Scared to try new things.

[Jed]

I always try to do new things,but I cant seem to get going because I get scared and run away.I think my relationships suffer from this to because I get scared.I was once supposeto get married but she also got affraid then after a while she wanted to get back together,but I wanted to wait and see if she really did,she also suffers from depression I think this is the way I do everything in my life my job and my resposability,could I get a little feed back please.This is a good place to unload,thanks for hearing me out.

[Dave 4]

Hey Jed.......I know exactly where you are coming from. I have had 2 failed marriages and last year broke up with a man I had been engaged to for 6 1/2 years. I always start out with good intentions and this is it and everything is going to be different this time and then I quit.....I'm a quitter; until I started listening to this program. I started the program the day it came to me and guess what.....after a couple of weeks I quit. It was good however that I had listened to the CD's a couple weeks and got a taste of what it is all about. After a few weeks of putting it off (the program) i have found my way back. I can't be in a healthy relationship until I get myself right and I really do feel like I am on the right road now. I have already started looking at things totally different. I have always struggled with depression. And of course everything had to be perfect and why didn't people treat me the way I treated them???? Did my eyes ever open when I listen to these CD's. The positive self talk is so good and this community of members are terrific. You have the program start listening and doing.........I promise you will see a difference.......I am in Session 5 and I can't wait to start Session 6. I think it is great that you have come forward and ask for suggestions and I believe you will get some really helpful input from here. Your great Jed! Have a wonderful day.

[Guest]

I don't think that you should make life changing decisions when you're struggling with anxiety or depression. Maybe the two of you should stay together and work on the program and when you both are doing well enough and feeling confident enough to make important decisions, then talk about marriage. Marriage is not "a walk in the park" all the time amd you're going to have to be able to deal with problems. When I was struggling with anxiety, I had a difficult time making decisions. I was always questioning myself. Now that I'm doing great I'm no longer struggling and wondering what I'm supposed to do. You'll get to that point. Go easy on yourself and your girlfriend. She's going through the same thing you are and one day when you both get better, you just might have a great marriage. Take care of yourself.

[jess23]

I can tell you now after being in the program for four weeks that how you feel and express yourself will certainly affect how your loved ones feel around you. Before I started this program I was very depressed and it was making my wife depressed, a person who is not normally depressed at all but vibrant and full of life. It is incredible to see how even though my wife is not going through the program she is becoming more happy as I am more happy. This really has been a great positive side affect that has greatly helped me keep trying my hardest to overcome depression and anxiety and stay focused on the program. I would recomend that if you have loved ones that suffer from depression that they go through this program with you or at least let them be involved with your healing process. It was hard for me to sit down and talk to my wife about my depression and anxiety. This was sometihng I did not want to burden on her, and it was something I was ashamed of. However I was burdening it on her unkowingly because she was not happy if I was not happy. Communication and support goes a long way in recovery. Hang in there.