Birthday Sadness

Raker · Post by **Raker** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:30 am

Today is my birthday. Does anyone else get really depressed on their birthdays? I've been feeling so great lately, woke up feeling good, but one negative interaction with a friend and I'm right back to where I usually am on this day. So upset.

Carolyn Dickman · Post by **Carolyn Dickman** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:33 am

if i did not do what i wanted to do before a certain age, such as having a child, getting married.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:51 am

happy birthday!

Laura V · Post by **Laura V** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:52 am

First of all..Happy Birthday!!! Second, My bday is tomorrow!!!! 25..ugh....

All those things I wanted to do before I turned 25? no, didnt really happen! OH WELL! Life goes on!

Ill prolly cry tomorrow, I usually do, just as long as your aging gracefully, youll be ok!!

Enjoy your day! its yours:)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:03 am

Its so weird. It's like no matter what each year the same old feelings come back. And my sensitivity is totally in high gear. Hate it!

And Happy Birthday to you too! You've helped make mine better and I thank you. Enjoy yours!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:47 am

Happy Birthday!!!

:):)

Where does the time go? Live every day to the fullest cuz you never know when it ends. You could plan on doing or saying things by certain ages but you need to live as happy and fullfilled as possible. I know don't tell me.....what do you mean, we're here (lol)? You can do it, my day wasn't the greatest today but I believe in the moment (it changes every second) and that every day is a brand new day NO MATTER what!

:):)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:12 am

My birthday is the 26th and I do get a little sad on this day. I don't necessarily have regrets or fear getting older, but it brings up memories of my Mom (she's gone now) and I still miss getting a B-Day card from her even after 11 years.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:42 am

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[COLOR:PURPLE]

I may be wrong, but you sound like I sound on the holidays. High expectations, or disappointments from the past to where you're creating these feelings every single year so that maybe you can try and fix it? Somewhere along the line you had a major disappointment having to do with your birthday, no? But,If I were you, I would do something nice for myself, change things this year, to where next year it will be different. Expect something different. But, you gotta do something different to get something different. Happy Birthday sadness, and smile! You lived another year, that is a celebration in itself. Trust me, you never know when your end will come. I lost 6 people in my family a couple of years ago, 3 of them were in their 20's. This day is yours! Celebrate, even if it's small,

AND MANY MORE..................................

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Aug 21, 2008 11:39 am

Happy Birthday. Mine is tomorrow. I tend to look back on past birthdays and get a little sad because they were such happier times for me. My family's tradition is to go out the dinner with everyone, aunt's, uncle's, friends etc... We always go to an italian restuarant (we're italian) and have lots of food and wine. Tomorrow, I won't be doing that. I've been having a hard summer with my anxiety and haven't been able to do everything I want to. My mom is going to come over tomorrow and we will have a girls day, which is still nice.

However, I do look forward to next year's birthday in hopes it will be a better year to look back on then it was this year. Happy Birthday, again. I hope you still enjoyed your day.

h.beth · Post by **h.beth** » Fri Aug 22, 2008 12:57 am

<span class="ev_code_RED">HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!</span>

:p

I just turned 40 on 8/15. I made a deliberate decision to be HAPPY & to CELEBRATE. I had just come out of the hardest 3 1/2 yrs of my entire life - BIG TIME. In that time, I faced/felt/dealt w/ some of the most difficult/painful things 1 can fathom possible in therapy. In addition, I experienced the worst of anxiety disorder & then depression. Finally, I faced MYSELF - lol, what a dooooooooosy, lol(joking). In their totality, it was not easy. HOWEVER & BUT(yep, there's a but): <span class="ev_code_RED">I've come out on the OTHER SIDE - I've recovered fr anxiety disorder + I am recovering fr the depression = I am now on the lowest dosage possible w/ the medication & soon will be off it completely(as is my personal goal) + I've come out of this process, having faced what I needed to W/O A HARDENED HEART = I am not angry/bitter/resentful - I believe in LIFE/LOVE/FAMILY/FRIENDS & MYSELF IN SPITE OF "THE FACTS" + "THE PROCESS" + "WHAT ANXIETY DISORDER & DEPRESSION" TRIED TO THROW @ ME. I have changed my dietary intake, established a consistant exercise regime & have lost 70lbs thus far(1.6 more to go, lol) - THAT IS WAY COOL W/ MY TURNING 40, LOL.</span>

I suppose I realized I just finished spending the past 3 1/2 yrs being filled w/ pain/sadness - I didn't like it obviously. I wanted more for myself - I decided I was deserving & entitled to a life of happiness = I was ready to leave that behind. I DID IT FOR ME. On the morning of my bday, I got up b/4 my husband. I had my traditional 1 cup of coffee & sat by myself - w/ some music on. IN that EXACT moment, I literally thought "how am I gonna choose to address/feel about this day & my turning 40?" I replied to myself, lol(you can say it, I am crazy, lol hahahahah) "I want to celebrate where I am + how far I've come + focus on what I do have opposed to what I don't + the love I am blessed w/ by those in my life & the wonderful people I have met in the anxiety disorder world + the love I have for myself + the love I have fr our God." So, while sitting there early in the morning, w/ my hot cup of coffee, music playing, feeling calm/cool/collected/relaxed/@ peace, I compiled a list of apprx 10+ things I am greatful for.

Yes, there were many bdays in yrs gone by(all prior to anxiety disorder triggering & my having to take this journey) where my expectations of myself & particularly OTHERS were EXTREMELY DISTORTED - therefore, something/anything was never enough, for 1 reason or another. I set myself up for disappointment - I just didn't realize it. The GOOD THING IS, this "JOURNEY" allowed me to see that. Now, I know better - I can do better = I can choose how I choose to react/feel. I know it sounds corney kind of, but honest engine - that morning I knew I deserved happiness + love + peace - not looking back on the past anymore but rather, looking @ right here & now. Things for me could have been so much different, the facts of my past & the level of my anxiety disorder told me that - that is why I celebrate. I am blessed.

Lucinda was right(again, lol) when she said we choose how we want to react & feel w/ many things. RAKER, don't let that 1 negative friend or any other negative person mess w/ your positive vibe - let them stay miserable. Rather, you be happy for you. Surround yourself w/ positive people + focus on what you do have, NOT what you don't - celebrate the wonderful person you are - do it for you.

Your friend,

LENORE

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