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The spiritual response to anxiety and depression
*D*
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Post by *D* » Fri Jan 11, 2008 11:59 am

BETH,
I agree what ahe said and, want you to know that nothing is impossible with GOD .it seems the devil wants us to give up and give in.. hold no matter what and it will work for you..we are her to help and support you..i am sorry that you had to reach out to your ex and it did not help. i have an ex as well and, i know how you feel..
we have all struggled at one time or another. if the program worked for me then it can work for you too.
our Church started a 21 day fast and my wife had never been on one. we are on a Daniel fast and eat vegestables and fruits and water and juice..
if you do not hve a Church find one so that you will have the C hristian fellowship that we all need and GODS word as well..take care and if you ever need to talk give me a holler..know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and GOD BLESS..
DON
my email address is doninva23605@yahoo.com
also it might help you a little to read my profile. it will give you an idea of what i went through..

JNB
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Post by JNB » Fri Jan 11, 2008 4:15 pm

Thank you so much Don and Annettew
I'm not giving up it's just that I think I'm really, really angry with God right now and I feel guilty for doing so. I think I know somewhere deep inside he's more then likely right in taking this man out of my life, but he can do anything, right? I know things can be worse and to be quite truthful there is nothing bad in my life including my Lupus. I'm able to do lots of things, good friends, healthy kids, roof over head and etc. Yet, this one thing that I want seems out of reach no matter how I pray. I pray to let me let go, to let him stay, to meet someone else, or just peace of mind. I get so many mixed messages, as I call them, from God (I think).I wonder why he was brought into my life, what lesson was I to learn, cause I just don't get it, why when I'm at my lowest at times and ask God to let me see him or call me and zap there he is. Then before I know it and I'm feeling secure he's taking away again. This has been going on for 4 1/2 years now. I think it's finally over now and am struggling with it, but can't seem to have a lot of faith or whatever anymore. know I've told God no matter what he does to me I will always love him and I do, but this disappointment I feel is so deep and I'm scared. I always think of what's said about asking and it will be answered and there's nothing God can't do, but I don't know anymore. Please pray that I get my faith back because I sure can use it.

Beth

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Post by LCE » Sat Jan 12, 2008 11:22 am

Beth,

I'm so sorry for your breakup. I know how hard it is. Last April, my husband left me for another woman two days after our 26th anniversary and four days after my 58th birthday. That was the third time he left me during our marriage. Since April, I've been struggling with anxiety and depression.

I know sometimes it seems like God isn't listening to us when we pray, but He's always with us. Like you, I couldn't understand why God let this happen to me. But God gave us free will. The fact that we hooked up with two selfish men might our own choosing and not God's will.

I also prayed for God to send my husband home like He did before. I couldn't understand why God didn't answer my prayer this time. I'm beginning to think He really did, but the answer was "no."

Like a child, I can't understand why my Father told me "no." But I know that as a loving parent does, sometimes God has to tell His daughter "no" when she wants something that's not good for her. Maybe God knows better than we do that we deserve much better than being with two self-centered men.

There is a prayer that some people use to "pray constantly" as they say. It's called "the Jesus prayer." It goes like this, "Lord Jesus, son of God, have mercy on me." I always add "and help me" at the end.

When you're driving in your car or exercising or doing a repetitive task, you can say it over and over. I know that your heart is literally breaking and that you feel a huge hole in your heart like I do. The prayer really does help to ease the pain in your heart even if it's only for a few minutes.

Friends of mine who have been through a divorce tell me that it take two to three years to get over the feelings of abandonment. Your relationship lasted over 4 years. It's going to take time for you to heal too.

I know that you want the pain to end right now, and that it seems like it never will. I recently bought a book at Barnes & Noble that might help you. It's entitled, The Journey from Abandoment to Healing by Susan Anderson. It's about surviving through the five stages of grief. Also, talking to a sympathetic pastor might help you like it did me.

You and the other friends in our community will be in my prayers. Now when I say the Jesus prayer, I'll say, "Lord Jesus, son of God, have mercy on our prayer community and help us." I hope you and the other friends in our community will say a prayer for me.

