Fighting everyday and oh so very tired
I work near railroad tracks and until recently didn't pay attention to the never ending trains going by. Then one day a train's air hose or something broke and the tracks were blocked for 2 hours which caused horrendous(spelling) traffic and I had a panic attack that was off the scale. Now I have an attack several times a day...every time a train goes by. I am afraid of being trapped and not being able to get home. I am so exhausted by the end of the day and when I finally make it to the weekend that I have not yet faced any of my other fears...which are several. Please help...I feel that this program is not working for me. I am on week 10.
sml,
where's your compassionate self-talk?
Most fears boil down to fear of "losing control". Not having control over situations and feeling helpless.
Being trapped, although might be considered distressing, isn't dangerous and the truth is, you'd make it through if you had to.
The truth is, you can accomplish anything you need to accomplish when the time came. Anxiety sees trouble before it happens and analyzes it's distressing symptoms seeing it much worse than it would really be.
Be compassionate with yourself and remind yourself that you truly have control over the response you choose to EVERY situation. Although you may not like everything that happens, you can make the choice to be less affected.
It takes time to master all those lessons. And everyone is different when it comes to the amount of time it takes. You may find areas that you still need to work on and this is normal. Just because you are having attacks at the end doesn't mean it didn't work; it simply means you haven't yet mastered the skills.
You have to work for this program, it does not work for you.
Hang in there and remember you CAN do it, one step at a time, one day at a time....
where's your compassionate self-talk?
Most fears boil down to fear of "losing control". Not having control over situations and feeling helpless.
Being trapped, although might be considered distressing, isn't dangerous and the truth is, you'd make it through if you had to.
The truth is, you can accomplish anything you need to accomplish when the time came. Anxiety sees trouble before it happens and analyzes it's distressing symptoms seeing it much worse than it would really be.
Be compassionate with yourself and remind yourself that you truly have control over the response you choose to EVERY situation. Although you may not like everything that happens, you can make the choice to be less affected.
It takes time to master all those lessons. And everyone is different when it comes to the amount of time it takes. You may find areas that you still need to work on and this is normal. Just because you are having attacks at the end doesn't mean it didn't work; it simply means you haven't yet mastered the skills.
You have to work for this program, it does not work for you.
Hang in there and remember you CAN do it, one step at a time, one day at a time....
Life is too short to own an ugly boat. Step aboard for a wonderful journey!
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have you tried going over session 2 again a few times? it seems to help even if i listen to one pertaining session more than once a day.. things will get better.. even after the 15 weeks many people arent recovered, but still fighting... go back when needed but keep pushing. in trying just as hard, and i sure do know its HARD
good luck
good luck
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Hi sml,
I can def. relate to your problems. I too was having issues at work. My office moved this past winter to a building on a busy street with only one way in and one way out. I was fine at first but then in June I started having bad anxiety. I was always worried that an accident would happen outside of my job and that I would be trapped inside the complex until it was fixed. I was having panic attacks all day, I was dizzy, sick to my stomach, etc... until finally mid July I had to take a leave of absence. I just couldn't handle it anymore. I'm still off and I don't know what to do.
I know the scary thoughts I have aren't real but the body symptoms are. I wish I could offer you advice but I'm stuck too. I just want you to know that you're not alone in your thoughts and feelings.
I can def. relate to your problems. I too was having issues at work. My office moved this past winter to a building on a busy street with only one way in and one way out. I was fine at first but then in June I started having bad anxiety. I was always worried that an accident would happen outside of my job and that I would be trapped inside the complex until it was fixed. I was having panic attacks all day, I was dizzy, sick to my stomach, etc... until finally mid July I had to take a leave of absence. I just couldn't handle it anymore. I'm still off and I don't know what to do.
I know the scary thoughts I have aren't real but the body symptoms are. I wish I could offer you advice but I'm stuck too. I just want you to know that you're not alone in your thoughts and feelings.
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Just wanted to tell you this....
The scary thoughts, although you know they are not real, help to produce those very real body symtpoms.
It can take a while before your body feels the effects of your new positive thinking. One of the reasons why this program stresses positive thinking is because it really does work. You may not be able to feel immediate effects in your body but if you continue to speak truth into your own life that's positive and encouraging and persist and do not give up, your body will begin to feel a change. Body symptoms will improve and dwindle. But you have to keep up the positive self-talk long enough to FEEL the change.
One thing that helped me was to remember that my body symptoms ( although distressing) were NEVER dangerous and no matter how distressing, I could still accomplish what I wanted/needed to accomplish.
The only way to overcome it, is to face the feelings, talk to yourself about it and work through it WHILE doing what you want/need to do.
Cognitive-behavioral is meant to work together at the same time. You speak to yourself correctly and ACT upon those positive thoughts.
It is by doing this repeatedly that you will get better.
It helps to understand why you have those body symptoms and to accept them for what they are... nothing more than an end result of negative self-talk.
Mind and body are SO connected, if one is off, the other is affected.
Progressive muscle relaxation is also very beneficial. You can literally train the body to relax on command if you practice regularly.
The scary thoughts, although you know they are not real, help to produce those very real body symtpoms.
