does. He has been trained by a lady who trained with Reid Wilson. One thing you are going to have to do is quit "fighting" the attacks and just accept them. That is completely paradoxical, but I tried fighting for years and it just keeps your amygdala, the little false alarm system in your brain, at a hair trigger. You will hear Lucinda talk about "floating" with your anxiety and I had the hardest time grasping what she meant. What she meant was to say to herself, "Okay, so I feel anxious. I am afraid of (whatever). " She says to say soothing things to yourself and talk to yourself like you do when encouraging a friend or loved one. Then just be willing to feel anxious and do things anyway. The relaxation tape, according to Dr. Fisher, will help lay down neural pathways in your brain so you can allow yourself to relax. Deep breathing helps me, although my therapist says people do better if he doesn't teach it to them. I guess they use it as a crutch. Also you will learn exercise is very important--helps burn off some adrenaline and how you eat is important--no caffeine, no sugar, no smoking, nothing to "rev" you up. I like to walk and do qigong. Yoga is good too.
You are doing a lot of negative self talk. You will also learn in lesson three that is a primary driver in anxiety. The program is NOT a scam, but it takes hard work and is not something you can breeze through. Try to hang in there. Hopefully the benzo he gave you will calm you down some . Are you going to a psychiatrist or just an internist? If possible, go to a good psychiatrist.
I hope things work out for you. You sound like a fighter , just haven't found the right help yet and that can be so frustrating. My shrink has his favorite saying, "What is, is". In other words, just accept the reality and get on with it. If you have to go to a hospital to get better, then do it. the important thing is to get better. My therapist says anxiety and depression are two sides of the same coin. I you stay anxious long enough, you get depressed. And no wonder. It takes a lot of courage for a person to deal with this for 28 years, so don't give up on yourself.
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tina martin
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Samcat, this is one terrific post that just about says it all. Believe you've been here a long time, as have I. We realize our work is never quite done. Rosebus, please read Samcat's post attentively.
We need this site and so I am sharing that I'm worried about the powers that be maintaining it. So far so good. But come the end of June that may not be the case. What can we do?
We need this site and so I am sharing that I'm worried about the powers that be maintaining it. So far so good. But come the end of June that may not be the case. What can we do?
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Tina,
What is happening the end of June? I rarely post here anymore, just if I see somebody that needs some help. So I know nothing about the inner workings of the StressCenter.com. What is up?
Samcat
PS-Thanks for the compliment. Yes, i have been working at this stuff for 4 1/2 years and am more fed up with it than afraid of it anymore. Thank God I have an excellent therapist and am stubborn as a mule and determined to get on with my life, anxiety or no anxiety. That is pretty much the attitude you have to come to, at least in my case.
What is happening the end of June? I rarely post here anymore, just if I see somebody that needs some help. So I know nothing about the inner workings of the StressCenter.com. What is up?
Samcat
PS-Thanks for the compliment. Yes, i have been working at this stuff for 4 1/2 years and am more fed up with it than afraid of it anymore. Thank God I have an excellent therapist and am stubborn as a mule and determined to get on with my life, anxiety or no anxiety. That is pretty much the attitude you have to come to, at least in my case.
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tina martin
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Hi Samcat, we've experienced several episodes of terrible spam that required close attention. Believe we lost people because of these invasions. What I noticed is that WebAdmin's Threads are not here now. There were two in this General Category. If spam comes in I'm hoping no one will give up and leave.
We can post and be as mulish as we are about anxiety and depression. Thank you for responding. We are here together to help each other as best as possible. If necessary we'd want to e-mail to support@stresscenter.com, is what I'm thinking.
We can post and be as mulish as we are about anxiety and depression. Thank you for responding. We are here together to help each other as best as possible. If necessary we'd want to e-mail to support@stresscenter.com, is what I'm thinking.
