New Apartment Anxiety
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Spencer709
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- Joined: Mon Oct 16, 2006 10:40 am
OK, so a little bit of background. I am a 28 year old OCD sufferer with Anxiety. Currently on 40mg of Paxil and take Ativan when needed. My girlfriend of 2 years and I have been living together and recently decided to get our own places. We had our ups and downs but we are going good again and even though we do not live togther anymore, we are still a couple. We both have a few things we as individuals need to work on and this step hopefully will make it better. The reason I am writing is just to get some experience with other people in this situation. I moved out of a new home (renting) and it was a beautiful place. Now I am in a basement apartment again and feel like even though I have taken a step back in my life. I feel that at this age I should own a house, have kids etc. I have anxiety in the morning and throughout the day the last couple of days and I think a lot of it is just adjusting to the new place. Would anyone agree? Last week I was feeling real fine now anxious again. Could the move and new scenery and complete change of things familiar be influencing my anxiety and OCD? Thanks for listening I really appreciate any responses!
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Guest
Hi Spencer,
Yes, we don't seem to like change, do we? I'm 26 almost 27 and I live in an apartment as well, a basement suite too!,hehe I LOVE my place. But I totally understand having a little anxiety because it's new. This will pass, but that will happen in time. Now this may be more of a girl thing, but I found creating a really nice environment filled with things that i like, really helped me a lot. Your situation is actually very similar to my own, as I was practically living with my boyfriend, but that didn't quite work out as we had moved a little too fast. So we both got our own places and things are awesome now! I've become FAR more independent and you'll enjoy some time on your own and be even more excited to see your girlfriend when you do see her.
I find making sure my apartment is clean and uncluttered makes me feel better as well. You're still very young, most of the people who live in my building are older than me. Some even are married and have a couple children. So don't feel like you ought to own a home at the moment. Most people are age are staying in apartments longer just to save up.
I know you'll adjust to your new place real soon. I just tell myself how "cozy" my basement suite is
Yes, we don't seem to like change, do we? I'm 26 almost 27 and I live in an apartment as well, a basement suite too!,hehe I LOVE my place. But I totally understand having a little anxiety because it's new. This will pass, but that will happen in time. Now this may be more of a girl thing, but I found creating a really nice environment filled with things that i like, really helped me a lot. Your situation is actually very similar to my own, as I was practically living with my boyfriend, but that didn't quite work out as we had moved a little too fast. So we both got our own places and things are awesome now! I've become FAR more independent and you'll enjoy some time on your own and be even more excited to see your girlfriend when you do see her.
I find making sure my apartment is clean and uncluttered makes me feel better as well. You're still very young, most of the people who live in my building are older than me. Some even are married and have a couple children. So don't feel like you ought to own a home at the moment. Most people are age are staying in apartments longer just to save up.
I know you'll adjust to your new place real soon. I just tell myself how "cozy" my basement suite is
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Guest
Don't should yourself with fake society expectations. You do what you need to do, when you are able to. Be true to you.
I'm sure calling a new place home is messing with you. I like the above suggestion of making it cozy and your own. And meeting the neighbors. Pretty soon, this will be routine and you'll be on your way.
Good luck.
I'm sure calling a new place home is messing with you. I like the above suggestion of making it cozy and your own. And meeting the neighbors. Pretty soon, this will be routine and you'll be on your way.
Good luck.