Dear Diary

[Paisleegreen]

Tina, you are so funny! I love how you talk about Roomie! You are such a crack up! Thanks again for all your kind words and advice. Ah...so now you will have Roomie with you constantly, now you will know what I go through.

J, should have a wonderful time! I can't wait to hear back from her.

[Loveslife]

Tina, You are so funny. Paislee is right. I suspect that upon retirement you will find a million reasons to leave your house, or a million projects for him to do.

I'm all packed and ready to go to LA tomorrow. I'll be spending all of my time with my two nephews and my niece, my brother and his wife. We are making it a family fun filled weekend, but our itinerary is quiet full, as my nephew is graduating from Pomona, which is just outside of LA.

I hope to spend time singing songs, as my niece is bringing her guitar, and I would love to see Santa Monica, as I've never been there before. I'll be back Monday, but will have my ipad to check in on everyone.

Take care all. I hope M. finds her way to the site. She can't remember her user name or password, but she does have her email.
If you have any ideas, post them here, as I think she can read what we post here, because I sent her the link.

Au Voir ....
J.

[Paisleegreen]

Have fun, J!

[tina martin]

Glad I made you smile. We know, though, what can (and often does) lurk beneath the attempt at comedy. Retirement isn't here at the moment, but no doubt is coming. So will a host of other trials as life winds down.

J, on a cheerier note, don't forget to experience the vegetation in that part of the country. Try to walk amidst the fragrances of jasmine, gardenia, and roses. And be sure to see bougainvillae. Happy traveling.

[SoWhatif]

T, I wish you many new treasures ahead. Will it be the "honey due this list" ?
And the Training is aall important my dear, as I know you know.

There is a little bird that tells me all will be well. My vote is on you.

On a side note, Dr. K posted this on foxnews about depression and dimentia. You may have seen it, I am going to pursue it with Mom.
http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/05/1 ... epression/

[SoWhatif]

P, your being awfully quiet or is it me? How is retraining the old dogs going?
As J so very wisely stated #1 is taking care of you. It is a fact that your out numbered. Don't let that get ya down. A idea might be tell DS that if he does not pass his grades then he will be paying rent. He should allready be containing his stuff to a agrred area. Another option is garage privilages being limited or...The sky is the limit with ideas, remember the key is accountability from them.
Not sure how to put into words other than for me to just say that you are counteracting your strength or step forward when telling yourself that the boys are overworked. Please give thought to my reasoning. The lack of dicipline from the boys is causing the enviroment for you to give pity, and then enableing, it is the reaction being used thus it's neutralizing or making it harder for you to be assertive and feel positive to move forward. From reading it is like 1 forward and two steps back or even 3 some days.
Are you able to isolate the cause of the step back? Then the opposite reaction is second guessing and we know where we go with that stuff. As a rule your first instinctive thought is the correct one follow thru with it. Accept no excuses. The Men are acting like boys to be blunt.
Way back it was mentioned the importance of having a "your" place or room in "your" house. That is part of taking care of #1. Tell them to make it happen yesterday. I will send a Angel your way for some moral support and a assurance that the battle becomes fair.
Alot a little things can become un mmangegeable, I can't type, da.. If your busy putting out spot fires then it robs of time to manage the whole. Try delegating with exspected results and deducts when the goals are not met.

As allways do not take my advise without checking with your counsel. And it is with a love for your well being.

May I be so bold to say do it for your departed son? I remember you saying he came to your defence, to me that is a God given blessing and may give the strength and focas so deeply yearned for.
Be safe.
r

[SoWhatif]

J watch out for the lunitics. I Do hope it is a needed pleasure for you.

The wife and daughters went to time square this wkend with the granddaughter to see a play and have a girls wkend away.
Makes me nervous. I am sure there having a great time.

[SoWhatif]

Slap me with a wet noodle.

J, M can use a different email address and creat a new user. Go to gmail, yahoo, or wherever is handy and free.
Create a new username and password. Sorry I kept forgetting to post away for her to get in.

If she is watching then, Hi M.

[Loveslife]

I am in LA having a fantastic week with my brother and his family and even my husband has been great.

Today we went to The Santa Monica Pier, played Bocelli ball, family volley ball and frisbee. We had a barbecue, and I just came in from the hot tub.

The best part, is, drumroll... ( R already knows my secret)

I have decided to follow my dream. ( I have always been too shy to put it in words, but my sister in law and Federica and the book will not let this rest.

I am going back to college, earn my degree and become a nurse. My family is standing behind me, encouraging me, and husband said that he will let me do this. I am So happy!!!

Tomorrow my darling nephew graduates from Pomona, and then we fly home Monday.

Yes Tina, the bougainvillea ...sigh. So exquisite.

Love to all... Imagine. College and nurse.

[tina martin]

Nice to hear from you, R. I thought you took up residence in your quad in the woods. Thanks for the link. The R word has not come up again since I turned white and almost fainted in front of him. I may need electro shock treatments. For now I keep telling him how great he looks going off to work.

J you are unbelievable in your energy and ambition. Hats off to you. P. the advice from R is so correct. Hope you are OK.