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I am amazed at the love and support I see from you all on here. I too, have gotten very angry about this program-I actually re-packaged it and put it back in the box and stuck it in my closet. I was afraid of it because it just sounds so simple it doesn't seem realistic that it would work. But, from what I've read in these forums, many, many people have recovered. I feel if all these other people can recover, then so can I. I am so tired of beating myself up and living under a black cloud of depression. I've got to do something because I am at the bottom-the top is all I have left. Ms. T Bones, I love what you wrote about nurturing your inner-child, I know that is something I need to do because I have been terribly abused throughout my life and even though I've been through intense counseling, I don't think that my inner-child has healed because I don't feel like I love myself. I really want to, though. I look at people who have confidence and it makes me feel so inferior and I am tired of feeling that way. I am also tired of people walking all over me. I just want to get better and I think by the grace of God I have found a way. God Bless You All! Kelly
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Kelly...Please begin this program as soon as you get a chance...Believe me..It works...I was agoraphobic for years...It is a horrible thing to go through...I would call it "mental torture!"
I know how it is to live in a panic attack 24-7...
I don't want anyone to suffer as I have suffered.
So, please I am begging you; give this program a chance...May God Bless You On Your Journey To
Complete Recovery is my Prayer!!!!
I know how it is to live in a panic attack 24-7...
I don't want anyone to suffer as I have suffered.
So, please I am begging you; give this program a chance...May God Bless You On Your Journey To
Complete Recovery is my Prayer!!!!
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Kelly,
I know how you feel about feeling inferior. I did not go through abuse or anything but I felt my mother wanted me to be the best and I always felt inferior in school even though I did well. I did not think I could do things if asked and would panic. Many are not like us but I don't care anymore. So, what is we don't have confidence? It will not kill us and I really do not like to see someone with too much confidence because many seem arrogant. I like for people to l ove me and we know everyone won't, but with gentle kindness to others, I get more pleasure than ones with all the confidence. I know some that act confident but down deep, they are not and they are the ones miserable. Do not put yourself down. We wee all made special by God and no other is like us so we are special.
Please feel free to private email me or whatever.
jcat
I know how you feel about feeling inferior. I did not go through abuse or anything but I felt my mother wanted me to be the best and I always felt inferior in school even though I did well. I did not think I could do things if asked and would panic. Many are not like us but I don't care anymore. So, what is we don't have confidence? It will not kill us and I really do not like to see someone with too much confidence because many seem arrogant. I like for people to l ove me and we know everyone won't, but with gentle kindness to others, I get more pleasure than ones with all the confidence. I know some that act confident but down deep, they are not and they are the ones miserable. Do not put yourself down. We wee all made special by God and no other is like us so we are special.
Please feel free to private email me or whatever.
jcat
http://www.myspace.com/christinehufana
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Dear Jcat,
I am truly sorry you feel that you lack confidence in your abilities to overcome panic/anxiety attacks...I am sure you have the same amount of confidence as the rest of us.
I am no different from you, jcat, with the exception that I know that the program worked for me...I have never felt above anyone else, in fact, quite the opposite...I just try my best to encourage others who are suffering, because I truly care about other people, and I have been there, and I do know what it feels like...I am sorry if you took me the wrong way...We all have our share of problems in this life, but, I firmly believe that God allowed me to have panic attacks, and also to overcome them, in order to be of some kind of help to others...Never give up hope, jcat....You are so right...Each and every one of us is unique...and, I truly believe God uses other people to help us down through this journey of life...I know many people who have inspired me along this way, and Lucinda was one of them...I thank God that He blessed me to find the program...and, I do wish the very best for you that life has to offer..We are not different, jcat...we have suffered....May God Richly Bless You Is My Prayer....
I am truly sorry you feel that you lack confidence in your abilities to overcome panic/anxiety attacks...I am sure you have the same amount of confidence as the rest of us.
I am no different from you, jcat, with the exception that I know that the program worked for me...I have never felt above anyone else, in fact, quite the opposite...I just try my best to encourage others who are suffering, because I truly care about other people, and I have been there, and I do know what it feels like...I am sorry if you took me the wrong way...We all have our share of problems in this life, but, I firmly believe that God allowed me to have panic attacks, and also to overcome them, in order to be of some kind of help to others...Never give up hope, jcat....You are so right...Each and every one of us is unique...and, I truly believe God uses other people to help us down through this journey of life...I know many people who have inspired me along this way, and Lucinda was one of them...I thank God that He blessed me to find the program...and, I do wish the very best for you that life has to offer..We are not different, jcat...we have suffered....May God Richly Bless You Is My Prayer....
