MY MOM WANTS ME TO GET ON MEDS
I am so frustrated. My mom and I are polar opposites. I hate the way she handles problems and her resolutions are always the easy way out. Regardless, I am 23 and I need her bad..so today I told her about my anxiety and panic disorder. Her answer: maybe you need to see a doctor. Followed by, "Do you want one of my anxiety pills?" Meds work for her but I don't want any part of them. I have complete confidence in this program- I just need my mom's support. I am ready for the hard work because I do not want to be medicated. Positive non-med feedback please?
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Missme,
You are correct with your idea of working the program and dealing with your anxiety without drugs. Keep doing that and also do some internet research about anxiety. There are hundreds of helpful sites to help you cope with anxiety without meds.
Also, keep in mind that sometimes meds can be right for some people. It just depends on your situation and your ability to handle it on your own.
However, I would never recommend taking anyone else's prescription medications.
Take care and peace be with you.
You are correct with your idea of working the program and dealing with your anxiety without drugs. Keep doing that and also do some internet research about anxiety. There are hundreds of helpful sites to help you cope with anxiety without meds.
Also, keep in mind that sometimes meds can be right for some people. It just depends on your situation and your ability to handle it on your own.
However, I would never recommend taking anyone else's prescription medications.
Take care and peace be with you.
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ronda stephens
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hi,
I relate in many ways.. I find with my recovery I have needed to get some distance from my mother as her opinions and judgments are what got me here in the first place.. we are talking again and Im not doing well. Be cautious that she doesnt become your safe person and make the cycle continue- you are your own safe person! sometimes space alone from someone who creates these feelings can do wonders.. just a thought thats worked well for me.
second relation is to meds.. I hate the thought of the meds, I hate the side effects and yes have much faith in this program (Ive been off meds since xmas) but there is a genetic overlap here and dont forget this is a physical disorder that relates to your brain. I have found meds level me out enough to work the program and get betetr overall, once I feel better overall I will decrease and come off as I know I can b.c. my thinking has changed and I am more recovered. Its a progressional thing.. once you manage enough to master the skills then use the skills then you wont need the 'bandaid' people get the wrong idea about meds, they dont 'change you' or make you 'happy' they simply take the edge off of the feelings you feel anyways, so dont be afraid, they have their benefits..
Good luck with your choice, thanks for posting and keep in touch!
I relate in many ways.. I find with my recovery I have needed to get some distance from my mother as her opinions and judgments are what got me here in the first place.. we are talking again and Im not doing well. Be cautious that she doesnt become your safe person and make the cycle continue- you are your own safe person! sometimes space alone from someone who creates these feelings can do wonders.. just a thought thats worked well for me.
second relation is to meds.. I hate the thought of the meds, I hate the side effects and yes have much faith in this program (Ive been off meds since xmas) but there is a genetic overlap here and dont forget this is a physical disorder that relates to your brain. I have found meds level me out enough to work the program and get betetr overall, once I feel better overall I will decrease and come off as I know I can b.c. my thinking has changed and I am more recovered. Its a progressional thing.. once you manage enough to master the skills then use the skills then you wont need the 'bandaid' people get the wrong idea about meds, they dont 'change you' or make you 'happy' they simply take the edge off of the feelings you feel anyways, so dont be afraid, they have their benefits..
Good luck with your choice, thanks for posting and keep in touch!
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
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p.s. my mom used to make me suicidal telling me to get therapy and go on meds.. from age 12-20 she bothered me about it constantly- I would flip out, cut myself.. this was a big problem between us. Seek that self acceptance and self trust within and give yourself comfort knowing you know what is right for you. I was afraid of the stigma of weakness and thats why I never went on meds.. once I was diagnosed OCD around 21ish (when I sought help alone and didnt tell her) it made sense to me- when Iconfessed to her, she said she felt bad generalizing and not actually getting me help when I needed it.. mothers dont always know best (they are looking out for you) but dont allow her suggestion to make you feel worse- as it did for me.. you will recover, you will feel better, I read somewhere "everyones journey into depression and anxiety is unique and therefore the recovery will be unique also!" dont forget that
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I understand how you feel too. My Mom went through anxiety when I was a kid and didn't know what she was going through. She was able to work herself out of her anxiety by herself and it took a long time. She had 4 kids to raise so she had to get through it alone. She didn't tell anybody, even my Dad.
Sometimes she compares herself to me and I try to tell her that although we both suffer from anxiety but my situation and feelings are different then hers. She told me to go to the Dr. and get something but I was stubborn. It wasn't until I talked to one of my brothers that I finally went. I went only because he told me he went through the same thing with Panic attacks when he was in the Navy sailing around the world. The meds helped him get through a rough time and was able to then work out of it.
If you feel you can get through the program without the meds then try it. Just remember that being on meds is not bad. I just started them a month ago and I am glad I did. I was afraid to be on them but they are helping me relax and able to get through the program without fighting with myself.
Good luck to you with whatever you choose. Just remember it is your choice and just let your Mom know you want her support but want to try on your own getting through it. Hopefully she will come around.
Sometimes she compares herself to me and I try to tell her that although we both suffer from anxiety but my situation and feelings are different then hers. She told me to go to the Dr. and get something but I was stubborn. It wasn't until I talked to one of my brothers that I finally went. I went only because he told me he went through the same thing with Panic attacks when he was in the Navy sailing around the world. The meds helped him get through a rough time and was able to then work out of it.
If you feel you can get through the program without the meds then try it. Just remember that being on meds is not bad. I just started them a month ago and I am glad I did. I was afraid to be on them but they are helping me relax and able to get through the program without fighting with myself.
Good luck to you with whatever you choose. Just remember it is your choice and just let your Mom know you want her support but want to try on your own getting through it. Hopefully she will come around.