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freeway · Post by **freeway** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 2:50 pm

I get this negative thought of "What if I do get over this? I can't imagine life without anxiety and scary thoughts" and that causes
anxiety because I'm so sick and tired of it.
I then try this as a positive: "It's o.k. to feel this way, I'm learning peace and calm are good for me and it will feel good". Does anyone else have suggestions?

Carolyn Dickman · Post by **Carolyn Dickman** » Sun Mar 23, 2008 2:42 pm

Are you currently going through the program? If you are you will be interested in session 12. It deals specifically with what you are talking about. It is hard to believe but we are actually getting something from our anxiety and scary thoughts or at least we think we are and that is why we are so resistant to changing ourselves. Anxiety keeps us in our "comfort zone" and we feel safe but as long as we stay in our "comfort zone" we will never discover what we are truly capable of. I hope this is what you are looking for.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 23, 2008 3:21 pm

Thank-you for responding. I agree with you so totally! This is why I feel frustrated at times because it I so very much want to get out of this anxiety thing. And when I feel anxious about not being anxious, I shake my head and feel awful.
I've had the program for 4 years and honestly, I wasn't willing to accept that I had an anxiety disorder. Finding an amazing cognitive therapist who helped me take a look at where I came from and facing all that stuff, I am wanting to face this thing head on. I appreciate you replying to me:)

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Sun Mar 23, 2008 4:37 pm

freeway, now that you know for sure you have anxiety make sure you do your program every day.Like miss mag said many of us whether we admit it or not are getting something out of it. This still is hard to comprehend for me. Yes, I guess for me it would be attention even tho that's hard to admit. I'm still not totally sure, also after doing it a 2nd time I'm thinking am I getting comfort out of the anxiety? The other day after anxiety and then depression then crawling in bed with the soft covers, it hit me...there's some comfort in the depression...in the nice warm bed. Yikes, definitely not a good sign but maybe reality. So remember inch by inch it's a cinch. Yard by yard it's hard. You can do this. So can I! We're in this together and we're all here for one another so climb aboard honey.