Anger

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Sat Mar 29, 2008 4:24 am

There's been a lot of posts about anger lately. I really got angry when something happens like I've burned the bread or the something spills. It's almost always over little stuff and it puts me in a bad mood that's hard to get over.
I read something on anger a few days ago that is helping me, and I thought I would share.

"I'm angry a lot and at nearly everyone. Sometimes it makes me feel good, right, superior, even godly. Of course, sometimes I don't like being angry at all. I feel ashamed of losing my temper and frustrated to have my feelings revealed.
Anger is rooted in disappointment, and life has plenty of that. Disappointment is all about hings not going the way I think they should, and that's all about pride. I demand that life go my way- the right way. When it doesn't, my rage boils over ir I get moody, depressed, miserable.
SO I try not to be self-righteous and think I control the universe. Things will happen to let me down and things will happen that are unexpected. I have to change the way I think and handle life's curve balls."

Beverly

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 29, 2008 4:57 am

Bev thanks for sharing that, I got angry at my kids yesterday for leaving the window open and I just went off. That was ridiculus and I have control over my own mind and there was no reason to act that way. But I do have to say I have gotton a lot better, I used to yell all the time. My husband and I made a bet on who yells at the kids the most, and I won, it hurt me at first but it also made me realize I have got to learn to calm down.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:35 am

Bev, thanks so much for sharing that

Anger has been such a nuissance lately and there are times that I'm afraid I'm just going to "snap"! I have two small children and I sometimes feel that I am going to lose my cool. I hate feeling this way and it's scary. All I can keep telling myself is "this is part of the anxiety and I'm "expecting" more out of life and myself than need be. I too feel like life should always go and I see fit...HA!! If it were only that easy..LOL It's that damn control issue I have. Anyways, I am getting better, I've made lots of accomplishments, however, this issue has been the toughest to deal with. But, I'm coping and living one day at a time.
Again, thanks for sharing and God bless

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 30, 2008 4:34 am

I can relate with you all. Anger consumed me and poured out in the smallest of upsets. Not reacting has been so difficult but yet sooooo freeing. To make the effort to not react and then not get so angry is making such a difference. I was ashamed and felt awful everytime that I got angry. I am still working hard to correct it. But it is making such a difference and letting me calm down and relax. Good luck to all. Bad habits is all it comes too. We can change and fix ourselves. Boy it is hard and trying. But starting in March with the program I am growing and getting better. Being a better role model for my children.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 30, 2008 5:27 pm

I get so angry at my husband cause he has addiction issues and I have th be the adult in the family and control the discussion around our kids. He acts like a child and pushes my buttons in front of the kids, for instance at the dinner table tonight. He has been to rehab for his addiction and was sober for 1 year, until a relapse in the summer has made it imposible to quit. In February, he agreed to 3 marriage counselling sessions but couldn't attend the 3rd, (I went alone) and all he could talk about was the way I don't respect his parents!! They did raise him and they don't take responsibility for how he turned out! I told my husband that this was the last straw. He said he has stopped, but I know he is still smoking it. I can't have this around my children, nor his behavior triggering me...!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 5:13 pm

Mom of 6,
I think it's normal to lose our tempers with the kids and you have double trouble. When I get angry and just need a break, I put mine in her crib b/c she can't get hurt in there and take a timeout. I still smoke occasionally, so I usually just step outside for a moment on the porch. Or I'll put her in her high chair with some snacks so I can know she's out of the middle of whatever I'm trying to do. Hope some of this helps. I have big issues with control problems too. THe more I try to control, the less I actually do. I need to learn to take life as it comes. Just "Be Still" and let God handle it. It's going to go as He sees fit- no use in fighting Him.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 03, 2008 5:28 pm

i get angry at work alot...when someone wants to see whats inside a box thats untagged...so i open it for them and then they dont want it''well gee i opend it for nothing'' .and for the little things i get real pissed,except now im trying to get over it before the sun comes down