I have endometriosis and fibroids and am going in for an abdominal hysterectomy on wednesday. I'm scared to death. I get extremely ill with general anesthesia, and I'm also afraid of the pain, I'm super anxious about having to sleep away from home for a week and deathly afraid that upon waking up, she will tell me that there were complications, that she had to remove my ovaries (won't know till she gets in there)...and what's the deal with the catherer, some say that you can suffer from incontinence afterwards!! AAAHHHHHHH. I'm petrified.
I know it needs to be done. I know that this is all to make the pain and suffering that I have monthly go away. I know that I'm doing the right thing. I have no concerns about not feeling womanly, I have two beautiful children (17 and 10) and don't want anymore so that's not an issue...it's just the pain and suffering and being away from my home for days/and nights.
Has anyone been through this? How did it go? Was it as painful as I'm expecting? Did you suffer from agoraphobia? I will bring my program with me of course and the relaxation tape.
hysterectomy and sooo scared
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Linda, Yes I went thru this in my early 40 's. I survived and you will too. Do you like music or have some favorite speakers? Bring a CD player and you won't feel so all alone. I remember having that feeling and then I got a radio, put on a Christian station and felt peace all thru the night. It seemed the right words were being spoken whenever I started to get afraid. Before I ever had the hysterectomy, before I had kids, I had a cyst on my ovarie and I was so concerned when they took it I wouldn't be able to have kids. The Dr. told me I could still get p.g. with only l/3 of an ovarie. After the hysterctomy, years later I still have an ovarie. Sometimes I think I'd be better without it cuz it seems I still have PMS symptoms but it's sure nice not having a period all those years. I will be praying for you. Everything from the anestic to catheter , actual surgery will be just fine. You won't have all the other junk to deal with. Yes it will take you time to get back to your old self but then your old self will be a better self. Be sure you take your program with and esp. #3 about your self talk. After all, stopping the negative talk is half the battle. EVERYTHING WILL BE OK YOU'RE IN GOD'S HANDS AND HE LOVES YOU! 
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My mom went through it for the same reasons. She was a young tender age of 51. It actually turned out to be a blessing to her. She stayed focus on the ending out come of never having to deal with it again versus the steps to recover from it. It was hard for her to stay positive because fear wanted to torment her. But she won the battle and evicted the fear out of her head. Now her stomache is so much flatter and she lost some weight....she bought a new wardrobe and looks great and is doing beautiful. Stay focus on the positive....
The human mind likes logic, order, and reason. We like to deal with issues we can wrap our understanding around and come up with solutions that make sense to us. We have a tendency to think small because we are limited creatures, and we don't have the perspective to understand from God's point of view. We tend to put things in tiny, neat compartments in our minds, telling ourselves this must be right because it fits nicely there. We need to depend and trust in God to show us things in such a way that we know--with an inner security--that what has been revealed to our mind is correct. One must not allow themselves to reason with their mind, searching for logical solutions. Instead, you must say, "My trust is in the Lord, and whatever He tells me to do, I will obey."
Prayer
Dear God,thank You for loving me more than I can even comprehend. In the name of Jesus Christ, I ask You to help me love and honor You so much that when You speak, I will have only one thought in my mind, and that is to obey. Amen.
The human mind likes logic, order, and reason. We like to deal with issues we can wrap our understanding around and come up with solutions that make sense to us. We have a tendency to think small because we are limited creatures, and we don't have the perspective to understand from God's point of view. We tend to put things in tiny, neat compartments in our minds, telling ourselves this must be right because it fits nicely there. We need to depend and trust in God to show us things in such a way that we know--with an inner security--that what has been revealed to our mind is correct. One must not allow themselves to reason with their mind, searching for logical solutions. Instead, you must say, "My trust is in the Lord, and whatever He tells me to do, I will obey."
Prayer
Dear God,thank You for loving me more than I can even comprehend. In the name of Jesus Christ, I ask You to help me love and honor You so much that when You speak, I will have only one thought in my mind, and that is to obey. Amen.
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11Linda,
I have a partial hysterectomy 6 years ago for fibroid tumors. I found the Hystersisters web site to be helpful. It got to the point for me the pain and bleeding from the tumors was worse than I knew the surgery and recovery would be. I knew soon I would not have that pain from the tumors and cramps. Just think, no more periods or buying sanitary products! God will be with you and your medical staff. You are not alone in this.
I have a partial hysterectomy 6 years ago for fibroid tumors. I found the Hystersisters web site to be helpful. It got to the point for me the pain and bleeding from the tumors was worse than I knew the surgery and recovery would be. I knew soon I would not have that pain from the tumors and cramps. Just think, no more periods or buying sanitary products! God will be with you and your medical staff. You are not alone in this.
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Linda,
It seems that a lot of us ladies are having hoo-hah issues. I just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers. I know you can do it! And just like so many other things, the anticipation is going to be the worst part. You're gonna come out of it and be ok.
I second the music suggestion. I find that music I like to sing, or that has a message, really helps me focus sometimes...and it sometimes makes me feel like God is close to me. For instance, the song I'll Stand By You by the Pretenders. I imagine God is talking to me when I listen to that song, I imagine him letting those words be said to me:
When the night falls on you,
You don't know what to do
Nothing you confess
will make me love you less
I'll stand by you,
Take you even through your darkest hour
and I'll never desert you.
I also find strength in "Let it Be" by the Beatles, Mr. Tambourine Man (Bob Dylan) and Hold Me Know (Jennifer Knapp).
It helps me focus and brings me momentary peace. I am sending you good thoughts and keeping you in my prayers.
It seems that a lot of us ladies are having hoo-hah issues. I just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers. I know you can do it! And just like so many other things, the anticipation is going to be the worst part. You're gonna come out of it and be ok.
I second the music suggestion. I find that music I like to sing, or that has a message, really helps me focus sometimes...and it sometimes makes me feel like God is close to me. For instance, the song I'll Stand By You by the Pretenders. I imagine God is talking to me when I listen to that song, I imagine him letting those words be said to me:
When the night falls on you,
You don't know what to do
Nothing you confess
will make me love you less
I'll stand by you,
Take you even through your darkest hour
and I'll never desert you.
I also find strength in "Let it Be" by the Beatles, Mr. Tambourine Man (Bob Dylan) and Hold Me Know (Jennifer Knapp).
It helps me focus and brings me momentary peace. I am sending you good thoughts and keeping you in my prayers.