What is it that causes some people (me) to be obsessed with activities that I enjoy? When I first get into something whether it's a hobby or interest, I want to do it all the time. This also relates to if I have a problem. . . want to try to figure it out all the time, have a hard time thinking of anything else.
I've done this with certain video games, crafts, gardening, etc etc.
Anyone have feedback on that?
My psychologist said I'm somewhat obsessive, somewhat compulsive at times but he wouldn't diagnose me as OCD.
Obsessed with activities
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spedteacher
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hi Faith TX--- I'm not sure that it really matters to have the "diagnosis" or not. I think that it IS however wonderful that you are aware of this! Your being aware is ALL you need to work on the issue! If a depressed person is AWARE that they are depressed- it's still gonna be quite difficult to get out of bed in the morning BUT how HUGE is it just that they REALIZE that they ARE depressed and staying in bed won't HELP their condition! Hope this perspective helps!
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I guess. I still don't know what is OK and what isn't. If I rely on my husband's definition, I feel like I can never have any fun.
That same counselor told me that I need to stop watching my every move for proof that I'm "not normal". He says that just because you get excited about something new, doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. However, it seems to really get under my husband's skin.
That same counselor told me that I need to stop watching my every move for proof that I'm "not normal". He says that just because you get excited about something new, doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. However, it seems to really get under my husband's skin.
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faith tx...please take NO offense to this because I don't know 1st hand nor would I want you to think that I'm "over-stepping" boundaries or starting a neg. thought for you BUT it sounds like this is your husband's "issue" NOT yours! You can sit around and try to psycho-anylize that all you want, you can also take his comments personally and let them hurt you or sit around psycho-anylizing yourself but for WHATEVER the reason- my "being outside the 'bubble'" is telling me that this really is his problem NOT yours! Now talking to him about it is a very simple piece of advice but, yes, I too am married and realize that some things are easier said than done! Rather than playing this "talk" through your head why don't you just try making it a point to -as soon as he "comments" after the next whatever- make sure you stop in your tracks and simply ask him "why" he would say that or "why" does this get under his skin sooo much--that way you don't have to think of examples or start a silly arguement-- even if you don't get the answer you're looking for- you should point out that his comments or neg. feelings toward your actions is hurtful! Hope this helps!
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No offense taken. I've tried talking to him about it. In fact we talked about it in counseling yesterday. He made it sound like my issue.
First of all, one day I was playing on the computer and the kids were entertained, and I'd given them a snack and we were waiting on DH to get home to have our meal. When he pointed this out to our counselor he said that I was not getting my things done I was just playing games. He said that he came home at 7pm and I was playing on the computer and the kids weren't fed. I was really upset at how he was trying to make this look. He also mentioned I was staying up until 1am when normally I went to bed at 9:30. This was true. (and I'm really not into the game any more since it has become such an issue). I mentioned to the counselor that he stays up late every night watching TV and of course at that point the counselor pointed out that we are always pointing fingers at the other.
We had a disagreement about it last night and I was saying that no matter what I do he gets all upset if I'm not giving him all my attention. Yeah, I sometimes get in my own little world, but what's wrong with having some of my own interests? I also mentioned that I come on here and talk because he just wants to watch TV all the time and I'm bored and lonely and need outside companionship (which was part of why I was playing that game. . .it was on Facebook where my friends are)
I've had my head in such a jumble about this for about a month. I don't think he's intentionally hurting me, but I feel like I'm being controlled. He even said to the counselor "whenever she has one of these episodes where she is obsessed with something, she doesn't want to think of anything else.
I asked him. . .why not just say "hey, I'm bored/lonely/whatever . . .come hang out with me" He says he doesn't feel he can do that. Instead he'll play little games like turning off a link on the computer and then joking about it like he's playing. And I don't see the humor.
I'm trying REALLY REALLY hard to make things work out, but I can't get past this. . . and wondering how we draw the lines so I can feel free to have some fun without him getting upset about it. But, he gets so calm and "matter of fact" about it, I'm left wondering if I'm just being nuts myself!
First of all, one day I was playing on the computer and the kids were entertained, and I'd given them a snack and we were waiting on DH to get home to have our meal. When he pointed this out to our counselor he said that I was not getting my things done I was just playing games. He said that he came home at 7pm and I was playing on the computer and the kids weren't fed. I was really upset at how he was trying to make this look. He also mentioned I was staying up until 1am when normally I went to bed at 9:30. This was true. (and I'm really not into the game any more since it has become such an issue). I mentioned to the counselor that he stays up late every night watching TV and of course at that point the counselor pointed out that we are always pointing fingers at the other.
We had a disagreement about it last night and I was saying that no matter what I do he gets all upset if I'm not giving him all my attention. Yeah, I sometimes get in my own little world, but what's wrong with having some of my own interests? I also mentioned that I come on here and talk because he just wants to watch TV all the time and I'm bored and lonely and need outside companionship (which was part of why I was playing that game. . .it was on Facebook where my friends are)
I've had my head in such a jumble about this for about a month. I don't think he's intentionally hurting me, but I feel like I'm being controlled. He even said to the counselor "whenever she has one of these episodes where she is obsessed with something, she doesn't want to think of anything else.
I asked him. . .why not just say "hey, I'm bored/lonely/whatever . . .come hang out with me" He says he doesn't feel he can do that. Instead he'll play little games like turning off a link on the computer and then joking about it like he's playing. And I don't see the humor.
I'm trying REALLY REALLY hard to make things work out, but I can't get past this. . . and wondering how we draw the lines so I can feel free to have some fun without him getting upset about it. But, he gets so calm and "matter of fact" about it, I'm left wondering if I'm just being nuts myself!
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I can very much relate to all of that. Needing some "me" time esp. w/ having kids, and hubby almost getting "jealous" about how you choose to spend your "me" time. If you're anything like me.. I tend to get anxiety when he points out that dinner's not ready and I hop on the computer until the timer goes off in say 30min. I very much feel GUILTY when he acts "ticked-off" so if you can at all relate to this what I can most def. advise is that if you believe that you shouldn't be doing what you're doing then why shouldn't he!! I really needed the skills taught in session 3 about self-talk! I am becoming MY cheerleader 1st and that's what's imp. right now! I fed & bathed the kids. Dinner is cleaned up. Homework is done and guess what...it's my turn to put my feet up and watch tv, go on the computer, because if we constantly keep sched. our husband's in before ourselves it becomes too easy to learn not to "like" them!