) to lean on for support. My girl is doing great, really really well. Basically no pain ( a little cramping) but overal fantastic.
Thank you again,
Deb
Support circle for depression
Lloyd.r,
I just wanted to let you know that I am a recovering alcoholic and I feel your pain. I also self-medicated to try and cope. It only made things worse as I'm sure you know. I can tell you that AA saved my life, literally. I totally need this program but there is no way I could work it if I wasn't sober. There are different AA meetings all over the place, (you can even find them online)each one has a different feel. Some are full of serious people and some are full of people who love to laugh but still take their sobriety seriously. I found my haven in one where the people like to laugh. Don't get me wrong, we cry too, but mostly we figure we didn't get sober to be miserable right?
It is awesome you are doing this program and I am finding there are some wonderful, caring, supportive and encouraging people here. Maybe after working this program and seeing how the supportive atmosphere heals you and helps you grow you will try and get support for your drinking also. I know how hard it is to quit drinking alone, and I know the destruction alcohol brings to an alcoholic's life in every aspect. It makes no sense but we continue to drink despite the obvious devastation it causes. It is a battle too big to fight alone.
I wish I could say my depression and anxiety disappeared when I quit drinking but it didn't. Life got better but like my drinking, my anxiety and depression are an enemy too big to fight alone.
Hope you see this, and take care,
Deb
I just wanted to let you know that I am a recovering alcoholic and I feel your pain. I also self-medicated to try and cope. It only made things worse as I'm sure you know. I can tell you that AA saved my life, literally. I totally need this program but there is no way I could work it if I wasn't sober. There are different AA meetings all over the place, (you can even find them online)each one has a different feel. Some are full of serious people and some are full of people who love to laugh but still take their sobriety seriously. I found my haven in one where the people like to laugh. Don't get me wrong, we cry too, but mostly we figure we didn't get sober to be miserable right?
It is awesome you are doing this program and I am finding there are some wonderful, caring, supportive and encouraging people here. Maybe after working this program and seeing how the supportive atmosphere heals you and helps you grow you will try and get support for your drinking also. I know how hard it is to quit drinking alone, and I know the destruction alcohol brings to an alcoholic's life in every aspect. It makes no sense but we continue to drink despite the obvious devastation it causes. It is a battle too big to fight alone.
I wish I could say my depression and anxiety disappeared when I quit drinking but it didn't. Life got better but like my drinking, my anxiety and depression are an enemy too big to fight alone.
Hope you see this, and take care,
Deb
Hey all,
Been a couple of days since I've been on here. I'm doing well though. I got my kit the night before Thanksgiving. I didn't have time to do anything but listen to my relaxation CD a few times between Wed. eve and today. I do have to say though that they are great. I did try to listen to the audio session and I fell asleep. I didn't think I was that tired but I must have been.
I haven't had a Dr. Pepper in two days... THAT'S HUGE for me. I typically drink one 20oz a day (no wonder I've put on weight these past couple of years). I didn't have time to go get one yesterday and today when I was at the store a woman was walking out as I was walking in and she pulled a 20 oz. Dr. Pepper out of her shopping bag. At first I thought oh I could go for one of those. Then I stopped and thought for a second and told myself instead, they just make you more anxious and they make you fat. I deserve to be nicer to myself than that. If I'm really thirsty (which I was not upon further thought) get a bottle of water.
I was also at the store to buy a big ticket item... our family Christmas gift (the kids are each getting one other small thing and their stockings) and I was feeling overwhelmed with all they were trying to sell me. So here's what I did. I simply asked them to hold it all for me and I left for nearly an hour. I went home (we live nearby) and consulted with my husband about what we should get and then went back and put some stuff back and got some other stuff instead and then checked out. I also stuck to our budget using this trick. Had I paid the first time I was in there I would have been 80 dollars over budget thinking I needed all the stuff they were trying to sell me. Now granted we'll want to go back and get the stuff I put back, but we've got enough to keep us occupied for now and well work up to the other stuff.
