My spouse just began the program and I am soooooooooooo happy that we're conquering the anxiety struggle with natural means and working on eliminating my spouse's meds altogether.
This question goes to anyone who may help (not just spouses):
The first weekend, my spouse camped out in our bedroom nearly all day with the program cd's and mostly slept, because they were so relaxing, and so had to replay them time and again. I love what the program teaches. I understand that this program helps teach positive thinking and coping skills and I am all for that! I want to help and be supportive, but don't want the program to be the reason my spouse does little else. How do you find a balance between heeling through the program and getting on with life, and how, as a spouse can I be most helpful and supportive?
Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Support for the supportive :)
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Love and Support
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If your husband is working the program daily,, then GOOD for him!! Many people dont have the opportunity to work on it everyday, and have to fit it in. Sure everyone has some amount of anxiety, there i agree. But, if it becomes debilitating, you cant leave your own home, etc. Then drastic measures are usually taken by the person with anxiety.
They start looking for help! I know my husband became very frustrated and even angry at me for a long time before i ever got the program.
But when i got it, my kids had already left home and married. So, i didnt have that to deal with. My husband was skeptical at first about it. But, when he saw how hard i was working it, and doing the action assignments, and actually making myself get out and start doing things, He became very supportive. Now this took a few weeks for me to be able to really put the skills to work.
But, he would say, Lets go for a walk, or lets go get an ice cream. It was a challenge for me, but the more i did things, the less symptoms i had. Please trust me, he isnt doing this to persecute you! He wants the healing more than you do! HE has to change,, you cant do it for him. I think if you give him a little time, yu will begin to start noticing the changes. My husband seemed to notice before even I did.
I can only imagine how hard it is for the spouses of those with anxiety. But as someone who dealt 30yrs with severe anxiety,, it is a living hell, and NO ONE wants to have this.
I will pray for you and husband.... By the way,, Im doing Great Now!!! And pray that for your husband also.... Nelly:)
They start looking for help! I know my husband became very frustrated and even angry at me for a long time before i ever got the program.
But when i got it, my kids had already left home and married. So, i didnt have that to deal with. My husband was skeptical at first about it. But, when he saw how hard i was working it, and doing the action assignments, and actually making myself get out and start doing things, He became very supportive. Now this took a few weeks for me to be able to really put the skills to work.
But, he would say, Lets go for a walk, or lets go get an ice cream. It was a challenge for me, but the more i did things, the less symptoms i had. Please trust me, he isnt doing this to persecute you! He wants the healing more than you do! HE has to change,, you cant do it for him. I think if you give him a little time, yu will begin to start noticing the changes. My husband seemed to notice before even I did.
I can only imagine how hard it is for the spouses of those with anxiety. But as someone who dealt 30yrs with severe anxiety,, it is a living hell, and NO ONE wants to have this.
I will pray for you and husband.... By the way,, Im doing Great Now!!! And pray that for your husband also.... Nelly:)
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Thank you for your reply. I appreciate you sharing. Congratulations on doing better! I wish the best for you, my husband, and everyone on here that's made the choice to conquer anxiety and/or depression! It's tough to commit to something this life changing (even if it is ultimately better for you - I recognize it's still hard)!
Please keep supporting each other on here. Thanks again, and thank you especially for remembering us in prayer. Keep up the great work - you're changing more lives than just your own!
Please keep supporting each other on here. Thanks again, and thank you especially for remembering us in prayer. Keep up the great work - you're changing more lives than just your own!