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If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.Originally posted by Ms. T Bones:
Dear Jcat,
I am truly sorry you feel that you lack confidence in your abilities to overcome panic/anxiety attacks...I am sure you have the same amount of confidence as the rest of us.
I am no different from you, jcat, with the exception that I know that the program worked for me...I have never felt above anyone else, in fact, quite the opposite...I just try my best to encourage others who are suffering, because I truly care about other people, and I have been there, and I do know what it feels like...I am sorry if you took me the wrong way...We all have our share of problems in this life, but, I firmly believe that God allowed me to have panic attacks, and also to overcome them, in order to be of some kind of help to others...Never give up hope, jcat....You are so right...Each and every one of us is unique...and, I truly believe God uses other people to help us down through this journey of life...I know many people who have inspired me along this way, and Lucinda was one of them...I thank God that He blessed me to find the program...and, I do wish the very best for you that life has to offer..We are not different, jcat...we have suffered....May God Richly Bless You Is My Prayer....
William Arthur Ward
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to jcat-I have felt inferior to other people almost my entire life, but I know it is because of some extreme abuse I suffered as a child. I have been to counseling for that and thought I had forgiven the person, but I think my problem is I have not forgiven myself. Victims often blame themselves for the abuse and I think that is my case, though I did nothing to deserve it. But how do I forgive myself? How do we stop feeling inferior? Sometimes I get so uncomfortable around people with a lot of self-confidence and I resent them for it because I think they maybe had an easy life. I don't know-I just want to get better. Write me back soon if you can, Kelly 
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I am not jcat...but, I just had to respond to this...I can assure you my life has been far from easy...How can anyone who lived in a panic attack for 21 years, and became agoraphobic say that any of that was easy...It was pure mental torture...And, I had a very difficult childhood...
We were very poor, and I actually thought my own mother hated me...I believed that until a few years ago....I know what it is like to feel inferior...To this day, there are certain people whom I feel very uncomfortable being around...I am not loaded with self-confidence, and that is okay...I am working on that one....I am just free from panic attacks, and for that I am very grateful...I worked on my child-hood issues by comforting the inner child within...I made a conscious decision to forgive those who had wronged me, and I would constantly say over and over; this person must have had major issues...This person had the problem, not me...That is their problem...not mine...I did this for my own sake..not theirs...and, I would repeat over and over all of my good qualities...I refused to be the victim of this party any more...I know longer wanted to allow this person to have any type of control of me...So, I chose not to victim-think...I would say the key to overcoming past abuses is comforting the inner-child, and knowing that you are a great person...and that you are not to blame...you are innocent and try and make a conscious decision to let the past go, and live in the moment...As long as you live in the past this person still has power over you...So, I think it would be wise to comfort that inner-child who was hurt and neglected, and to try and forgive your offender for your own peace of mind...You have no reason to feel inferior...You are intelligent and full of potential...You can do and be anyone you choose to be...and always remember...no-one is better than anyone else...so, you have no need to feel inferior....God Bless...
We were very poor, and I actually thought my own mother hated me...I believed that until a few years ago....I know what it is like to feel inferior...To this day, there are certain people whom I feel very uncomfortable being around...I am not loaded with self-confidence, and that is okay...I am working on that one....I am just free from panic attacks, and for that I am very grateful...I worked on my child-hood issues by comforting the inner child within...I made a conscious decision to forgive those who had wronged me, and I would constantly say over and over; this person must have had major issues...This person had the problem, not me...That is their problem...not mine...I did this for my own sake..not theirs...and, I would repeat over and over all of my good qualities...I refused to be the victim of this party any more...I know longer wanted to allow this person to have any type of control of me...So, I chose not to victim-think...I would say the key to overcoming past abuses is comforting the inner-child, and knowing that you are a great person...and that you are not to blame...you are innocent and try and make a conscious decision to let the past go, and live in the moment...As long as you live in the past this person still has power over you...So, I think it would be wise to comfort that inner-child who was hurt and neglected, and to try and forgive your offender for your own peace of mind...You have no reason to feel inferior...You are intelligent and full of potential...You can do and be anyone you choose to be...and always remember...no-one is better than anyone else...so, you have no need to feel inferior....God Bless...
