NEED REASSURANCE
I have suffered with ocd since I was a child. I have also suffered with severe anxiety and mild depression. This has taken its tole on my marriage. I was having scary, obsessive thoughts about wanting my husband to die, not loving him enough, hurting someone. I knew that these thoughts weren't me. I didn't know how to handle them. So I shared them with my husband. This threw him for a loop. He tried to understand. This program has given him insight. Now he's moved out, had an affair, partly because he feels that I don't love him. I'm trying to do this program, forgive him, fix my marriage, and get myself together. Any advice? I feel like I'm falling apart at times. It's starting to affect my work even.
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Is it possible for you to find someone locally - a professional who understands OCD and PA? It would be so helpful to you to have someone to talk to on a regular basis for awhile. It's nice to have reassurance until you develop the tools to help you move through your concerns.
It is unfortunate that your husband did not understand but what he really needed to do was to inquire, learn and study OCD and PA so that he could be a good support person for you. You are not at fault - as I know you must be feeling this right now.
I recommend you work the program and learn it really, really well. Practice using the tools daily. This program opens up doors to books and other programs that will aid you on your journey. I also recommend Howard Liebgold's Freedom from Fear. You can get it on Amazon.com or angelnet.com. He really focuses on OCD and offers exercises to help you.
This is a difficult time for you right now. I encourage you to love yourself every step of the way. How would you talk to a small child? This is how you need to be talking to yourself. Comfort. Sooth. Be patient. You will get better!
It is unfortunate that your husband did not understand but what he really needed to do was to inquire, learn and study OCD and PA so that he could be a good support person for you. You are not at fault - as I know you must be feeling this right now.
I recommend you work the program and learn it really, really well. Practice using the tools daily. This program opens up doors to books and other programs that will aid you on your journey. I also recommend Howard Liebgold's Freedom from Fear. You can get it on Amazon.com or angelnet.com. He really focuses on OCD and offers exercises to help you.
This is a difficult time for you right now. I encourage you to love yourself every step of the way. How would you talk to a small child? This is how you need to be talking to yourself. Comfort. Sooth. Be patient. You will get better!
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Good morning Flower74 and Boon,
I agree with all that boon is saying. When you do visit with with a professional therapist or physciatrist, ask them if you can take the following:
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You can get a leg up on whether it is safe to supplement the prescription meds with Ginseng by checking out this information:
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I know that it is okay to take along with Zoloft and I think Prozac, but you really need to talk to a professional before adding anything or getting off medications.
As I already said, I think Boon gave you really good advice about seeing a professional and continue the guides in this program.
TC, God Bless you, and may He wrap his strong loving arm around you to give you all the strength, comfort and consolation that will give you the safety and security that you and so many others here so desperately need.
Hugs, In His Love,
Gman
I agree with all that boon is saying. When you do visit with with a professional therapist or physciatrist, ask them if you can take the following:
<A HREF="http://www.vitacost.com/Prince-of-Peace ... 30-Bottles" TARGET=_blank>http://www.vitacost.com/Prince-of-Peace ... Bottles</A>
You can get a leg up on whether it is safe to supplement the prescription meds with Ginseng by checking out this information:
<A HREF="http://www.livingnaturally.com/common/a ... A#Possible" TARGET=_blank>http://www.livingnaturally.com/common/a ... ossible</A> Interactions
I know that it is okay to take along with Zoloft and I think Prozac, but you really need to talk to a professional before adding anything or getting off medications.
As I already said, I think Boon gave you really good advice about seeing a professional and continue the guides in this program.
TC, God Bless you, and may He wrap his strong loving arm around you to give you all the strength, comfort and consolation that will give you the safety and security that you and so many others here so desperately need.
Hugs, In His Love,
Gman
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Guest
Hi flower,
I understand what you are going through and i can see that this must be very hard on a relationship. I do too deal with fears of hurting other people, my bf that i absolutely adore. I think it is a good thing that you shared this with him. I did the same...I told myself, how silly but i cannot keep this inside. He told me, you can hurt me baby. And i wont let you. He told me he wasnt scared and that these were just thoughts, not actions. It brought me relief to just get it out but i still struggle everyday now with those fears. I'm very sorry to hear that your relationship is really suffering because of this. Your partner should be more understanding and you need all the support you can get right now. Dont give up and remember that you are NOT alone feeling this way. It happens to many many people and there is a way out. Get as much help as you can and dont keep these fears for yourself. I find it helpful to talk and have someone calm me down...sorta rationalise these thoughts.
Im here if you need to talk more and best of luck to you
I understand what you are going through and i can see that this must be very hard on a relationship. I do too deal with fears of hurting other people, my bf that i absolutely adore. I think it is a good thing that you shared this with him. I did the same...I told myself, how silly but i cannot keep this inside. He told me, you can hurt me baby. And i wont let you. He told me he wasnt scared and that these were just thoughts, not actions. It brought me relief to just get it out but i still struggle everyday now with those fears. I'm very sorry to hear that your relationship is really suffering because of this. Your partner should be more understanding and you need all the support you can get right now. Dont give up and remember that you are NOT alone feeling this way. It happens to many many people and there is a way out. Get as much help as you can and dont keep these fears for yourself. I find it helpful to talk and have someone calm me down...sorta rationalise these thoughts.
Im here if you need to talk more and best of luck to you