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Pixie_tired · Post by **Pixie_tired** » Wed Feb 27, 2008 11:54 am

I posted this in the parents to parents section but hadn't had a response so i didn't know if posting it here would get it more awareness.

I'm thrilled beyond words that my husband and I are expecting and due in July!! We've been married coming up on 2 years and I love the life we have made together. I was a nervous bride to be, what if'ing all the time, just very nervous to take that big plunge with such a huge life changing event. I knew I wanted to marry my husband, but it scared the crap out of me because of the hugeness that marriage is!! (this even is what made me realize I had issues with anxiety and started therapy) I have been pleasantly at ease in our marriage and more happy than I even would have expected, so all that worry for what has turned out great!

Since becoming pregnant I have been very happy and excited. Last night however as we were laying on the couch watching tv (which is exactly where I always want to be with him) I got to thinking, this is my life and we have this little baby coming. And all of a sudden I started thinking, this is my life, oh my god this is crazy, almost going through those emotions again that I did before I was married. I feel like I stepped out of reality and have been dissecting it today and it makes me sick to feel like I'm making sure all of this is really "right." I think the responsibility of this little one coming into our lives is what is stressing me a bit and making me look at everything. My husband knows how I was before the wedding, I may talk with him tonight too about how I've been feeling today. I've just been so darn good and happy with our relationship that now this is throwing me for a loop here. It didn't help that I was reading early on in the evening last night too about how a baby changes your life and your dynamic with your husband. I don't want things to change but obviously know they will. I guess I just wasn't prepared for our relationship to change as much as just our lives changing with having a baby to care for now. Just some advice or anyone that can relate when this big event took place for them would be reassuring...please.

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:02 pm

Congratulations to you both. Push those negative thoughts aside- God doesn't give you doubt. Focus on the hope and joy that He does give you in a pregnancy.
You two will love each other more and more because of that baby and the love you feel for her or him will be like no other imagined.
When you get stressed or worried, take a few minutes to go through the baby dept and look at the precious things you can buy for the baby. You can browse baby stores online too.
Babies are a responsibility, but the joy outweighs it.
Grab a couple of baby name books to flip through and some on the pregnancy so you know what you'll be going through. A good one is What to Expect When You are Expecting.
Best wishes!

Pixie_tired · Post by **Pixie_tired** » Thu Feb 28, 2008 9:27 am

thank you, i know it is doubt. i just hate that i actually start to wonder if i should believe it. i'm coming out of this better today and know that this doubt is not how i really feel.