Support circle for depression

Hortense · Post by **Hortense** » Wed May 06, 2009 2:36 pm

Hey pecos I am suffering from depression. I think this program really attacks depression as well.

I just started a month ago and my depression seems to be lifting.

Take care

kluthy · Post by **kluthy** » Thu May 07, 2009 5:33 am

my wife and i lost a baby a about 3 and a half months into the term. that was a year ago. and sinse then i have found out that my sperm count is to low to get pregnant on our own. and in the last two months our fertilty dc has injected her with my sperm and it hasent worked. but the 1st time my counts were really low which barely gave us a chance but the second time they doubled so he wants to try 1 more time before he takes another option on. this has killing me emotionly and have been strugglin with depresion ever cinse. i just dont know what to do or how to stay possitive anymore.this whole process just hurts so much has anyone gone through this and could give me some advice or anything to keep me possitive

lucie · Post by **lucie** » Thu May 07, 2009 6:56 am

So sorry for your loss. I joined this forum after a miscarriage as well. The program works to provide a structure to relieve stress, anxiety and depression. There is a grieving process in the loss of a child, and you are in the middle of it. Fortunately, the support on the forum and the tapes will help you through this. Invite your wife to join in as well. You will have good days and bad days, but don't lose hope....believe it will happen.

It took me over a year, but conceived and now have a very happy 6 month old. Believe it will happen! What helped me was visualization of what I saw my future to be. I have to honestly tell you, it was a tough road. I lost a lot of weight and the stress was hard. Every month you relive the loss. This will pass. I will pray for your family and send 'hope' your way.

I also worked with an infertility accupuncture specialist. If you search on-line in your home town, this might also be an option for you.

Take care and try to take time for yourself,
Lucie

CG822 · Post by **CG822** » Thu May 07, 2009 11:58 am

I am glad you are great TNL!!! I hope everyone is remaining positive! we are all in this together..

ashyp · Post by **ashyp** » Wed May 13, 2009 7:47 pm

hi everyone I just found this circle today and am so happy you created it because depression is my main problem too! I have really horrible thoughts and feelings daily though I don't know if it is depression thoughts or just scary negative thoughts! Can anyone help me out? I think daily what is the point of life? Like why would someone do that its pointless or why get ready? Why go to school its all pointless where is it going to get me why are we even alive I just don't get it and I feel really afraid and panicky I obsess over these thoughts daily! Anyone relate or can help me figure out if this is a depression problem or just scary obsessive thoughts?

Hopeful321 · Post by **Hopeful321** » Thu May 14, 2009 1:54 pm

I definately want to be a part of this circle. I let depression get worse for the last 20 years. I ordered this program about 10 years ago, but never really started until now. I hate to admit it, but I had started feeling like I was completely hopeless and that life had no meaning.I've started to feel a little better since starting tape 1 this week. But I can't stop the process.I need to be held accountable. I HAVE TO do this program.

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Fri May 15, 2009 2:56 am

ashyp -- scary obsessive thoughts were certainly a component of my depression, and in my experience they often go together. Session 10 has excellent homework which opens this up and walks you through that door. Valuable information in the homework throughout this program.
Hopeful321, you're on the right track. If we don't hold ourselves accountable, we aren't going to do the hard work of overcoming depression. Think of the sessions as your guide on the journey out of anxiety and depression. Then give yourself permission and go for it.
Best to all.

CG822 · Post by **CG822** » Sat May 16, 2009 9:20 am

Hey Everyone!!!

I hope we are all doing good....I am still stuck on trying to let someone go!!!! I just cant get him out of my head and Im asking God to show me how to let go and move on. I know we wont be anything, Its like I have OCd when it comes to men. Im compulsive to text message them and I know they dont want to hear from me...Im tryin!!! Feesback would be great

God bless everyone...

Hopeful321 · Post by **Hopeful321** » Sat May 16, 2009 5:42 pm

Hi guys, I was bad yesterday. I didn't do any of my journals, relaxation. Nothing. Today will be better. I have a problem of getting stuck on social media like Facebook. I HATE it. I guess because I have low self esteem, and it connects me with people I really don't feel comfortable communicating with again. I want to cancel my Facebook account, but my work has me there for professional reasons. But my old high school people and everybody is on there too. I'm a low key person, and truly don't get some of the sites , yet I'm on it and Twitter, and two other sites as well. I feel like I'm under a microscope. Status updates, and what are you doing updates. It's like I hate it, but it's addictive.I feel safe here because no one is judging me. Anyway, I spent all day upset about how rude one poster was to this other poster on this parenting site I'm on. And after attempting to defend people I don't even know, they were still just as rude and never changed their opinion. It's amazing to me how people are so heartless because I go out of my way to be liked(people pleaser). I guess I expect people to be fair and to be nice.Later in the program I believe they deal with how to expect less and get more. Thanks pecos for the encouragement. CG822, do you think this guy is your "safe" person like Lucinda talks about? I have a "safe" person who is really not good for me, but I've distanced myself until I can be strong enough to let go completely.In the program I'm starting to see that the only reason I am with this person is because I have low self esteem. But I know now that I deserve a lot better, so I'm cutting it back until I can cut it out. Sometimes we just have to take it where we are at the time.

ashyp · Post by **ashyp** » Sun May 17, 2009 4:18 pm

Good advice everyone and thanks pecos for the advice.
I am on session 10 now and dealing with scary obsessive thoughts and I am obsessing now that if I don't tell someone my obsessive thought that it will make me more sick, that is my obsessive thought about my obsessive thoughts. So here it goes I had a thought about I guess sexual identity I don't know if in class we talked about it that da or what but I started obsessing that what if I turn homosexual can you just turn that way? Then that night I had a dream that I was ingaged in sexual activities with one of my good friends and felt it was not wrong so that freaked me out but I know I am not hetersexual I have a bf who I am reall into but just had to get that off my chest! Oh and also any advice on obsessing that my bf doesn't care? Its like if he doesn't do one thing that I feel he should have I blow up and feel he doesn't care and we get into a huge fight! And I also feel that I can do certain things and he can't I am just overly jealous I think1 Anyone else?