Oh yeah and I did our Turkey Trot today (2K). For those of us not used to Kilometers that 1.2 miles. I walked it with my 3 yo who was insistent on doing so... until he got tired a few hundred feet in. So I walked nearly 5/8 of a mile with my 40 pound child on my back. So that was a workout! We had fun though and my 13 yo ran the 5k and had a personal best of 23 minutes. So I had a great day.
I'll try my audio session again tomorrow.
Been a couple of days since I've been on here. I'm doing well though. I got my kit the night before Thanksgiving. I didn't have time to do anything but listen to my relaxation CD a few times between Wed. eve and today. I do have to say though that they are great. I did try to listen to the audio session and I fell asleep. I didn't think I was that tired but I must have been.
I haven't had a Dr. Pepper in two days... THAT'S HUGE for me. I typically drink one 20oz a day (no wonder I've put on weight these past couple of years). I didn't have time to go get one yesterday and today when I was at the store a woman was walking out as I was walking in and she pulled a 20 oz. Dr. Pepper out of her shopping bag. At first I thought oh I could go for one of those. Then I stopped and thought for a second and told myself instead, they just make you more anxious and they make you fat. I deserve to be nicer to myself than that. If I'm really thirsty (which I was not upon further thought) get a bottle of water.
I was also at the store to buy a big ticket item... our family Christmas gift (the kids are each getting one other small thing and their stockings) and I was feeling overwhelmed with all they were trying to sell me. So here's what I did. I simply asked them to hold it all for me and I left for nearly an hour. I went home (we live nearby) and consulted with my husband about what we should get and then went back and put some stuff back and got some other stuff instead and then checked out. I also stuck to our budget using this trick. Had I paid the first time I was in there I would have been 80 dollars over budget thinking I needed all the stuff they were trying to sell me. Now granted we'll want to go back and get the stuff I put back, but we've got enough to keep us occupied for now and well work up to the other stuff.
Oh yeah and I did our Turkey Trot today (2K). For those of us not used to Kilometers that 1.2 miles. I walked it with my 3 yo who was insistent on doing so... until he got tired a few hundred feet in. So I walked nearly 5/8 of a mile with my 40 pound child on my back. So that was a workout! We had fun though and my 13 yo ran the 5k and had a personal best of 23 minutes. So I had a great day.
I'll try my audio session again tomorrow.
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Wow the vilift looks great but I can't afford that. It seems like that along with this program would do wonders for us all. I also have to say I'm a little peeved at that pricing. It doesn't cost that much to purchase those herbs and the capsules are less than a penny each so it seems if the company really wanted to help people and not just make a ton of money they'd price them where more people could buy them. If they set the price lower and really wanted to help people they'd make so much more money it wouldn't even be funny. That's just sad.
debchance,
Thank you for sharing. It's nice to hear from someone who also battled the bottle. I am also glad to hear your daughter is doing well. Nothing worse than watching your child suffer. I tried AA a couple times but those particular groups didn't fit. I may try again if I can't stay sober.
I am starting session 3 tomorrow. I'm already aware of all the negative self talk and how that keeps me depressed. I've made a real effort to stay positive, stop the negative talk, and i'm feeling so much better. Lucinda is so right-we are our worst enemy and we make ourselves sick with our thoughts. My 17 yr old daughter gave me a great complement on Sat. I was acting a little goofy on Fri and Sat so she asked what is wrong with me, because I wasn't crabby all the time like usual.
Thank you for sharing. It's nice to hear from someone who also battled the bottle. I am also glad to hear your daughter is doing well. Nothing worse than watching your child suffer. I tried AA a couple times but those particular groups didn't fit. I may try again if I can't stay sober.
I am starting session 3 tomorrow. I'm already aware of all the negative self talk and how that keeps me depressed. I've made a real effort to stay positive, stop the negative talk, and i'm feeling so much better. Lucinda is so right-we are our worst enemy and we make ourselves sick with our thoughts. My 17 yr old daughter gave me a great complement on Sat. I was acting a little goofy on Fri and Sat so she asked what is wrong with me, because I wasn't crabby all the time like usual.
Hey all, I just had my "name" changed from Lloyd r to mr mom so I can have some anonymity in case my wife joins up or I sign in from a work computer and get checked up on. Hope I'm not confusing everyone.