Sister

P.S. Do you know when the members who live in the Central time zone pray?

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Post by cfe » Sat Jan 12, 2008 3:40 pm

JNB; "do what I need to do for me and not for him.....open his eyes to how he's treated me"

I am so proud of you, you have such insight, it took me 30 years of marriage to stand up for myself like you are. I leaned, that men don't think like we do, they don't see things the way we do. We have to tell them what is going on, how your perception of how they are acting affects your relationship with them. Men are not relationship oriented. they are more oriented toward competition, I have heard it preached that women have to help men (be there help mate) in relationships. one of the many reasons God decided men needed women. So that means we need to communicate to them, in their language how we are feeing, I have learned the "formula for respect" To make sure they have time to listen to you. to speak about only the facts, of the current conflict, without emotion, and without confronting them with old problems never say "you always" or you never".
Simply; "When you (state what he did or said) "I felt" (state how it made you feel) "because" (make sure you have dug inside and found out why it made you feel that way, some times it is our baggage that their behavior triggers old pain that isn't even their fault, but that is OK he still needs to know how his actions affect you. when you are deciding why you feel the way you do, it is a great time to dissect why you are feeling that way. Lucinda speaks about how we often make the one we are with pay for what another person did, and some times it can defuse the whole thing when we realize we are not so perfect that we can change another, when we ourselves need to forgive, and move on. You can't make some one else pay for your pain from the past, it isn't fair to them. "Therefore" is the last statement, never use it if you do not intend to back it up with action, don't say I will kill you if you wont. My grandmother told me that when I had my first child, "If your not going to kill them don't say you will"

You will never get respect if you make empty promises, or threats. men need to feel honored, as much as women need to feel cherished. We are different and he is not going to understand if you don't tell him, how you feel and why. I learned this from Jimmy Evens Rock Solid Marriage CD's and it has been the rock I rebuilt my marriage on, I am happier now than I have been in our entire marriage make no mistake we teach people how to treat us, if we let them walk on us, they will, if we let them ignore us they will! It will take a little time but if he is worth keeping it is worth the time spent to retrain him to treat you with the same respect and dignity he treats his friends, expect nothing less, than what you want, or move on, he is not for you, believe me he will never change after you are married if he will not change now.. My daughter spent 16 years learning it only gets worse once you are married if it is wrong to start with.
God Bless your mess

Welcome thishastoheop,got-lov,teABlessing,Denny,debbie32,emmanslave,LCESister, Welcome in to our group. you number up to 124 according to my list, and you are now on it. you are so right prayer has power.

I did not go to Sunday school last week, or church or bible study, I leaned that changing old habits take determination. I came face to face with my phobias the phone interrupted my plans, as usual, I did not walk out of the house expecting God to take care of what ever that was for a few hours, I answered, it and was drawn in to someone else's problems, and lost my momentum. soon it was too late to go. I felt badly for a while but am more determined now than last week, I am more sure than ever that my fears are keeping me from doing that witch God wants me to do. I have written, out the entire problem and through that journaling I have learned, that I am looking to feel God instead of having the Faith that He is with me always, I am thinking I need to find Him in church instead of taking Him with me, in order to serve Him there, He wants me to be His Salt & Light, He has fed me now it is time I served, Him. I am feeling stronger, I am believing tonight I can stand against the gates of hell, with God leading me there. Thank you for all your wonderful prayers for me. this week. God Bless all of you

Draw Your Strength from God; by Joyce Meyer
Learn to quickly follow the inner promptings of the Holy Spirit, Come apart with Him privately before you come apart publicly. Spend time with God by talking to Him and reading His Word, so you can remain stable as you deal with the daily affairs of life.
<span class="ev_code_RED">In conclusion, be strong in the Lord [be empowered through your union with Him]; draw your strength from Him {that strength which His boundless might provides} - Ephesians 6;10 AMP</span>

I am praying tonight for all of us to draw close to God, and have Faith that He is with us, through each valley we all must walk, He is directing our steps, and we must step out of the boat and follow Him, through what ever the day brings. I pray tonight we sleep well, and wake anointed with the oil of gladness, and face the new day with the Strength of the Lord in Jesus name Amen
Cheri {8^) keep looking up ~!~ BLESSED ARE THE CRACKED FOR THEY LET IN THE LIGHT

'Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option'.
"What you are is God's gift to you, and what you do with what you are is your gift to God" Too Blessed to be Stressed!!! May Grace and Mercy be multiplied to you.

