Are you way to soft?

pearpickinporky · Post by **pearpickinporky** » Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:13 am

I was thinking about this today, I am way to soft and sensitive, Here is an example, Few years ago I got a job in a busy shop of all places, Hardly ideal for those suffering from social anxiety, but I stuck it out a month, I left not because of the social anxiety, but because the boss was a total ass and accused me of all sorts like stealing out of the till, But anyway to cut a long story short, I went into lift my final pay and the boss was chatting away to me, He says have you got another job yet, no I said, he said the following "Why don't you try Walmart, it doesn't take to many brain cells to stack shelves, that would suit you" If there ever was a perfect excuse to slap someone that was it, I mean how rude, But I just smiled and walked out..

That is just one example, but I have been treated like a door mat all mylife, and because of my SA and being shy I do nothing about it.

What about u?

Diane · Post by **Diane** » Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:48 am

<span class="ev_code_PURPLE">I totally understand!!! There are sooooo many times that I wish I wouldve stood up for myself but havent b/c of fear of hurting their feelings or them not liking me anymore. Only just recentley, like the last few days, have I really started to feel like I have enough courage to just tell some one how I feel and to heck with what they think. I don't mean like being rude or hateful back, but just being honest with my feelings instead of the smile and laugh it off technique(spelling??) Or say that's ok, i understand when I dont!! I dont understand at all or like it one bit!!! LOL</span>

~Michelle~ · Post by **~Michelle~** » Fri Sep 12, 2008 8:09 am

I had a boss who would say cutting remarks to me( and others) and I just took it. She and her husband were so meanspirited but I never said anything(guess thought I deserved it for some reason) This was a non profit christian organizatin and I could see why this really troubled those not Christian.This couple was transferred and were just as mean to the new set as they were to us. Well I guess they believed in equal opportunity for all people to experience verbal abuse under their watch.