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guitarrr
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Post by guitarrr » Tue May 25, 2010 2:15 pm

Yeah, thats what it was. I was kind of just used to texting or talking to her later after work. I kind of thought maybe she didn't wanna think about it during the work day but I guess I could have sent something. I felt bad and stuff after she was talking about it to me. But yeah, we are kinda, a lot different from one another. Last night we talked for awhile and I guess I was asking more about like her guy friends just so I could find out stuff. I sounded like jealous and maybe accusatory I think though, but I just immediately react to stuff sometimes. I don't really have a problem with it now but sometimes when I hear certain things I don't like I react badly, even when they aren't like explained right away or something. But anyway so we talked about other stuff because I'm kinda confused about our relationship or whatever. I guess I said that after a little while I would wanna feel like we are like in a relationship, if that makes sense. Cause we are just kind of more casual now. One reason is that I need to do an internship (and then get a job) and I don't know where I'm doing the internship yet or job. I wanna find someplace not too far but I'm not sure she would want to do a relationship if it's far at all. Just from things she's said. So idk, I guess I'll see and we'll keep talking, unless she got too turned off last night lol. I guess I just don't wanna be sort of tied to an area unless I feel like the relationship is worth it, I mean we def like each other and stuff but I guess I was concerned about that.

samcat
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Post by samcat » Wed May 26, 2010 9:58 am

Sounds like your first priority is your internship and future job, so maybe you should keep it casual until you find out about it. Long distance relationships are pretty hard to maintain.

guitarrr
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Post by guitarrr » Fri May 28, 2010 12:14 pm

Yeah, lol we talked about that and agreed about it. Thanks for your feedback on here, it's been very helpful. I have felt a lot better lately after this past weekend, because I was able to talk about my anxiety and stuff with her, and I guess that helped decrease it. I was talking to her monday night about that stuff in my last post, and it was really too soon to talk about those kind of issues that might come up. IT's hard for me to just let go sometimes and see where things go. But we understand eachother better now. We only have like, maybe some issues with understanding eachother at first like we misinterpret eachother sometimes but then we clear it up. We get along pretty well so far though, and I just feel better about stuff if I just kind of let go and relax instead of like what iffing or whatever.

samcat
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Post by samcat » Fri May 28, 2010 1:35 pm

Everybody misinterprets others at times--that is just part of being human. Sounds like you and this woman have pretty good communication to me and you have learned an important lesson that the program teaches--just be yourself, let go and relax. Sounds to me like you are doing just fine--keep up the good work!

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