sister-in-law

LaceyM · Post by **LaceyM** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 3:47 pm

i have no idea how to handle my sister-in-law.
we are the same age and i would love for us to be friends but she is just not having it. she acts like she hates me and says hurtful comments but i try to just brush them off. other times shes really nice to me. i've always been too afraid to confront her because i don't want to upset my mother-in-law. my sister-in-law doesn't have a lot of friends and i can't understand why she won't confide in me. i'm extremely trustworthy and we've both dealt with similar issues. i deal with anxiety and depression. she has dealt with bulimia and depression. should i just let it go and only see her when i have to or should i continue to try and befriend her?

recovering · Post by **recovering** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 4:43 pm

Hi Lacey:
I think I'd quit trying so hard. I wouldn't necessarily avoid her but I'd just more or less leave her be. If you just back up a bit she might eventually open up to you.
But she is not ready right now.

And you can be your own best friend. You can
be YOUR safe person.

We don't really need other's approval to be content within ourselves.
And when she sees that you are not so eager, well it might spark some interest from her.
But if it doesn't, it won't matter.

I wouldn't be unfriendly. But I wouldn't try to win her. you've already tried and she hasn't responded.

Do you have the program? If so, put your efforts into the program and work on your own self esteem.
But you can be kind when you are around others.

I hope this will be helpful to you.
Mary Jane