I was agoraphobic for almost a year. Stores and restaurants didn't bother me so much that I couldn't go, but any travel outside of my "comfort zone" realllly bothered me and I just would not go unless my husband took me. I also didn't want to socialize very much unless it was with my family or my best friend.
So after a few months I got a new job! I was so excited! I was nervous about part of the job, but I didn't let it stop me from applying for it. I needed a push. Part of the job was traveling between 5 offices, and you guessed it, connected by highways and a bridge! I was not in the deepest part of my phobias at that point but I made myself just do it "afraid".
I first got on the highway again all by myself. I went alone on purpose incase I chickened out, lol. I went mid-morning when the work traffic was already gone. I told myself I would get on the highway and if I couldn't handle it I would get off at the very next exit. I knew at that point a panic attack would not kill me, so I decided to give it a shot.
Let me tell you, I drove past that entrance ramp 2 times before I actually got on the highway. I got a big adrenaline rush when I finally made the turn. I kept telling myself I was ok, I was an excellent driver, etc.
I got on the highway and guess what?? I was fine! My adrenaline calmed down in about 1 minute. It's the ANTICIPATION that stops us from doing things. The pre-thinking. But once we get there we are fine.
So I drove 4 exits, got off and turned around and went back home via the same highway and I was so flippin proud of myself! I now get on the highway regularly like a normal person with no problems. I still pray calmly over bridges, but I make myself go.
I'm telling you all this to let you know that there is HOPE for you. If you can't drive right now or you can't get on the highway, the time will come if you keep telling yourself that you can do it again. Keep on the program and little tests will come up for you to attempt common things again. You can get there!!