Hello all. I am wondering if anyone has a similar situation to mine or any advice. I just graduated from college but am back home for a while to battle my anxiety and go through the program because I haven't been able to live on my own as a result of my anxiety. However, this means that I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years and that has been really really difficult for me. I am confused as to how I can balance my true "missing him" feelings and my anxiety as I feel they feed each other immensely. I was feeling really good about the program and things for the past 3 weeks but went and visited him and when I returned my anxiety sky rocketed, I could barely drive the 4 hours home, and I keep crying daily and have the extreme anxiety feelings in my stomach.
So, I am just curious how to balance this? I feel the missing feelings feed my anxiety and the anxiety feed my missing feelings. I'm trying to overcome my anxiety but these deep feelings of sadness over him seem to trigger more (and our relationship will be long distance for 9 more months). It's hard to differentiate...does anyone have advice as I feel like I'm truly struggling...thank you!
high anxiety and long distance relationship
hi khaki
i used to go aboard for 1 1/2 yrs at a time. It was very hard for me back then.... i would get home thinking life(people places things) were the same! It was not... life moves forward slowly each and every day. That was a very tuff pill for me to swallow. But i did realize that my real friends were always there. Long distance relationships have NOT worked for me. But you are going back correct? Could it be your fear is of losing him??? If so... you can ONLY control what and how you think and feel.
stay with the program! YOU are the most important person! You can't do anything else if you don't love YOURSELF 1st! Give yourself the chance to live life on lifes terms.... then and only then will you be strong enough to love someone else. HANG in there stay the course do the program you will feel and be so much better! peace
i used to go aboard for 1 1/2 yrs at a time. It was very hard for me back then.... i would get home thinking life(people places things) were the same! It was not... life moves forward slowly each and every day. That was a very tuff pill for me to swallow. But i did realize that my real friends were always there. Long distance relationships have NOT worked for me. But you are going back correct? Could it be your fear is of losing him??? If so... you can ONLY control what and how you think and feel.
stay with the program! YOU are the most important person! You can't do anything else if you don't love YOURSELF 1st! Give yourself the chance to live life on lifes terms.... then and only then will you be strong enough to love someone else. HANG in there stay the course do the program you will feel and be so much better! peace