Lord Help me to Finish Strong - COLOSSIANS 1:10-12

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%207&version=AMP

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DasqYiQK7HQ

JNB
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Post by JNB » Sun Jan 13, 2008 7:08 am

Sister,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm sorry also for your loss. You know exactly what I'm going through and welcome your prayers.It's funny I feel like I'm 16 years old instead of a grown woman.I believe that it's so much worse because I think for the first time I was really in love, head over heels till death do us part, although we were not married. Maybe because for the first time in my life I knew what I wanted. I felt it with my heart, soul and spirit. I thought that we had struggled so long trying to be together that God had somehow blessed us. So, when things didn't work out that way, well it seems to have shaking me to my soul. Although i can't see the other side yet, the side that gets better, the one that for a good reason, I know it's out there. I'm hoping with all your prayers it will happen sooner then later. I hope it does the same for you all and thank you once again and please keep praying for me as i will with you.

Beth

JNB
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Post by JNB » Sun Jan 13, 2008 7:11 am

Sister,
Sorry, I forgot to tell you the time. I'm on the east coast and we pray at 10 at night just match it up with your and you'll be all set. Thanks again

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Post by *D* » Sun Jan 13, 2008 7:35 am

LCE,what you said about your husband leaving you for another woman after your anniversary of over 20 years. i have been in your shoes and let me tell you that it did cause me to have panic and anxiety and agrophobia in 2004. but thank GOD those days and the panic and other have left..i have since moved on with my life and GOD brought into my life a wonderful woman who is now my wife. my ex had ran around all our marriage..we were married in 1970 and i left in 2001..GOD has a master plan for our lives and if he sis it for me he will do it for you..just keep holding on and he will answer your prayer...if you are in the progam you will have the skills and tools to go on your journey to where ever it takes you...age is not a problem and there is someone out there that GOD will bring your way if that is your desire..take care and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and GOD BLESS.
DON
P.S. read my profile and it will help you understand a little of what i went through and over came and that is only the tip of the iceberg...

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Post by *D* » Sun Jan 13, 2008 7:39 am

i forgot to add this and i am sorry. after reading all your post i saw where you asked GOD to send your husband home. i prayed for that in my first marriage and my prayers were answered and she left again and again...
it only made it worse. the 2nd marriage i tried to hang in there and cried like a baby..i never questioned GOD ..my wife now we liked each other in the 7th and 8th grade. she lived in another state and we did not even know each other existed...see how things work out for them that love GOD...may you find happiness and peace...thanks for listening and you can and will come out stronger then when you went it..
don

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Post by JNB » Mon Jan 14, 2008 10:44 am