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Ok its me again.The pill Clonazepam really knocked me out yesterday.Never had a med make me so sleepy before.I couldnt take my second one today because I had my Grandson,but I took it at 6 :00 this evening,so far so good.I have been In therapy for about 7 months.He is a very caring Dr I really like him.I went to a psychiatrist for meds,she gave me a med,made me sick,called her she told me to keep taking it,so I took it for another day got sicker,called her again she told me to stop taking it and she would see me in 3 weeks,my regular appointment.Went in 3 weeks got another med,made me sick called told to keep taking it,kept getting sickier,she said stop taking it see you in 3 weeks.I canceled my appointments with her. I was freakin out and she couldnt even see me after the pills made me sick.It took me 3 months just to get an appointment with her.I was very upset with her,everyone tells me she should have seen me right away.I think what I am in is CBT,at least thats what mt Dr says it is,I dont know much about therapy.I have had an awful year,whe I started with him I wasnt near as bad as I am now.I was more depressed then where now its all anxiety.I fell it has consumed my life and I am so tired of it.I told my Dr I need something now,not next week or mext month,but now.Thats when he suggested the pill Clonazepam.I sure hope it works.So far so good.And Im looking forward to getting the Cd`s from the program and getting started on them.I hope I can hear the person speaking,if not I will have to find someone to write them out for me.I feel better about things today then I did yesterday,I was really down yesterday.I have tried for so long to get help and was getting no where.I know in my head that Im not alone in this fight,but when I am going through an attack I sure feel alone.Nice to have you guys to talk to ,it means alot to me.So thanks again for the support!I really dont see how I can not fight an attack,cant seem to just go with it,thats not possible for me.I want it tostop so bad I guess I make it worse.
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Rosebus,
It is hard to not fight and I think you have to develop some skills first, which the program will teach you. You need to learn to relax probably most of all. The relaxation tape will help with that. I sure hope you can hear it. My husband put it on my MP3 player and I can just plug the little earbuds in and stretch back and listen. I also listen to Reid Wilson relaxation exercises. I bought his program too. Try doing some light walking to help relax you. Take the program at your own speed--it will take a while. I also do deep breathing if i feel too on edge, even though my therapist doesn't teach it. But he agrees that sometimes you can jut start feeling overwhelmed. So I am not to the point where I fully accept anxiety either, but I am working on it and making progress. "Floating" is a lot easier said than done!!
Your shrink sounds pretty bad to me--what is the matter with some of these doctors??? Hope our encouragement helps--that is what we are here for. Some people just cannot take ssri's or snri's--I am one of those. You may be too. They work for some people and not others.
Tina,
I got on the board when the changeover occurred and it truly was awful. Whoever they hired as the new web administrator had evidently not done much prior testing. You are right==the spam was dreadful. However, I have noticed a lot of folks have come back and the forum is much more active now than it was then. When we got spammed Sunday, I notified web admin at the email you gave and noticed it was all cleaned up Monday. i think they are trying harder. Hope so anyway!!
It is hard to not fight and I think you have to develop some skills first, which the program will teach you. You need to learn to relax probably most of all. The relaxation tape will help with that. I sure hope you can hear it. My husband put it on my MP3 player and I can just plug the little earbuds in and stretch back and listen. I also listen to Reid Wilson relaxation exercises. I bought his program too. Try doing some light walking to help relax you. Take the program at your own speed--it will take a while. I also do deep breathing if i feel too on edge, even though my therapist doesn't teach it. But he agrees that sometimes you can jut start feeling overwhelmed. So I am not to the point where I fully accept anxiety either, but I am working on it and making progress. "Floating" is a lot easier said than done!!
Your shrink sounds pretty bad to me--what is the matter with some of these doctors??? Hope our encouragement helps--that is what we are here for. Some people just cannot take ssri's or snri's--I am one of those. You may be too. They work for some people and not others.
Tina,
I got on the board when the changeover occurred and it truly was awful. Whoever they hired as the new web administrator had evidently not done much prior testing. You are right==the spam was dreadful. However, I have noticed a lot of folks have come back and the forum is much more active now than it was then. When we got spammed Sunday, I notified web admin at the email you gave and noticed it was all cleaned up Monday. i think they are trying harder. Hope so anyway!!