Feeling very tired today, not as charged up as I had been lately. Listened to the 3rd session for the 1st time. Sounds like a lot of work but very life changing. My negativity is starting to question the validity of the work, if it is all a bunch of mumbo jumbo psycho babble.
It seems to good to be true. But, I shall forge ahead tomorrow, little note book in hand. I hate where I've been, so I am keeping the faith. And praying more for help. Good night.
Feeling very tired today, not as charged up as I had been lately. Listened to the 3rd session for the 1st time. Sounds like a lot of work but very life changing. My negativity is starting to question the validity of the work, if it is all a bunch of mumbo jumbo psycho babble.
It seems to good to be true. But, I shall forge ahead tomorrow, little note book in hand. I hate where I've been, so I am keeping the faith. And praying more for help. Good night.
Thank you Pecos, MontysMom and Debchance for the welcome. It's been a few days since I've checked in. Debchance, I'm sorry about your daughter but it seems to be going ok. I will still says a prayer for good recovery.
I was wanting some opinions, this past weekend I've slipped quite a few steps back into depression. I'm on my second week of session 3, I just can't seem to get it. My mind races on how inferior I am and I feel like I can't win. I am loosing my life. I am wondering if it would be a good time to turn to depression meds. Have they worked for anyone? I'm afraid to take them but I'm am just done. I can't live like this anymore. This is not life! I am nowhere near suicide, I just don't know what else to do.
I was wanting some opinions, this past weekend I've slipped quite a few steps back into depression. I'm on my second week of session 3, I just can't seem to get it. My mind races on how inferior I am and I feel like I can't win. I am loosing my life. I am wondering if it would be a good time to turn to depression meds. Have they worked for anyone? I'm afraid to take them but I'm am just done. I can't live like this anymore. This is not life! I am nowhere near suicide, I just don't know what else to do.
fordtb&me,
I've been on and off prozac for 18 years, and yes it worked for me. I'd rather not take anything either but when the thoughts turn to giving up because life doesn't seem worth living anymore, then it was time for some chemical help. I was never close to suicide, but it did cross my mind a lot.
I just started session 3 and also slipped back a little. The negative stream running through my head just seems unstoppable and is depressing. That just shows me how bad I need to change my thinking, so I am going to keep working on it regardless of how daunting it seems or how long it takes. Are you writing down the negative thoughts? If your good friend was feeling like you are, what would you tell them? Tell yourself the same thing. Be compassionate with yourself. We all deserve better than this depressing state we keep ourselves in. Hang in there.
I've been on and off prozac for 18 years, and yes it worked for me. I'd rather not take anything either but when the thoughts turn to giving up because life doesn't seem worth living anymore, then it was time for some chemical help. I was never close to suicide, but it did cross my mind a lot.
I just started session 3 and also slipped back a little. The negative stream running through my head just seems unstoppable and is depressing. That just shows me how bad I need to change my thinking, so I am going to keep working on it regardless of how daunting it seems or how long it takes. Are you writing down the negative thoughts? If your good friend was feeling like you are, what would you tell them? Tell yourself the same thing. Be compassionate with yourself. We all deserve better than this depressing state we keep ourselves in. Hang in there.
ForDTB&Me, I am sorry you are sliding back to depression. I would like to strongly encourage you to go ahead and finish up with Session Three and move on to Four. Allow me a few moments here to explain why. The sessions are stepped. That means they are provided with specific gradients in mind. Every single day of the rest of this program will require you to keep practicing Session Three skills. The methods you are learning in this program have been around for a very, very long time. Some of the techniques are as old as Socrates. I won't say which, but you might have fun later, when you are finished, reading about Socrates, and you'll see what I mean. These are not psycho babble tricks. The sessions impart skills you would otherwise need to spend quite a while longer than a year in therapy to achieve. As for recovering from depression, I do believe you can do this without meds. However, that decision is up to you and your doctor. Remember to never slack on homework. The homework part of this program is the "doing" part. Without the practice here, you will not see full benefits. I also believe in journaling. Journaling is an old therapy tool, and it has been around a long time, too, because it works. I hope you will think about moving on to Four. If you have problems with any specific things, post in your peer support area. Keep us posted with your progress. Kind regards.