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Ms. T Bones,
I can tell you from the way you write that I have a difficult time thinking of you as having had panic attacks. You seem so confident and well-balanced! I love your postings because they are full of hope! I know I need to nurture my inner-child, but how? I used to have a book about nurturing my inner child, but I don't know where it is. What steps do I take? I wrote myself a love letter the other night-it was really an eye-opener. I didn't realize I had so many good qualities until I really thought about it. I'm so used to putting myself down that it's hard to think of me having self-confidence. I just want to get better and stay better! Thank you for replying to my posting
I can tell you from the way you write that I have a difficult time thinking of you as having had panic attacks. You seem so confident and well-balanced! I love your postings because they are full of hope! I know I need to nurture my inner-child, but how? I used to have a book about nurturing my inner child, but I don't know where it is. What steps do I take? I wrote myself a love letter the other night-it was really an eye-opener. I didn't realize I had so many good qualities until I really thought about it. I'm so used to putting myself down that it's hard to think of me having self-confidence. I just want to get better and stay better! Thank you for replying to my posting
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Hi Kelly,
First of all, you must recognize that you have an inner child. Your inner child is the part of yourself that holds the pain and emptiness.
Make sure to reach out to your inner child. Use your imagination to try and remember what you looked like when you were an abused child. Finding pictures of yourself at certain ages and setting them somewhere where you can look at them often might help to refresh your memory. Imagine yourself being kind to the inner child. Visualize doing loving things for her, such as giving toys that she always wanted...Clean her up and give her something which smells nice to wear...because many inner children think of themselves as dirty because they have shame from the abuse...Do fun things for your inner child. Take your inner child on an outing...just have fun with her...Make sure to tell your inner child how much you love her...Make sure to comfort her, and tell her that the abuse was not her fault...that she is indeed a very beautiful, talented, caring, adorable child...Remember, as you heal your inner child, you heal yourself...Accept your inner child as a part of yourself....Remember you are the adult you and are perfectly capable of taking excellent care of the inner child...Accept your inner child...know that she is a part of you...Okay..know that you left the inner child behind to avoid the terrible pain she held...As your inner-child begins to heal from the pain, you can then become one with her...Remember, as the adult you heals your inner child you are actually healing your deepest emotional wounds...Remember to try and be patient...and make sure to hold this inner child close to you...Hug her really tight, and tell her how special, loving and kind she is...Tell her all the things you would tell your own child if he/she felt unloved...Tell her she is worthy of love...That she is safe, and that you will take excellent care of her...Let her know that the adult you is on this journey with her...and, that she will never ever be alone...make sure to let her know that she is safe now...and that adult you will always be there for her...This requires practice, practice, and more practice...
Remember the more we practice something...the better we get at it...May God Bless You On Your Journey To Recovery....
First of all, you must recognize that you have an inner child. Your inner child is the part of yourself that holds the pain and emptiness.
Make sure to reach out to your inner child. Use your imagination to try and remember what you looked like when you were an abused child. Finding pictures of yourself at certain ages and setting them somewhere where you can look at them often might help to refresh your memory. Imagine yourself being kind to the inner child. Visualize doing loving things for her, such as giving toys that she always wanted...Clean her up and give her something which smells nice to wear...because many inner children think of themselves as dirty because they have shame from the abuse...Do fun things for your inner child. Take your inner child on an outing...just have fun with her...Make sure to tell your inner child how much you love her...Make sure to comfort her, and tell her that the abuse was not her fault...that she is indeed a very beautiful, talented, caring, adorable child...Remember, as you heal your inner child, you heal yourself...Accept your inner child as a part of yourself....Remember you are the adult you and are perfectly capable of taking excellent care of the inner child...Accept your inner child...know that she is a part of you...Okay..know that you left the inner child behind to avoid the terrible pain she held...As your inner-child begins to heal from the pain, you can then become one with her...Remember, as the adult you heals your inner child you are actually healing your deepest emotional wounds...Remember to try and be patient...and make sure to hold this inner child close to you...Hug her really tight, and tell her how special, loving and kind she is...Tell her all the things you would tell your own child if he/she felt unloved...Tell her she is worthy of love...That she is safe, and that you will take excellent care of her...Let her know that the adult you is on this journey with her...and, that she will never ever be alone...make sure to let her know that she is safe now...and that adult you will always be there for her...This requires practice, practice, and more practice...
Remember the more we practice something...the better we get at it...May God Bless You On Your Journey To Recovery....