HELP ME - I am agoraphobic and my dad is in ICU...don't know how to go see him!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 4:59 am

Tell yourself that you are intentionally putting yourself in a situation that will cause you dizziness. You are now in the driver's seat. This is how you heal. You put yourself in situations that cause you distress. Use your tools. This is how you learn that YOU CAN HANDLE IT! You make it OK to be in these situations. You are now letting go of resistance and taking your life back. It gets easier and easier each time you do it.

Also, pay close attention to your father and his needs. This will help you to move through the experience.

Drop the guilt. There is no need for guilt. Have compassion for yourself. Nuture and soothe yourself through this entire experience. And, when this over remember to pat yourself on the back. It's not about doing something without anxiety. It's about doing it and moving through it. Feeling it and coming out the other side of it. Victory!!!!

We are all here for you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 4:12 pm

Just wanted to check in with you and see how your dad is doing. I am with you about hospitals--they scare the daylights out of me too. It seems like they suck all the air out of you when you go in one. But when you are really sick, you are thankful for them.

Hope all is going well with your dad.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 4:32 pm

I just wanted to drop in and say that I will pray for your dad!!! I have always been a "daddy's girl" too!!!

I lived 21 years being agoraphobic and I do have to tell you that there is absolutely nothing at all wrong with you!!!

Just take the excellent advice given here and put it into action!!!

Remember, you will not faint from a panic attack, no matter how dizzy you become!!!

If one could have fainted from a panic attack, then, I am sure that I would have, since, I lived in one for 21 years of my life in total fear!!!

Fear is just "false evidence appearing real"

No big deal, right???

When you know that you are causing the dizzy feelings by the negative scary thoughts that you have been thinking, then, I would say that you are well on your journey to recovery!!!

You are safe and you will not faint!!! So, go to that hospital and spend some quality time with your dad

God Bless You and Your Dad is My Prayer!!!