It can take a while before your body feels the effects of your new positive thinking. One of the reasons why this program stresses positive thinking is because it really does work. You may not be able to feel immediate effects in your body but if you continue to speak truth into your own life that's positive and encouraging and persist and do not give up, your body will begin to feel a change. Body symptoms will improve and dwindle. But you have to keep up the positive self-talk long enough to FEEL the change.
One thing that helped me was to remember that my body symptoms ( although distressing) were NEVER dangerous and no matter how distressing, I could still accomplish what I wanted/needed to accomplish.
The only way to overcome it, is to face the feelings, talk to yourself about it and work through it WHILE doing what you want/need to do.
Cognitive-behavioral is meant to work together at the same time. You speak to yourself correctly and ACT upon those positive thoughts.
It is by doing this repeatedly that you will get better.
It helps to understand why you have those body symptoms and to accept them for what they are... nothing more than an end result of negative self-talk.
Mind and body are SO connected, if one is off, the other is affected.
Progressive muscle relaxation is also very beneficial. You can literally train the body to relax on command if you practice regularly.
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Thank you everyone for your helpful comments. The last 2 days have actually been better. I have been distracting myself when I hear a train going by and have not sat anxiously waiting for it to pass the crossing. But of course I have good days and bad days and thankfully I have had 2 good days in a row. Thank you again everyone for all your help and support. It is very comforting to know I am not alone although most of the time it does feel like I am a stranger among the normal.
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I was wondering if your eating well and not too much sugar or caffeine?Are you lacking in iron? Are you depressed? Also, are you diabetic? Things to ask yourself and/or your Dr.Originally posted by Sloane:
I'll get up and get some things done, feel better, then a few hours later be back in the slump again. Mornings are the worse. I don't even want to get out of bed.
I hope this helps somehow. I just thought and wrote to you because I have been this way many many many times. I was depressed, sad, and anemic (low in iron which women need by way of certain foods(redmeat,greens can help this) and by way of an iron tablet). See your Dr first for that amount to take though. Too much and you will feel sickly from it.
Also, are you needing a balanced daily vitamin perhaps? Are you in the stages of menopause at all? Do you smoke or drink?
These could be factors, or not.
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dave_canada
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Hi everyone,
Not much that hasn't been said and so much was presented by <span class="ev_code_PURPLE">sunset34 with words of wisdom</span> Excellent points for all of us.
Thankyou!
When I reply to a post similar to this one I find myself feeling that there is a sense of failure by many because things aren't happening as soon as they might have expected or there are set backs, or good days and bad days and so on. I guess what I want to add to all that has been said is that we ALL MUST REMEMBER THESE FACTS: We have had issues for many years so why do we expect a quick fix, there is no quick fix!! It's going to take a lot of time and energy, effort, hard work and the belief we can all overcome our issues. Without believing in ourselves or without using this program as long as we each need to to change our bad, negative, obsessive thought patterns we set ourselves up for failure...This takes commitment each and every hour of each day/ week/ month to get to the inner peace and be able to love life and live it the way we may have only dreamed of. I see so much negativity in posts and I just wish people would spend as much time being kind to themselves and praising themselves and stop beating yourself up. Some may feel great after completing a week, others, a month, and others a year. It's not a race and if treated as such you are setting yourself up for failure.
THE PROGRAM WORKS!!!!!
It's how each person uses it and those who go slow and follow it and redo sessions over and over again are winning. I'm winning after only 10 days and 5 sessions. Instead of wasting precious time and energy thinking I'm not getting better...spend that time working hard with the program and keep saying I can do this. It has worked for thousands and thousands of people for many years now. You can't win anything without puting your best foot forward every day. It's almost that simple.
Just my 2 cents worth.
I really wish you all success and hope you push on to a better, more peacefull, joyfilled new you.
GOOD LUCK!!
Not much that hasn't been said and so much was presented by <span class="ev_code_PURPLE">sunset34 with words of wisdom</span> Excellent points for all of us.
Thankyou!
When I reply to a post similar to this one I find myself feeling that there is a sense of failure by many because things aren't happening as soon as they might have expected or there are set backs, or good days and bad days and so on. I guess what I want to add to all that has been said is that we ALL MUST REMEMBER THESE FACTS: We have had issues for many years so why do we expect a quick fix, there is no quick fix!! It's going to take a lot of time and energy, effort, hard work and the belief we can all overcome our issues. Without believing in ourselves or without using this program as long as we each need to to change our bad, negative, obsessive thought patterns we set ourselves up for failure...This takes commitment each and every hour of each day/ week/ month to get to the inner peace and be able to love life and live it the way we may have only dreamed of. I see so much negativity in posts and I just wish people would spend as much time being kind to themselves and praising themselves and stop beating yourself up. Some may feel great after completing a week, others, a month, and others a year. It's not a race and if treated as such you are setting yourself up for failure.
THE PROGRAM WORKS!!!!!
It's how each person uses it and those who go slow and follow it and redo sessions over and over again are winning. I'm winning after only 10 days and 5 sessions. Instead of wasting precious time and energy thinking I'm not getting better...spend that time working hard with the program and keep saying I can do this. It has worked for thousands and thousands of people for many years now. You can't win anything without puting your best foot forward every day. It's almost that simple.
Just my 2 cents worth.
I really wish you all success and hope you push on to a better, more peacefull, joyfilled new you.
GOOD LUCK!!