Fear Of Someone Cheating Or Abandonment

firefly3 · Post by **firefly3** » Tue May 13, 2008 11:22 am

hello all

im in a relationship that has almost hit the 2 year mark. Up until feb. it has been amazing! But reciently my boyfriend has started to withdraw. He used to talk about marriage all the time, and now he says he doesnt know if he wants to get married, he said it wasnt me, but it was the thought of marriage itself... reciently I found a chat he had with some girl he knew from college, he asked why they didnt date at school (when we were together) and he told her she was the prettiest girl at the school (I didnt go there)... I confronted him and told him it was mean and nor fair to me, he agreed that it was unfair. My gut tells me that he is cheating on me, but I dont know if that is just because I have anxiety over that... I dont want to give up, but Im scared he doesnt want to try... an suggestions?

shannen1234 · Post by **shannen1234** » Sun Jun 22, 2008 7:29 pm

I have a fear of trusting men. But it is with people in general also. I don't feel like someone would be faithful to me and actually be nice to me. I do agree that it is hard to find someone. I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. It was the worst time of my life, I tried to get away many times and he just would not leave me alone. He still doesn't leave me alone. I don't know what to do. Of course he is nice to me now but that is only because he wants to be back together with me so he can be mean to me. But I still find myself talking to him sometimes because I am so lonely. I have few friends and the ones I have are married and have kids and have no time for me. When they do talk to me its so I can listen to their problems. Well I am sick of it. If I get rid of my friends and stop talking to the exboyfriend then who will I have to talk to. I am so lonely I can't stand it. I wonder if I will ever stop feeling like this and find someone who will actually love me for who I am.