Controlling anger
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Guest
Hi everyone,
Haven't checked in with the support group for awhile now. Anyway I am now going through session 10, I believe I am doing well with the program. I didnot expect to recover overnight since anxiety never came on overnight. I know I am recovering because I am getting my confidence back, I am taking chances without caring wether or not I have a panick attack , that is something I WAS NEVER ABLE TO DO BEFORE. i REALLY am so grateful for this program. I no longer feel alone. I realize something important too if we make anxiety a big deal it will be around. I still feel anxious in the mornings when I wake up but I DONT MAKE IT A BIG DEAL ANYMORE.We all need to stop giving anxiety credit or so much attention. As it relates to anger, I admit I too have some problem controlling my anger not with strangers but with my fiance. I am always lashing out at him . I know it is not right and dont think I try hard enough to control my anger. I know I will have to work on this. Anyway I am still happy with my progress. I think when you move from being totally scared to coping ( using your skills) and saying words like "so what if" you are recovering. That is where I am and I thank God and the Stress Centre. I am going to make it I know it. Good Luck and God bless you all. NEVER GIVE UP!!!!
Haven't checked in with the support group for awhile now. Anyway I am now going through session 10, I believe I am doing well with the program. I didnot expect to recover overnight since anxiety never came on overnight. I know I am recovering because I am getting my confidence back, I am taking chances without caring wether or not I have a panick attack , that is something I WAS NEVER ABLE TO DO BEFORE. i REALLY am so grateful for this program. I no longer feel alone. I realize something important too if we make anxiety a big deal it will be around. I still feel anxious in the mornings when I wake up but I DONT MAKE IT A BIG DEAL ANYMORE.We all need to stop giving anxiety credit or so much attention. As it relates to anger, I admit I too have some problem controlling my anger not with strangers but with my fiance. I am always lashing out at him . I know it is not right and dont think I try hard enough to control my anger. I know I will have to work on this. Anyway I am still happy with my progress. I think when you move from being totally scared to coping ( using your skills) and saying words like "so what if" you are recovering. That is where I am and I thank God and the Stress Centre. I am going to make it I know it. Good Luck and God bless you all. NEVER GIVE UP!!!!
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Guest
I too struggle with anger. I can be fine one minute and something, I see, read, or hear can set me off. Then one day last August, before, getting the program, I physically lashed out at someone. This was a culmination of other things that had happened previously due to my anger.
Afterwards, this really scared me and I thought, "what am I doing?" I felt terrible. Then I heard an advertisement for the program and ordered it. I just finished it around Christmas.
This is the best thing I did. I still get angry. It is just that I manage it much better. I ask myself-why am I anger, Is this realistic or are my expectation too high? What am I trying to accomplish by my anger. Do I want to resolve things or just fight? How do I feel physically when I am angry?
Anger is a normal emotion just like feeling happy; however, most people do not manage their anger in a positive way.
I believe, that if we know we are getting angry or feel angry-we need to ask ourselves the above questions and go from there.
Remember-It is hard to respect someone with uncontrolled anger. It is ok to be assertive and stand up for your rights and beliefs, but it is not ok to have uncontrolled anger and make personal attacks.
Deborah
Afterwards, this really scared me and I thought, "what am I doing?" I felt terrible. Then I heard an advertisement for the program and ordered it. I just finished it around Christmas.
This is the best thing I did. I still get angry. It is just that I manage it much better. I ask myself-why am I anger, Is this realistic or are my expectation too high? What am I trying to accomplish by my anger. Do I want to resolve things or just fight? How do I feel physically when I am angry?
Anger is a normal emotion just like feeling happy; however, most people do not manage their anger in a positive way.
I believe, that if we know we are getting angry or feel angry-we need to ask ourselves the above questions and go from there.
Remember-It is hard to respect someone with uncontrolled anger. It is ok to be assertive and stand up for your rights and beliefs, but it is not ok to have uncontrolled anger and make personal attacks.
Deborah