Anxiety and Family

[Vman]

Hello,
Im sending this in the middle of an anxiety attach that I'm going through now. So far I enjoy the program and I really hope it helps. I really need for these anxiety issues of my to go away... or should I say I need to concer them.
I've been this way for about 10 years and its taken its toll on my family and I. I'm on meds and seeing a therapist but this is really scary. Fear is the hard part, even the what ifs are tough. My wife unfortunately is looking at apartments to move out which adds even more fear and anxiety to me. I want my wife and son at home with me so we can be a family, I want to go do things again but its hard. Her possibly moving out is devestating me especially with the possibility that my son may be going with her.
I feel like such a sissy, like I can't, and I hate this phrase 'man up'. I truly believe in God and family and I want to make this work. I've said more here then I anticipated so I'll stop I'm sure people don't want to hear my problems. Plus this is the first time I've ever posted anything. Anybody have any thoughts or words of encouragement? I hate this anxiety feeling!

[bklynbee]

I understand how you feel. I might be moving in with my fiances mom for a while and tomorrow we are supposed to go to her house and stay just for the weekend. I have been obsessing over this all week and today i had massive anxiety all day. I am so scared to go there because i am so scared i will have an attack there and embarrass myself. You are one step ahead of me though because you are at least taking medication. I am petrified to take meds because i am very sensitive to them. So you should definitely look at that as a positive. I know it stinks that your wife might move out with your son but sometimes when something like that happens it motivates you to really make yourself better. I know there have been times when my fiance was going to leave (we live together) and those are the times i really tried to be somewhat normal. I still have my days but i just try to hang on until i feel better and those are the days that i do as much as i can for my fiance. Just remember things like this always have a way of working themselves out and try not to stress about it to much because its only going to make things worse. I hope and pray that this program helps us to change our lives for the better.

[Vman]

Thank you very much for the reply. Sounds like we both are concerned. Something that might help you is the first book (paperback) that Lucinda Bassett published. I can't remember the name but its white and red. There is a lot of good things in there that help me when i get anxiety. Maybe it'll help you as well.
Speaking of meds. I take a daily pill and then if anxiety kicks in I take something else, it really does help. I too am not a big fan of taking medications. I'm just now starting to use, albeit a smaller dose then what the doctor prescribed of the anxiety meds. One of our problems is that we fear to take medication, I read that in the book and by doing some research. I found that interesting yet somewhat alarming as well. However it does work. Think about getting some it will help you out.
Sounds like both of us have a case of anticipatory anxiety. Thank you for the kind words and I wish both of us a happy recovery.

[lolita1]

Vman,

I can only imagine how scary it must feel to see your loved ones moving out. One thing I've learned by experience is that life unfolds as it should in the end. You do have to help yourself get better, but know that those that love you will always be there for you in the end. Living alone for a while may turn out to be just what you need to conquer these challenges life has placed in your way. Sometimes painful experiences are opportunities in disguise. Look forward to tomorrow as a brand new day filled with opportunities for growth and change. Best of luck to you!