confidence and anxiety
I'm 22 years old and have always had low self-esteem and high anxiety. I first of all have no clue why i do, i have a great mother, have always had friends, and i know im not a bad looking guy. I am in a fraternity and well known by many on campus. I have always been told i have a great personality and I'm nice to everyone as well. I'm not trying to brag because i would be the last person to brag, but I say all this because i have reasons to be confident I'm just not. I have trouble being confident around girls i like, never knowing what to say or do next to try to get them to like me. I mean Im 22 and I'm telling the girls friend to "try to hook me up" because im not confident or know what to say to do it myself without that fear of rejection. It probably doesn't help with the anxiety i feel a lot and i constantly over-analyzing everything. I feel like I am somewhat of a happy kid and i have a lot of fun being in college and just having a good time, but I just want to be that confident guy that i have wished i could be for many years. I hope someone can help
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Guest
I'm 24 and I have the same problem, although I am a lot more confident than I used to be. A lot of people suffer from low self-esteem, no matter how attractive they are or how great a personality they have. Have you done Session 3 of the program, the session on self talk? It really helps with self-esteem and confidence. I'd also recommend the book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter. Ultimately our low self-esteem is a result of the negative messages we tell ourself, most of which aren't true!
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Guest
no i havne't tried session 3 i don't have the program...im a poor college kid haha...i may check out taht book though and see what its all about. I agree though its negative messages we tell ourself. The constant thinking doesn't help either one thought that is a little negative turns into a huge negative thought the more i think about it.