Ready to say GoodBye

[KAMO]

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I can only advise that you concentrate on yourself and your husband and children, if you have any. Don't worry about your parents - it is not up to you to change their way of thinking and only they can do that. Right now, think about yourself first and if it means staying away from your parents, then stay away. Don't go visit or call them if it upsets you. If you don't have God in your life, then get Him there now, right this minute. It will make all the difference in your life. If you have a pastor, talk to him in addition to your therapist. I pray that you will find your way out of this and become the person God meant for you to be. God bless you.

[tina martin]

Sorry to say but I am with your therapist. Repressed memories can sometimes be managed, but more often they need to be dealt with under professional care, professional supervision. They generally cannot be outdistanced. I was suicidal when I was young because I also had a nightmarish childhood, parents who were far too preoccupied with basic survival (World War II), unwanted, a burden, terrible conditions, leaving me essentially to fend for myself, ask for nothing. I muddled through with no help except my own mind: reading, thinking, learning, understanding and, finally, accepting.

You do have choices. Believe it or not, they are all good. They all lead to a better life for you. Trust yourself: you will make the right decisions for yourself. We are here to support you. We care about you.

[Healthy1]

It's been a while since you posted so I hope you are doing and feeling better. Just know that God loves you and is watching out for you and it sounds like your parents really messed up. I too have anxiety because I was abused as a child and as an adult and am still in therapy trying to work out my past but I believe with all of my heart and soul that even though I am giong through this there are soooo many things and people to be grateful for and I will never, ever let anyone take my power away from me ever again. Please don't let your parents or anyone else for that matter take your power away. YOu have too much to live for. Please trust your therapist and the doctors and do whatever it takes to help yourself get better. I want you to get better!

[Paisleegreen]

I hope too, pboston, that you are okay. I have never been physically abused like you have and I'm so sorry, you are a survivor, I don't know how I would have handles things, as I'm sensitive enough to just verbal disapproval from my parents and that affects me. They are gone now and I wish I had this place to go to back then.

This program works, but I agree with the others, you have gone through so much that Professional help is a must. I hope we hear from you soon and that you are doing better even if that means you are able to just be here. Also, I don't think you need to help your parents out either...they will survive on their own. You need to take care of you and just be with your own little family that care about you. Give yourself time to heal from the great abuse you suffered from. paislee

[Ksfrost]

Are you still out there? there has to be help out there for you. I went through cancer and thought I would die....life is worth living for......there has to be help for you......
K