How do u use positive self talk when everything goes wrong?

pearpickinporky · Post by **pearpickinporky** » Fri Feb 01, 2008 10:41 pm

So much of anxiety is to do with how we preceive situations but what do u do when there really is no positives?

This is the same every weekend with me, and it results if arguments with my wife, I almost wish I was at work.

This is my day so far and its only 10.30 in the UK, awoke at 6.30 by my 1 year old crying so had to get up, no weekend lie in there, got up started to make he porridge, tipped the box of porridge of the counter, half the contents on the floor, so got the hoover out, woke the rest of the house, they all got up like angry bears so I thought I would make a mends by cooking breakfast, burn't the sausages and when frying the eggs the yokes kept cracking, minor I know but I like the fried eggs to look perfect, so I went through 5 failed attempts.. The other night we had a bad storm which blew our gate off, so off I went out in the freezing snow to repair, only for my bloody drill to break... Grrrrrrrrrrrr

My 2 year old follows me out and falls in the snow and gets covered in snow and muck, he then goes running in the house covers the carpet in muck and snow and I get an earful.

I just feel like going back to bed and trying again tomorrow..

Grrrr

karmaberry1 · Post by **karmaberry1** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 2:38 am

Well, you got tons of company. After today, you know tomorrow will be better--you will make it better. Tackle on problem at a time. The fence is not a priorty. Focus on completing one task slowly slowly. Recognize the muddle in your mind and situations can be changed with one small step at a time. Evision how you would like you days or day to be or just drop everything and think of something fun to do and DO IT. Leave the muddle behind. Been in the program for six weeks. Believe me it grows on you! My progress is slow but it is getting better.

lovingmysummer · Post by **lovingmysummer** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 5:42 am

I know what your saying.
For quite a while now i have been trying to live better by looking at things differnt. Here are some tips.
I drop something on the floor. I tell myself that im not in the moment. My mind is somewhere else. Cleen it up without complaining and bring myself back to the moment. If i'm not living in the moment, I am not paying attention to what I am doing.
The dog broke the fence gate on a cold rainey day. Solution was to fix it patiently without complaining and bi*#%ing. I did and it was a rather peacefull expereance.
Everything that happens to me now I really try to look at as a teacher. How am I going to get through this without geting upset. This is a test. I want to pass this test. If I get through it calmly I pass.
I don't pass every time but i'm doing much better.

Glass

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:15 am

Well, here's something to drive you crazy. Looking at the day like everything is going wrong is an example on not thinking positively. Yah, I know - who wants to hear that? And what do I know?

Let me give you an example. Several months ago, I had to run a bunch of errands and get to appointments. I was running late for everything so it felt horrible and I was upset and wondering why the day wasn't going right for me. Then I realized that 'hey - I'm making it to all the places I need to go to. If I'm running late, I'm still getting there. If I'm rushing and 'almost' miss my appointment, I'm still getting to my appointment'. I hope this makes sense, but the point is that it feels rotten, but we need to turn the perspective around.

So - when your child is crying, be thankful that they are able to cry. Yes, again, I know that is totally optimistic and sometimes it drives you crazy, but find something that makes the event good.

I used to get upset when I spilled things (try smashing a glass bottle of oil on your tile floor! Yuck!), but I learned that mistakes happen. It's an inconvenience, but everything is fine in the end.

I don't know if I've helped, but I hope so!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:49 am

If you were female I was going to ask you if you were due for your period...tend to get the dropsies around that time. BUT since you aren't...

At any rate, sometimes you just have to laugh. I take EVERYTHING with humor. There is no sense on getting aggravated over something that has already happened...all it does is probably cause the chain of events like you described. Perfect eggs? C'mon! You are only going to stick a fork in them and eat them. Try not to put so much pressure on yourself...everyone has those days...weeks even. Just tell yourself it happens, it's ok, things will get better...and really learn to laugh at yourself..it does help!