To all who have prayed for me and us all, thank you.
I think today I took a step in the right direction( I think). I have been struggling with this break up. The main reason that my anxiety had returned was I think because of this man. We had for 4 years come together then split apart. I never knew if i was in or out. I watched what I said and did.
This past new Year's he did it to me once again after having started talking again for about 3 months, prior to that i had stayed away for 8 months.This man is my weakness I know that now, more then ever. I think I realized when we started talking again that i had changed in those 8 months. I just couldn't handle his abusive words any longer. I tried being just a friend, but can't do it love him to much.He started with picking fights, and accusing me of things and i couldn't take it. I think I have wanted to get out, but am so much in love or whatever it is that I stayed and put up with it. I just couldn't let him go,I got to the point of lowering myself to begging him to stay.
He's, I believe my addiction. Any word or anything from him would make me happy. If I didn't talk or see him it would put me into anxiety. He would call when and if he felt like it, never i guess caring what effect it had on me. Those 8 months apart almost killed me and just when I was getting used to it I met someone else. I really like this guy and it was the first man I'd met that I could forget about the other. I think I got scared of that and reach out to my ex and things started again. On a kinda friendly, but not so friendly tone. I again sunk back into depression and anxiety. I know i wanted out ,but was and am so afraid of the pain that I couldn't let go.
TODAY, TODAY,I told him that I need to be away from him. I need to walk away and not come back because he does not love me. You do not treat someone you love with pain. I forgave him for the hurt he caused me and asked to be forgiven for the hurt I may have caused him in return. He did not reply to forgiving me but I'm ok with that. that's the way he is. Anyway, I told him since I've met him I've lost myself in him and I need to be normal again so I WALKED away on my own. I feel so horrible and so terribly sad, but there's a little tiny bit of I"M SO PROUD OF MYSELF!
I'm crying writing this, but I'm proud. I pray that I can stick to the letting go and thank you all for your prayers and those that wrote me with kind understanding words. I ask you to continue to pray for me because I am sacred to death that I won't get through this. I'm scared that I will break down and call or text him. It's even harder because he works in my town and I see him all the time. So, I beg you to pray for strength to carry on.

Beth

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Post by cfe » Mon Jan 14, 2008 4:38 pm

I want to thank you all for praying for me, I went to church, sunday I gave up all my preconcevied conseptions of that church, and those people, because God was going with me, I wan't going alone. I enjoyed the Sunday School class, I enjoyed the Sermon, I didn't even get sleepy. and when I got home My husband asked me "did you get the Good Word" I answered yes, and he said "good you can relate it to me" I was shocked, I think maby he was being sarchastic a little, but I did it. I sat rite down, and realted it all to him I even remembered the bible verses, and I read them to him. He has never opend the door that far before, he actually listened, I was carefull to only talk during camircials so he didn't miss any great playes, or any of his football game. I feel so sure God is "doing a new thing" I am getting excited that my husband may even go to church with me one day, I certainly had a wonderfull breakthrough on Suchday. I had fought not to go, my pride, my phobias, had held me back. but when I steped out of that boat, God took me and lead me, through the miryclay, and set my feet on the rock again.

Grace for the test; by Joyce Meyer
One time an old saint and a yourger believer were in prison awaiting their execution the next day when they would be burned at the stake. As the yournger man struck a match to light a candle, he burned his finger. Yelling in pain, he began to weep in agony and doubt, saying, "If it hurts this much now to burn my finger, how can I possibly stand to be burned at the stake tomarrow!" the old saint, filled with the wisdom of God, answered, "Son, God didn't ask you to burn your finger, but He is asking you to die for His glory, In the morning when it is time for you to face the fire, His grace will be there to see you through that test." As we live on day at a time, His grace will always be sufficient.
<span class="ev_code_RED">There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bare it - 1 Corinthians 10;13 KJV
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I am praying for all of us tonight, that we remember when God askes us to do anything, we must believe He has already made the way, He has sent His angels ahead to make straight our path, and even when He leads us into the wilderness, He has a plan, "to prospor us and not to harm us" Fiath is being afraid, not wanting to do it, and knowing it is what God wants, doing it any way, Do It Afraid, for His grace is sufficient for us, because He loves us as much as He Loved His Son, He sacrificed Him to save us, we are precious and He charishis us that much, may we all accept His love and His commision. To Love Him with all we are, and to be nice to eachother. in Jesus precious name, amen
Cheri {8^) keep looking up ~!~ BLESSED ARE THE CRACKED FOR THEY LET IN THE LIGHT

'Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option'.
"What you are is God's gift to you, and what you do with what you are is your gift to God" Too Blessed to be Stressed!!! May Grace and Mercy be multiplied to you.

Lord Help me to Finish Strong - COLOSSIANS 1:10-12

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%207&version=AMP

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DasqYiQK7HQ

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